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[Kot]

RUN THE FUCK AWAY

Probably the best idea at this point.

Partially problematic considering that I'm kind of stuck in the same place for now. Hopefully nothing crazy will happen though.

[TheBiggerFish]

*pats Graknorke, Kot....*

Good luck to the both of you.

[chaotic skies]

Well, I'm officially done with my ex. No apology. No anything. Once you not only break up with me and then refuse to accept that I'm apologizing, and then go on to try to force one of my friends to date you, I'm done with you.

[Helgoland]

RUN THE FUCK AWAY

Probably the best idea at this point.

Partially problematic considering that I'm kind of stuck in the same place for now. Hopefully nothing crazy will happen though.

So was I with this one person. I tried to achieve just what you describe. It fucked me up immensely.

And apparently she 'still misses me as a friend', according to a mutual friend. And the existence of said mutual friend - among other things - is sort of making ignoring her entirely no longer a real option. I'll have to talk to her to figure out some liveable arrangement, but whatever that turns out to be, I'm staying the fuck away from her. There's no way in hell I'll go back to where I've been.


Be careful, is what I'm trying to tell you. Straight-up telling her that anything more than civil conduct when forced to be in one place is impossible probably is best.

[Vector]

-snip-

[Solifuge]

Seconding that. I don't have much to add, but a reminder to check yourself and make sure you can honestly be happy just being friends, or whether you're only really going to be happy if there's something more at the end of this. You have to assess whether you can be a friend, and whether she's actually someone you honestly want to be friends with. Former relationships can complicate attempts at going back to being friends, and may change your perspective on someone. Feelings are complicated like that.

But yeah, at the end of the day, you're the only one who knows your situation and her well enough to be able to make a judgement call here. I'm sorry it's hard; all the more reason to be cautious for your heart's sake. Just keep looking inside and being honest with yourself, and you can navigate through this.

Well, I'm officially done with my ex. No apology. No anything. Once you not only break up with me and then refuse to accept that I'm apologizing, and then go on to try to force one of my friends to date you, I'm done with you.

Not trying to be harsh here, but do be careful about apologizing to achieve an end; no one's obligated to respond the way you want them to just because you apologized. Whatever may have happened, apologizing doesn't erase responsibility or whatever damage was caused. It's fine to be angry. She may have rebounded to cover her hurt at the break up (it's generally hard on both sides), may have done it intentionally to hurt you in response to whatever happened, or may even have wanted to be with the other person from the start. Just like she doesn't have to forgive you, you don't have to forgive her either; it goes both ways, yeah?

I do wish you luck getting through this, though. It sounds rough.

[Tiruin]

I...personally believe 'run the f--- away' isn't the best general answer to situations like those
It's a tempting thought to indulge in just getting away from problems. But people aren't problems at their core. In part, it's what they've learned or how they know how to interact with what they sense (internal - emotions [and others], or external - observations and impressions [and others]). I don't think it's the best answer because it involves communication because of emotions--and there are times when emotions become really...powerful, that it seems some answers are a ton better than others before logic arrives. There's a lot of ways in how to communicate, and this is pretty much contextual as it is, so other than suggesting the best way he can handle it--suggest information he can use to handle it as he's the only one here who knows both context and the situation.

We only know the situation second-hand.

But to Kot (and anyone else related): Please don't address yourself demeaningly. That doesn't help anyone and yourself--but give you a wrong idea about yourself at the end. You may have made mistakes--that doesn't mean you get to call yourself the same level of low quality you think those mistakes mean. Acknowledging these things is far different from making an identity into these things. In this context, your thoughts follow what your best judgement makes. Please don't mistake yourself for anything worse--that's generally where impressions form; impressions that can be used to judge how you act in the future.

[chaotic skies]

I can't even explain this anymore. It's so much of a mess I can't even think of a way to explain how much of a mess it is. I will admit I messed up, big time. I'll also admit I reacted badly, and there's no excuse for that. Now, I'm just about to apologise, and I find out she's doing the one thing that I despise: She's trying to force someone to do something. That is the only thing that can cause me to never trust someone again. I'm mostly alright with people that pressure you a little, but stop when you say 'no'. But if you keep trying, that's just...nevermind. There are no words that sufficiently describe this. I guess I'm just too good or too nice for this place. I don't know. Somedays I want to run, and never stop, but that hasn't worked out that well in the past. I guess I'm just tired. Tired of not being able to sleep. Tired of being used. Tired of people trying to trick me. Tired of playing along. But if I don't, it'll break everything I've worked for. I don't really want to start over for the ump-teenth time.

