I vote a new 'Fuckability rankings' thread be opened!
something something bay12 photo share thread something something
Isn't that still even more against forum guidelines? This is bay12, not Tinder or Ashley Madison or whatever the hell the recent fuckbuddy site is called nowadays...
I was making a shitpost joke about how photo posts in the photo share thread could get comments on users' attractiveness/fashion/general appearance/etc. Did not mean to imply that was the red-light district of Bay12 general discussion or anything.
I don't think I picked up on that since I don't ever go on that thread. Sorry for that.
Another sad today, my buddy and I got into an argument today, and while at the start, it was REALLY interesting and actually philosophical because we set aside our emotions and such, but he kept trying to dodge everything I said after I started to relate what I said into a situation he was doing.
Essentially, I was trying to tell him that doing things sexually with his ex was not something he should be doing and, despite him saying he agreed nothing will change between them and they won't go back to what they were doing, he's doing the exact same thing; which was using the guy he was dating (he isn't now) for sex because he didn't feel any connection with him...
I told him him when he was with him that he's gonna hurt his at the time boyfriend, and he did anyway, and he DID hurt him. Now he's starting to do this with his ex after three months of being broken up. He said the whole thing was unplanned and I gave him a bunch of reasons why he shouldn't be doing that regardless, and all of his answers boiled down to either saying "sex is sex" which, when he did sat those things, didn't pertain to my points at all, or "your morals are fucked".
After talking more, it started to become obvious the whole point that his ex came along to his house WAS to use my buddy (again, he said his ex coming over was completely unplanned), and when I finally saw that and told him that his ex used him, he said he didn't care.
I'm really starting to lose patience with this guy... He has no self worth about himself to the point he doesn't care people are walking all over him and using him (this is NOT the first time this has happened) and it doesn't help that he does the same thing to people.
I'm sincerely at a loss and even though he does and says things to upset me and my friends (one of my other friends is uncomfortable with him because he keeps flirting with him, despite him and others telling him to stop). And I know for a fact the guy just doesn't give a fuck about anything anymore because when he gets sad and depressed, when I give him suggestions or try to motivate him, he doesn't listen. Like, he tells me hes depressed because hes got work to do but he doesn't want to do it, and I have to jokingly yell at him to even get him to simply get out of bed. He has no motivation, no self worth, and he just doesn't care about anyone but himself and I'm sick of it. It's like trying to babysit someone who was taught their whole life they are useless, and then trying to show them they arent and then trying to get them to do things to bring up his self worth. BUT HE JUST DOESN'T CARE. Like holy fuck, I have never seen a guy ignore twenty cases of me telling him to stop flirting with someone who doesn't want it.
The worst part about it, is a lot of things I brought up, he either dismissed it, red herring the fuck out of the current topic, or he would drop the "sex is sex" card (again, even if it has nothing to do with the topic), and I don't know when he tries to justify things, I can't tell if he's legitimately naive or he's hiding his feelings about it, because the way how things are looking, he seems more and more psychopathic each day...
I'm out of options now. I've already told him to stop bringing up the topic of his sex life because I'm sick of hearing him using or being used by someone for the purpose of sex. It doesn't help he, again, refuses to acknowledge the fact I said that several times. Like when you say that when you screw and you have NO EMOTIONS at all with it other than just getting off, that's fucked up.
I'm at the point I'm either gonna stop being his friend or I'm gonna fucking lose it on him because of how dense or uncaring about himself he is...