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[Amperzand]

My ex just told me, without saying the exact words but everything that means it, that she's given up on life... She doesn't want to accept things will get better, she accepts that she's going to die young, she accepts she's going to feel pain until she dies, and she accepts that she won't do anything with her life because of her problems.

It's like watching someone taking their last moments in life before they die, begging for that final rest, except they still have years on their life left to live.

And there isn't a damn thing I can do. I can't make her laugh, I can't encourage her to do things, I can't even hug her and tell her that things will be alright. I fucking hate it.

This is the same thing that happened with that girl I fell head over heels for, except I know for a fact that my ex isn't lying about this (unlike that girl, who I don't know what to believe anymore with her...). I fucking want to do something, but all she wants me to do is sit around her, near her, don't talk to her, don't do anything and don't leave without her knowing... I'm getting fucked up thoughts in my head, thinking shes doing it because she doesn't want to die alone, or that she doesn't know any better and doesn't want to put the effort to do anything else. She never goes outside her room, she barely does anything but watch TV over and over, and the only times she leaves her room, she goes to work or school, and goes right back home...

I'm scared for her and I can't do a fucking thing but watch her be in pain and suffer...

Yeah, so, get help.

[highmax28]

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And there isn't a damn thing I can do. I can't make her laugh, I can't encourage her to do things, I can't even hug her and tell her that things will be alright. I fucking hate it.
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While you may not think you're able to do these things--what you can do is direct her to help; if one has given up their personal will to live, support them by sending and seeking aid from others. Don't hate yourself if things you can do seem to have no effect--moods and reasoning and association all make it seem complex to work with.

Please aid her by seeking aid. I don't know the context and I believe it is better if you used your context with her in the setting over there to get help, contact any person able to aid her that she has access to (ie School services if she's enrolled in one, or the local clinics, etc...)

Don't hurt yourself because of this.

She is seeing a therapist to deal with her emotional stuff, and I'm fucking proud of her for doing it, but god damnit...

If this therapist thing falls through, then there is not a damn thing I can do except bring her to brentwood... She needs help that I can't give her other than directing her places, and I know because of how extreme it can be, Brentwood will scare her away.

My ex just told me, without saying the exact words but everything that means it, that she's given up on life... She doesn't want to accept things will get better, she accepts that she's going to die young, she accepts she's going to feel pain until she dies, and she accepts that she won't do anything with her life because of her problems.

It's like watching someone taking their last moments in life before they die, begging for that final rest, except they still have years on their life left to live.

And there isn't a damn thing I can do. I can't make her laugh, I can't encourage her to do things, I can't even hug her and tell her that things will be alright. I fucking hate it.

This is the same thing that happened with that girl I fell head over heels for, except I know for a fact that my ex isn't lying about this (unlike that girl, who I don't know what to believe anymore with her...). I fucking want to do something, but all she wants me to do is sit around her, near her, don't talk to her, don't do anything and don't leave without her knowing... I'm getting fucked up thoughts in my head, thinking shes doing it because she doesn't want to die alone, or that she doesn't know any better and doesn't want to put the effort to do anything else. She never goes outside her room, she barely does anything but watch TV over and over, and the only times she leaves her room, she goes to work or school, and goes right back home...

I'm scared for her and I can't do a fucking thing but watch her be in pain and suffer...

Yeah, so, get help.

I don't know what you're referring to, and I hope you're not being a goof right now...

@highmax:
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I wish I could help you more but...Mostly, my only suggestion is, get her a gift or something.  Anonymously if need be.  Might snap her out of it.  Possibly, chocolate.  I seriously...I don't know.

I don't know either, and I brought her some brownies today to kind of help distract her, plus I gave her my favorite graphic novel about Thor to kind of make her day, but fuck... Nothing seems to make her smile anymore... Deadpool made her laugh when we saw it, but after we left, just as we went to the car, she immediately went back to feeling like shit and being down again...

[chaotic skies]

Well, shit. I thought I had issues, but damn. I'm going to shut the fuck up from here on out and deal.

[highmax28]

Well, shit. I thought I had issues, but damn. I'm going to shut the fuck up from here on out and deal.