[Emma]

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My friends are all fucking cunts. How do I know this? Because three times, in as many weeks, they have organised events right in front of me and not invited me to any of them. Today, for example, they went to watch Batman vs Superman at the movies, talked about where they were going to meet, what they were going to do and who was going right in front of me and didn't invite me, because they're cunts. They did the same thing a few weeks ago with Deadpool. I'm just about ready to sever ties with these people because they've done this sort of thing before and I'm getting real fucking tired of it, especially since whenever any of them have work they're having trouble with I'm the one they ask about it. Apparently I'm not good enough for them outside of work and homework. Fuck them.

[Reudh]

Spoiler: Spoilered for extreme profanity (click to show/hide)

My friends are all fucking cunts. How do I know this? Because three times, in as many weeks, they have organised events right in front of me and not invited me to any of them. Today, for example, they went to watch Batman vs Superman at the movies, talked about where they were going to meet, what they were going to do and who was going right in front of me and didn't invite me, because they're cunts. They did the same thing a few weeks ago with Deadpool. I'm just about ready to sever ties with these people because they've done this sort of thing before and I'm getting real fucking tired of it, especially since whenever any of them have work they're having trouble with I'm the one they ask about it. Apparently I'm not good enough for them outside of work and homework. Fuck them.

Sometimes you might need to put yourself out there. You can't expect people to remember 100% of the time.

[Amperzand]

It's possible they simply think you're disinterested in the subject matter. Certainly those around me would be unlikely to invite me to a Superman film. :V

[Helgoland]

My friends are all fucking cunts.

Man, I wish I was fucking cunts.

[Emma]

My friends are all fucking cunts.

Man, I wish I was fucking cunts.

I was a little angry. Don't make too much fun of me and my poor word choice.

[Yoink]

Well, the wait begins.
My train leaves just before 5am, the station is about to close and reopens at around 3am. I have to amuse myself outside until then. And preferably not get bashed/stabbed/abused in the meantime, of course.

At least I have my Ipod... but if I listen to that now, I won't have as much battery life left for the actual several-hour train ride itself. Not much decent reading light out here, either.

Edit: it wouldn't be so bad if I only had my backpack to keep track of, but I have a suitcase as well. It's not nearly as large as my other suitcase, but it's still quite heavy and would make going for a walk whilst I wait considerably less pleasant. I guess I could pull out its pull-handle and drag it around on wheels, but I'd feel self-conscious going for a walk accompanied by the sound of grinding plastic wheels.

[hops]

Girl/boy troubles are painful, and my heart goes out to Miauw/Kot/chaotic skies and others that I may have missed.

* Cinder hugs in a way that doesn't violate personal space.

Well, the wait begins.
My train leaves just before 5am, the station is about to close and reopens at around 3am. I have to amuse myself outside until then. And preferably not get bashed/stabbed/abused in the meantime, of course.

At least I have my Ipod... but if I listen to that now, I won't have as much battery life left for the actual several-hour train ride itself. Not much decent reading light out here, either.

Edit: it wouldn't be so bad if I only had my backpack to keep track of, but I have a suitcase as well. It's not nearly as large as my other suitcase, but it's still quite heavy and would make going for a walk whilst I wait considerably less pleasant. I guess I could pull out its pull-handle and drag it around on wheels, but I'd feel self-conscious going for a walk accompanied by the sound of grinding plastic wheels.

You should get an external battery. It's a good investment for us people who have to deal with their devices going flat on long trips.

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My friends are all fucking cunts. How do I know this? Because three times, in as many weeks, they have organised events right in front of me and not invited me to any of them. Today, for example, they went to watch Batman vs Superman at the movies, talked about where they were going to meet, what they were going to do and who was going right in front of me and didn't invite me, because they're cunts. They did the same thing a few weeks ago with Deadpool. I'm just about ready to sever ties with these people because they've done this sort of thing before and I'm getting real fucking tired of it, especially since whenever any of them have work they're having trouble with I'm the one they ask about it. Apparently I'm not good enough for them outside of work and homework. Fuck them.

Gah, those kind of friends. DX

I think the best way to go about it would be to talk directly to them about it.

* Cinder hugs