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[BlackHeartKabal]

I don't see much of a point in letting people know you have a problem when you don't think they can help or don't want the assistance of that particular group. It was always odd to me.

It's a little more complicated than that. Sharing problems with people builds trust and deeper communication. The problems themselves are usually irrelevant - having people you can trust is its own reward.

The risk of having your trust betrayed by someone for petty reasons outweighs the reward. The only reason i'm somewhat comfortable here is due to anonymity. I can't even trust my own family, why try with a stranger?

[Orange Wizard]

Normally you only start building trust once there's a friendship in place to begin with, you don't just grab some random drunk off the street and start regaling your dark and stormy past.

Of course, some people have more difficulty with trust than others (and I absolutely have trouble with this as well). The good thing here is that trust isn't binary; trusting a person doesn't mean you immediately start sharing your darkest secrets.
The whole trust:betrayal thing is basically just risk:reward, if you want to be analytical about it. How much trust you invest is up to you, but I guarantee that the connections you can make with other people is worth it.

[BlackHeartKabal]

Normally you only start building trust once there's a friendship in place to begin with, you don't just grab some random drunk off the street and start regaling your dark and stormy past.

Of course, some people have more difficulty with trust than others (and I absolutely have trouble with this as well). The good thing here is that trust isn't binary; trusting a person doesn't mean you immediately start sharing your darkest secrets.
The whole trust:betrayal thing is basically just risk:reward, if you want to be analytical about it. How much trust you invest is up to you, but I guarantee that the connections you can make with other people is worth it.

I don't really connect with people at all. I only speak when I have to, just an antisocial waste, and nothing I do will compensate for that or keep people from looking down on me or insulting me for it. Even if I tried I wouldn't know the first thing about building a friendship and then trust, and why would I try when the risk:reward factor is there?

An investment of too little trust is negligible, and too much trust is too much risk.

And why would I want to "connect" with others anyway?

[Rolan7]

I don't really want people solving my problems for me most of the time, I just want hugs.

Yeah exactly, you understand.
_hug

[Orange Wizard]

And why would I want to "connect" with others anyway?

Mostly because it's more enjoyable than nihilistic claptrap.

[BlackHeartKabal]

And why would I want to "connect" with others anyway?

Mostly because it's more enjoyable than nihilistic claptrap.

I'm just going to go out and end up disappointed and embarrassed anyway. It's not nonsensical speaking.

[technicallyAdventurer]

i'm fake. haha.

[BlackFlyme]

Reminded of how I am a shit person with no consideration for those around me.

[TheBiggerFish]

i'm fake. haha.

I believe you're real.  Is that enough?

Reminded of how I am a shit person with no consideration for those around me.

WHAT?!
FALSE FALSE FALSE FALSE.

[BlackFlyme]

I can't do anything for myself. I don't do chores around the house. I don't do anything besides sit on the computer.

Went to play Pathfinder with friends. Ended up getting my mom to come pick me up. She's been bedridden all day due to being sick.

I'm not a very thoughtful person. I find it incredibly hard to come up with my own thoughts and opinions, and have difficulty in doing things of my own volition.

[TheBiggerFish]

...That sounds eerily like me...
Except for the going anywhere...
Now I'm sad.

[BlackHeartKabal]

It's 12:39 AM, Sunday, and i've given up on trying to rest, it's not like 4 hours or 14 hours will make a difference since i'm constantly fatigued.
Ill, hot, aching, and I still have things expected of me. This is to the point where I can't even will myself to stay awake when I absolutely have to, and since i'm in america and I neither wish nor can afford to be more of a burden than I am, a doctor is not an option.
It's made me sad because I know i'm going to wake up, try my best like i've always been told, and still end up a disappointment to myself and others.
I have no idea what to do, and it's causing me to tear up at the desk.

[TheBiggerFish]

You need to see a doctor.
That sounds like you're actually ill.

[BlackHeartKabal]

You need to see a doctor.
That sounds like you're actually ill.

A doctor is not an option, as I said.

[Amperzand]

I can't do anything for myself. I don't do chores around the house. I don't do anything besides sit on the computer.

Went to play Pathfinder with friends. Ended up getting my mom to come pick me up. She's been bedridden all day due to being sick.

I'm not a very thoughtful person. I find it incredibly hard to come up with my own thoughts and opinions, and have difficulty in doing things of my own volition.

That was my last... Four years? Five? Something like that. Now I'm in college, looking into a job, have friends, ETC. Just go do something, spend 500$ on a course at the local college, mess around in public places. It's worth it a dozen times over.