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I don't know if you want any comment, but if so, that's what the rest of this post is. If not, then I apologize.
Thing is, life isn't fair. I know that's a shitty platitude that jackasses like to use when they're doing jackassy things. Please do not let them ruin it. Fairness isn't even a coherent concept. It's arbitrary, and not even in the good way. Nobody has enough information to make the right call. It depends on too much information - any trivial fact you'd never think to ask for can change what the fair response is. And with the right omissions, any action can be described as evil. The reality never changes - just what we know about it. And even if you postulate some omniscient state of being we should aspire to, you must also imagine that such a person would never make errors in judgment - a hard sell in a world that requires moral judgments to be made in the first place. Only with infinite knowledge and infinite wisdom could you even come up with a definition of fairness, much less have the ability to
test it.
I'm not saying that morality is a sham you should abandon. That's the talk of the jackasses. What I'm saying is that you aren't qualified to say it's unfair for people to help you. Who are you to make that call? Do not try to make things fair. You don't even know where to look for that. Try to make things better. That's a lot easier. A lot more realistic. You don't have to make judgment calls about who doesn't deserve help. All you have to decide is who can be helped. And if people want to help you, don't turn them away because you think you know better. They made their decision, and apparently they've decided that you're worth helping.
or at least, that's helped me
whatever's good for you, i guess