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[TheBiggerFish]

...Where...?

[GiglameshDespair]

Nice to see I can vent about my brother putting me and his friend in actual immediate physical danger and people won't take it seriously.

It'd be different if people actually got hurt, but you're not - so it's not such an awful thing to joke about. They're not trying to laugh at you, but with you.

[Truean]

I've been talking about this for years, and been laughed off or just plain old ignored:
http://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2016-01-25/wal-mart-it-came-it-conquered-now-it-s-packing-up-and-leaving?cmpid=yhoo.headline

It's not "competition," or at least not fair....

Residents of Oriental, where some city officials originally tried to block Wal-Mart from opening, are hoping for a similar outcome now that the megastore is gone. But for the moment the damage has been done, they say.

Renee Ireland Smith, who ran Town’n Country, said the store immediately saw sales fall by 30 percent once Wal-Mart opened in May 2014. Whenever her store cut prices, Wal-Mart would reduce its prices even more. Smith’s mother, who owned the store, invested $100,000 in savings into the doomed effort. But by October, the family decided to cut its losses and close the business.

“They ruined our lives,” said Smith of Wal-Mart. “They came in here with their experiment and ruined us.”

[Orange Wizard]

What Shiny said. We make jokes to lighten the mood - but if someone did get hurt it'd be a different story.

[Yoink]

An even funnier one?

[Graknorke]

I can't fit my favourite Asimov quote in my personal text. Boo.

[Tiruin]

Spoiler: This post spoiler is a bit outdated .-. (click to show/hide)

[...]
You could chat to a professional. Probably more qualified than us (barring perhaps Tiruin, who studies psychology and such).
[...]

Nope When it comes to professional matters--I'm not able. Even if I was a licensed and certified professional in all the degrees in my dreams--nope.
This is primarily due to many factors, one such thing is the medium of communication; via internet, this relies on self-reporting, and lacking other natural methods of communication (ie tone of voice, body language, gestures...) that also add to how the person acts (eg I feel comfortable because despite the other person saying {x}, their tone and body language says otherwise. Huh, I didn't think of it in a non-rough tone).
And there are also other viewers here who study psychology/have graduated from such--the best we can offer is advice and morale support; what you can do however is to help yourself, assess how you communicate, seek aid in your area.

My current therapist is more interested in other things than what I have to say, and I only get about a half hour, give or take a few minutes, to speak with them.

It's a lot of excuses, isn't it? It's odd, maybe I only have myself to blame for my problems.

Speak with your therapist--usually, when with clients they do not know or have concerns in many areas of life, they have a mental list to go through to get a better idea where to orient their advice It may seem like they have less interest in what you have to say--but reflect the thought with the therapist and inquire why they're doing what they're doing (ie Why does it seem like you're interested in talking about other things? I feel like I'm being dismissed [or other ways of saying it. I'm very messy, sorry x_x]).

Why does nobody respond to my posts, ever

I've been looking for help all weekend, and nobody cares

sorry, man, didn't know you wanted help

figured you were venting

take the time you've got left and spend it on productive things. switch off your computer until you've done something relevant, unless it's all computer-related stuff, in which case i have no advice and only sympathy

its already too late, but maybe i really should do that except some of it is computer stuff and the part that isn't homework is entirely computer stuff

You can PM me if you'd like to chat about something. I'm sure other people would be happy to as well.

I don't know how helpful I'll be, but you can PM me too if you want.

You can PM me if you'd like to chat about something. I'm sure other people would be happy to as well.

Thanks

Hey dude c: Nice to see you again. I looked back and...maybe there's a big difference in what happened--there wasn't any direct call for help, and for people posting in the sad thread, the usual thing is that they're venting, and it may be considered rude or intrusive if someone pops in and decides to help that one person. If in need of someone to talk to, PM others here--from all my years on B12, there are a TON of very helpful people just around there!

Sending a direct note of 'I need help' (or anything on a similar line) is a way to ensure that your intent is heard. Sorry though if you feel not responded to. I'd suggest caution though in believing and putting too much focus on really negative stuff (ie Nobody cares ), as this...deepens the feelings and impressions.

Nice to see I can vent about my brother putting me and his friend in actual immediate physical danger and people won't take it seriously.

I think that's bringing reasoning a bit too far.

[FearfulJesuit]

Trying to use GIMP to worldbuild. I simply cannot make a decent coastline.

[scrdest]

Trying to use GIMP to worldbuild. I simply cannot make a decent coastline.

Fractals?

[Bauglir]

Trying to use GIMP to worldbuild. I simply cannot make a decent coastline.

This may help.

[miauw62]

Tomorrow is going to be another thursday, where I sit next to the only other dude, who I dint even like, in a class full of girls.

I just can't put myself in a situation where I can talk to girls where I can actually feel good about it and not have it be awkward or frustrating, even in a class full of girls. I really just want to fucking do something but I don't even fucking know where to start.

[Rolan7]

Okay even if I wasn't gayish, if there was only one other guy in the class, I think I'd want to sit next to him.  For... symmetry, and to avoid awkward.

But really though, forced situations like "being sat next to each other" are inherently awkward.  Strike up a brief conversation on the way out of class.  There's less pressure, which means they're more likely to engage.

[i2amroy]

I just can't put myself in a situation where I can talk to girls where I can actually feel good about it and not have it be awkward or frustrating, even in a class full of girls. I really just want to fucking do something but I don't even fucking know where to start.

Talk to them just like you would any other normal person. It's not like they're some other strange species that speaks a different language; assuming you are speaking english (which is a remarkably nongendered language in most aspects) something like 95% of all discussions are going to play out near identically regardless of if you are talking to a guy or a girl. Talking about the weather, talking about classes, talking about hobbies, talking about homework, they're all going to play out virtually identical when talking to either a girl or a guy (seriously, there's more variance between talking to a sports jock guy and a computer guy than there is between talking to an psychology nerd guy or a psychology nerd girl). Just talk to them like you would to anybody else and you'll get along just fine.

In truth the vast majority of cases what people are being awkward about isn't talking to the other gender, it's being awkward about talking to someone that they view as a potential date. Once you drop that factor by just talking to people like normal it's pretty much the same in the basic conversational structure regardless of who it is. As for the best times to strike up conversation, Rolan hit the nail pretty much on the head. Before/after class are good places for conversations, during class... not so much, but that's just an awkwardness in general, not anything to do with the person's gender.

[Rolan7]

This is going to sound dumb but...
Just do it.  Really, just throw it out there and see what sticks.

I was an absurdly low-self-esteem, awkward, reclusive freak.  But I tried awkward small talk with people, who generally politely blew me off.  As well they should.

But in each stage of my life, 1 or 2 people actually responded.  Other people are lonely, too, and interested in the same geeky stuff.  Thus I found (not formed, found) friendships which helped me become who I am.

The consequence of failure is... nothing.  You tried to be friendly and failed, who cares?  Keep trying until you find someone.

[Rolan7]

Literally talking about the weather.  Go from there, if there's chemistry.
Or if they seem awkward too, try relatively popular video games or literature.