Why must I be so incompetent at everything I do. Sure, I'm okay with numbers. But I'm terrible at writing, creative thinking, brainstorming, and basically anything to do with creativity. What us is it if I can do math in my head, if I can't also think of how to use them? Let alone the fact that I'm to afraid of rejection/nervous/cowardly to ask for help most of the time, and when I do I have to work up so much courage for the most trivial of things.
I CAN SEE MY TIME HAS COME *cracks knuckles*
First of all, being able to do math in your head is a really useful skill. Take it from me, you'll find a way to apply that later and make yourself money, and you are going to be a happier person. Mental math is not bullshit. Mental math is SUPER USEFUL. Lots of people in our generation are losing their ability to do it, which makes it EVEN MORE USEFUL. You can be creative with math. You can make art with math. Math is poetry; math is beautiful; there is love and community in math for you to enjoy.
Second of all, it looks like you have a weak point in verbal creativity. That's okay. That's a thing that you can work on.
Find the smallest step that you can take towards your goal and take that step. Then take the next step, then take the next step. Don't get worked up about the big things, the big goals. Just take your smallest step, and take these steps regularly. This is how you build confidence. You don't have to ask people for help when you're not ready for it; if you know you're not doing something well, then you know how you can improve. That's a really good place to start. You can also ask people for advice with some small things to start with, and ask them not to comment on anything else.
Keep at it, doodabuddy.
Full support to what Vector wrote down here. Mental math acts like a cornerstone in why it seems 'people have it easy', because we can firstly only see what others' output of their thoughts are. But I'd like to add FIRST OF ALL that one can never be innately 'terrible' at anything--terrible is an adjective only applicable to a continuum of progress, as a descriptor of analysis, and even
then, not an objective notion to label or think of yourself by--in the least, it's a guide of personal progress :O In the way of how thoughts work,
this is crucially important because how you think of yourself influences how you continue along that kind of thinking; there's
avoidance behavior occurring when one doesn't really think that well of themselves or their abilities, which contributes on the lack of progress.
Personally, I'm terrible at anything creative! It takes me a notable hour or at least fifteen minutes to get a script, work of art, or anything involving the media or traditional/digital artworks going.
Especially in verbal creativity (which means I'm like a human clam 
). BUT, this is only a 'present-time' indicator of our progress. It can only hinder us if we don't develop (which translates into 'practice', and 'don't let these negative thoughts apply', because they're thoughts! Not every thought should be taken as if it's what applies [especially, especially if negative and demeaning!], because thoughts in this context are also learned from our surroundings--past history or otherwise)
"How" to use things comes with "how" we think of things. How we 'process' the information to arrive at a suitable conclusion. Let it be a fact for you, Chaotic Skies, that you are pretty brave in posting those things here [even if there's nervousness/rejection or being a 'coward']--not many people open up with their own personal stuffs. Big goals are the long-run big picture, but as stated above and by others, big pictures are made by starting with tiny details. Skeleton/structural details. Asking help from others comes the same way as if one is asked for help--sometimes a bit of self-reflection that way helps you see why you're nervous or afraid to ask when you put yourself in the situation you're thinking about, as the receiver instead of the actor. But knowing where you are first of all, and knowing how to gauge your own progress is a big start in actually doing anything for improvement
Don't be fazed by failure. Nothing successful could've happened without 'failure', because things aren't judged by this binary system of proceeding [win or lose, succeed or fail], as you can continue from there. It's more 'Oh, this didn't work. What else can I do to achieve [this goal]' and a lot less of 'You're terrible and you fail. You'll never succeed in life because of that. :I'
You can be creative with math. You can make art with math.
^^This super fucking hard. Most people do not grasp how useful mathematical ideas can be when drawing.
i am literally incapable of making art without math, math is best.
my very avatar required me to do a bit of math to make sure i could get it to work, and it's probably the least math-requiring of the glowy symbol thingies i've done, which usually require a fair bit of improvisational geometry
so yeah i endorse this
Reminds me of a sad I've got: It makes me sad that some people learn to hate math before loving it because of how it's being taught, in certain situations in childhood :/ Not because math is actually horrible but because of first experiences and how impactful it is.
And then random inclination of uploading my Educational notes happens <_< because I've gone thinking along a tangent of 'what defines a good teacher'.
Wish these spikes of inspiration happens when I'm
trying to remember them when starting out doing stuff. >_> I usually forget and am left with a blank in between the fuzzy outlines of these memories.
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