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[Vector]

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[Empiricist]

Sorry to hear about that. Hang in there.

[Orange Wizard]

I can give imaginary hugs and e-sympathies. Hope everything works out okay for you.

[Vector]

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[Mechatronic]

Have you called the doctor?

Agitation and suicide ideation are side effects of some anti-depressants.

[Vector]

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[ChairmanPoo]

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There's a period after beginning antidepressant use in which the symptoms might actually become more visible... IIRC the problem is that at that point the person is still depressed, but actually has the energy to move around.

If he's actually expressing suicidal ideas it might be a good thing to ask for professional help, as others have suggested, just in case.

Good luck. If you need to vent drop me a line...

[Frumple]

That's generally the big thing, yes; still the problem(s), but the physical symptoms are pulling back to whatever degree, meaning it's notably easier to actually express the rest of it. Still, it could be something else, too, including just straight up increased aggression and whatnot, or some other side effect that's causing it*. One of the trickier things about antidepressants (That I figure vec is already aware of/the doctor has emphasized, but still) is that people just don't react the same way to any particular one very often -- there's general themes and likelihoods, but it's a great deal of trial and error, often leaning towards the error side of things until something workable is found. It can be pretty rough, both for the person taking them and the people that care for 'em.

Which... yeah. Best of luck, vec, and definitely keep in contact with the doctor, especially if he's been taking them long enough the effects should have kicked it. Hopefully the prescribing doctor told you/your family this, yeah.

*I've actually just recently started on some myself, and one of the physical side effects for the initial dosage was uncontrollable tremors in my basically everything -- if I had even the most remote of tempers, I probably would have been a nightmare to be around when it was particularly bad, because holy fuck you cannot easily maintain composure when you're constantly losing fine (and sometimes not) motor control.

[hector13]

Anti-depressants (in my experience) tend to take a bit to "work", in that they provide mood stabilising effects. Mean time appeared to be ~3 weeks.

[Bauglir]

i have already sent well-wishing toward vector in another medium, but it bears repeating here - it would be just if you were to receive all the hugs

also, i fear i am being punished for my clever and delicious meal yesterday

was it the chili peppers? was the lettuce tainted? perhaps the oil and ramen seasoning blend i covered the pasta in has had unfortunate accelerant effects. but this is not a good pain.

[TheBiggerFish]

@Vector:

I can give imaginary hugs and e-sympathies. Hope everything works out okay for you.

*hugs*

[highmax28]

The way how ERASED does cliffhangers made me rage today

It isn't as much something that pisses me off as much as it frustrates me and kind of forces me to wait another week for it... Still makes me sad because its going to be a very long week till then, because of march break...

[Silthuri]

I can feel a sleepless night coming on.

Thank you depression for giving me the urge to stay awake all night because I feel useless as a girlfriend because apparently lying to me about nothing being wrong is apparently better than confiding with me where I could possibly help. Especially when I know damn well that somethings wrong.

Not wanting to dump problems on me is counterintuitive because when I inevitably find out the problem, this happens and I lose my shit for a week. I feel like I'm being slammed with so many emotions at once that all I can do is stare at the friggin wall.

[highmax28]

I can feel a sleepless night coming on.

Thank you depression for giving me the urge to stay awake all night because I feel useless as a girlfriend because apparently lying to me about nothing being wrong is apparently better than confiding with me where I could possibly help. Especially when I know damn well that somethings wrong.

Not wanting to dump problems on me is counterintuitive because when I inevitably find out the problem, this happens and I lose my shit for a week. I feel like I'm being slammed with so many emotions at once that all I can do is stare at the friggin wall.

Maybe it's a problem that he doesn't want you involved in?

I know at my recovery home, a lot of guys come in and say their problems there and not to their significant others or girlfriends because they don't want to burden them or hurt them. It could also be the fact he thinks you don't have the answers he's looking for.

At this case, it's out of your hands. You can try asking again later, but there is no reason for you to, literally, lose sleep over it. If he doesn't want to say, leave it be. There are too many factors that you might not know about to worry about it. If you start getting messages or calls or something similar that raise flags that there is a very serious problem, that might be the time to press the question of what's wrong.

Best you can do is be open and honest; saying that you worry about them and saying outright that they look like something is wrong and you can see it. If they deny it and get angry, leave it. Otherwise, saying what you feel about it will help. Don't go self pity on it, but be honest.

It makes people open up when you're open and honest; That's one thing I learned in rehab. You show trust and honesty, if they're a normal human being, they're gonna reciprocate that. The exception is that they're like me before rehab and, then in that case, I think they're gonna need help that you can't give them

[Silthuri]

I've done it for years. I've assured him would be there in every way possible and tried to be content with his solitary nature. But it seems he would rather post cryptic messages on social media than come to me for assurances he obviously needs based on what he's been saying to others.