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[spümpkin]

Well, she mostly left due to people relying on her too much, and she was tired of being a parent, which she has said to me on multiple occasions. I think she reached breaking point. And me being trans helped not at all, it made things much, much worse.

[spümpkin]

Yes, but I am the third, and youngest of three, one of which caused major disruption to both my family's financial situation and emotional situation, and I think she's tired of being a parent. I've known from the start, that being the youngest means you get the shittiest deal.

[BlackHeartKabal]

Ah, yes, the lovely oldest child perks of facing punishments under absurd reasoning or circumstances, only to watch your siblings evade punishment under the exact same circumstances for equally absurd reasoning. Also very little room for unorthodox behavior or mannerisms, since you have your siblings looking up to you.

Right, Digital, I only have my condolences to give. I generally don't respond to more delicate things like this, so I don't end up saying something stupid and making things worse, but you and others can generally assume that my support is there if it's something I'd rather delegate to someone more experienced.

[TheBiggerFish]

First off, Digital, it's not your fault.

Second off, *hugs.  hugs.  lots of hugs.*

Third off, I'm sorry I don't have better advice to give.

If you want to PM me my inbox is open.

[Orange Wizard]

...did she not understand that being a parent entails having people rely on you?

I think there's a lot of parents who don't understand that. But, yeah. Leaving's pretty rude. Have to wonder just how hard she's been taking things.

Are you going to cope okay, DD?

[spümpkin]

Well, I texted her, and she called me, saying it's not my fault, and how she has nothing left. We said our goodbyes, and I still blame myself. I don't know if, or how I'm going to cope. I don't even know why I'm living anymore? What is the point, in the end?

[TheBiggerFish]

*applies more hugs*

[NRDL]

Sincerest condolences Digital.  It's not your fault.  Absolutely not.  Please, please don't hurt yourself.  You've already been hurt enough.

[TheBiggerFish]

-Thank you DD, NRDL, OW, Amp, Magnumcannon, Rolan7.-

[spümpkin]

Well, she called again.. and she said that she was planning on coming back in a few days. but she doesnt think she will now and i said "i cant tell you what to do. but promise me, that youll come back so i can hug you one last time."

I'm going to stay strong, and not hurt myself. I'm just.... Kinda numb.

[NRDL]

*Hugpats BiggerFish

It's no one's job to help everybody.  You're not less important or less in need of reassurance than literally anybody else.  If not being able to help another human being counts as hurting them, then everyone who's ever lived has hurt everyone who's ever lived.  It doesn't make sense.  You didn't do anything wrong. 

[Orange Wizard]

~~~

Sounds like a crappy situation all 'round. I don't have any advice but you're welcome to PM me if you want to vent.

Please don't quote.

Don't fret over the things you can't change

[Amperzand]

*Hugs Fish*

Yo, nobody's perfect, but you at least seem to be trying in the right way. Don't let shit get you down.

[Magnumcannon]

@TBF if there is someone who really has helped me, it is you. (I mean, both in this thread and in that programming thread)

[TheBiggerFish]

Thank you.  All of you.
I'm feeling better now.