No one is saying your issues don't matter. If they do, I'm pretty sure their ass needs to be handed to them...

Things like what makes you sad doesn't mean you're any less of a person than me, or Cinder or Tirurin or anyone else.

We may have problems that seem bigger and worse than yours , but that doesn't mean you have problems too.

SHIT SHIT SHIT SHIT SHIT I HAVE A SLIDESHOW DUE TOMORROW IT'S 11 PM AND i HAVEN'T STARTED SHIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIT

As for this, I suggest you get started on it instead of panicking. Do your best! That's all you have to do. Just know its going to take you a few hours. I reccomend epic music to push you forward. Blind Guardian is a suggestion, but its metal (and not many people like metal...)

[Spehss _]

Well, shit. I thought I had issues, but damn. I'm going to shut the fuck up from here on out and deal.

The sad thread is not a contest to see who has the most sad of sads.

[Orange Wizard]

The sad thread is not a contest to see who has the most sad of sads.

Says you.

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There was a really good recording of a song I like that got taken down from Youtube. Now I can't find anything beyond really crappy versions. Moral of the story: Pirate things you don't want to lose. All of them. You never know when DMCA bullshit will wreck your day.

[Xantalos]

Well, shit. I thought I had issues, but damn. I'm going to shut the fuck up from here on out and deal.

The sad thread is not a contest to see who has the most sad of sads.

This is true. It's a thread that you tell things that made you sad. Nothing more, nothing less.

The sad thread is not a contest to see who has the most sad of sads.

Says you.

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There was a really good recording of a song I like that got taken down from Youtube. Now I can't find anything beyond really crappy versions. Moral of the story: Pirate things you don't want to lose. All of them. You never know when DMCA bullshit will wreck your day.

As someone who solely listens to music via YouTube, I feel your pain.

I wouldn't suggest pirating people you don't want to lose, however - people don't usually appreciate being cloned without consent for some reason. Something about 'violates my individuality' or something.

[hops]

Always ask for consent before plundering their booty.

[Spehss _]

The sad thread is not a contest to see who has the most sad of sads.

Says you.

fite me m8

there's starvin kids in africa somewhere so all of our sad emotions are meaningless and invalidated

[Amperzand]

I don't know what you're referring to, and I hope you're not being a goof right now...

No. Just saying that help with such problems must be obtained, without much of a clear idea of what form that should take, or what else you're already doing.

I try not to make jokes when things are legitimately serious.

[i2amroy]

Well, shit. I thought I had issues, but damn. I'm going to shut the fuck up from here on out and deal.

The sad thread is not a contest to see who has the most sad of sads.

This is true. It's a thread that you tell things that made you sad. Nothing more, nothing less.

Indeed, and to claim that the sadness of one person somehow invalidates another person's suffering is the starving children in Africa fallacy; just because there are starving children over there doesn't mean that you should somehow magically now want to eat all of your food.

That said do keep in mind that in times of peak sadness not everyone's sadness may actually be responded to. In the vast majority of cases this is not because we don't care (because we do), but is rather that we just didn't have a good response right then.

[Shook]

hooray, random feelings of being human trash

Sickness hasn't been good to my self confidence. I'm full of doubt about whether what i'm doing and what i say i want to do really is what i want to do. I can't even fucking figure myself out, so how am i supposed to figure out anything else? It's like i don't even have a base personality, but rather just some kind of mirror that wants to please the other. I feel like i should just give up trying to figure out what suits me best and just coast along the rest of my life in bland mediocrity, but on the other hand, that's one way to be absolutely sure that i'll never find anything. Ugh.

[highmax28]

Lost. My. Eraser.

Damn it.

I would suggest anything rubber, but that might damage the rubber thing...

[IcyTea31]

-snip-

I'm no lawyer, but you might want to redact this post. If your account can be connected to your real-life persona, a certain part of the post could be taken as a confession. Not that a prosecutor would scour the Net for such convoluted evidence for a traffic violation, but...

[highmax28]

I've resorted to using a sharpener to get the erasers on pencils. Which suks. Since those things last for about 2 seconds each.

I've resorted to getting a big ass eraser that's usually bigger than my middle finger. It's harder to lose, but there is still a chance of it