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[hops]

As a biologically male individual, I have trouble stopping myself from getting really pissed off if somebody ribbed on me. I think the boisterousness is just a social thing.

[Shook]

I dunno, I think I've definitely fallen afoul of this. It seems like girls (and guys I guess but I wouldn't know anything about that) expect people who're romantically interested to behave a certain way, and if you don't send those signals within a certain window that's pretty much it. I'm still fairly good friends with people I've done this with, but even if they did to start (which I highly doubt) they certainly don't see me that way anymore.

Potential romantic partners would expect ME to send signals? Dear god, i'm more oblivious to romantic signals than a typical shonen protagonist, so if your radio suddenly picks up a seemingly extraterrestrial transmission, then it's probably me tuning on to DURR FM in an attempt to transmit to a nearby attractive female human. This does not bode well for future Shooklings. :I

Also regarding talking to dem gurlz, i've generally found it easier to not think too much about the gender of who i'm talking to, so basically what Koss said. Talking to them like you would to an equal person (respectfully, of course) is always a good start, and from there, you can figure out exactly what kind of person you're talking to and so on.

[Truean]

http://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory/sponsor-anti-gay-marriage-bill-undaunted-85b-cost-36384488

$8.5 Billion is a pretty big hole in any budget, state or otherwise. I have to ask what the hell this guy is thinking. Hating gays that much is just ... wow.

Picture 1,000 stacks of money worth a million dollars. That's a billion dollars. Now picture 8,500 stacks of money worth a million dollars. That's what this guy is talking about giving up to hate on gays. Wow.

[Orange Wizard]

That's like the entire GDP of Haiti

[Descan]

different brain structure/activity

not actually a thing, last I heard, according to recent research

[Baffler]

different brain structure/activity

not actually a thing, last I heard, according to recent research

Who's saying this? The vast majority of current thought, to my knowledge, points to small but significant differences. Much of that is related to hormone expression but notable differences in brain physiology exist as well.

[BlackHeartKabal]

Spoiler (click to show/hide)

Sometimes I wonder if i'm just a big fish in a small pond, and the praise I get for my alleged intelligence is like the normal coddling an average special needs kid gets to feel good about themselves, while i'm actually just pitied and tolerated by the people around me.

My grades are slipping and I'm trying my best to be independent and figure out how to learn this stuff by myself, and I have only one friend outside of the world behind the screen. I just feel like a burden and that no matter what I do i'll never be recognized for anything meaningful. I really have just lost faith in confiding to others, no point in telling my therapist or counselor about how I feel because they can't change anything. I do my work, eat, sleep, live, but I really just don't feel alive. Inside, I just feel like a man bleeding out on the floor, slowly, thinking as his consciousness fades more and more as the blood spills. I'm exhausted and just anxious to the point where I'm just hesitant, too scared to walk into rooms anymore. People tell me to open up and not bottle things up, but that won't solve anything. I just have to keep it bottled up, keep up a facade of being fine, because I can't be more of a burden than I already am.

I don't want to die, too much of a craven bitch to even try if I reached that point, but if I open up i'll just end up hospitalized, and start wasting actual money, and have my grades and life get worse, and when I get out, nothing will change, except i'll be behind.

I just want to be happy, to be worth something. and i'm clinging on to the ideology that enough effort can get anything done. I'm exhausted, anxious, and have to hold back tears every time I think of my life, but I just keep working, and keep moving on. But i'm starting to doubt that, and the question "Is there any hope" just runs through my mind constantly.

Just wondering if I have any worth as a person, wondering if there's hope for me, getting myself addicted to dreams, hallucinations, sleep paralysis, and my thoughts, because they let me escape from reality for some time before I have to go out and face everything, days and days again.

I'm sorta new here, and I feel like an outsider, a burden, like some guy who comes into a game lobby and starts speaking about a divorce or something with total strangers. I just can't speak in real life, but here I have a mask, i'm safe here, i'm okay here no matter what I say about myself. I can't think of another place to say this, really.

Just state of mind stuff, nonsense, thoughts. Just the same thoughts I always have, except the paragraph is different, like every time I think about this.

[Sirus]

@ Truean:

I have to wonder how any amount of state legislation could possibly allow a state to ignore a federal Supreme Court ruling. Theoretically speaking, at best this will just cost the state of Tennessee a ridiculous amount of money as they try to fight it out before ultimately being told to stfu.

[TheBiggerFish]

@BlackHeartKabal:
*applies hugs*
You are not a burden.

Can someone dig up the hugs thread?  This guy needs some.

[Spehss _]

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Sometimes I wonder if i'm just a big fish in a small pond, and the praise I get for my alleged intelligence is like the normal coddling an average special needs kid gets to feel good about themselves, while i'm actually just pitied and tolerated by the people around me.

My grades are slipping and I'm trying my best to be independent and figure out how to learn this stuff by myself, and I have only one friend outside of the world behind the screen. I just feel like a burden and that no matter what I do i'll never be recognized for anything meaningful. I really have just lost faith in confiding to others, no point in telling my therapist or counselor about how I feel because they can't change anything. I do my work, eat, sleep, live, but I really just don't feel alive. Inside, I just feel like a man bleeding out on the floor, slowly, thinking as his consciousness fades more and more as the blood spills. I'm exhausted and just anxious to the point where I'm just hesitant, too scared to walk into rooms anymore. People tell me to open up and not bottle things up, but that won't solve anything. I just have to keep it bottled up, keep up a facade of being fine, because I can't be more of a burden than I already am.

I don't want to die, too much of a craven bitch to even try if I reached that point, but if I open up i'll just end up hospitalized, and start wasting actual money, and have my grades and life get worse, and when I get out, nothing will change, except i'll be behind.

I just want to be happy, to be worth something. and i'm clinging on to the ideology that enough effort can get anything done. I'm exhausted, anxious, and have to hold back tears every time I think of my life, but I just keep working, and keep moving on. But i'm starting to doubt that, and the question "Is there any hope" just runs through my mind constantly.

Just wondering if I have any worth as a person, wondering if there's hope for me, getting myself addicted to dreams, hallucinations, sleep paralysis, and my thoughts, because they let me escape from reality for some time before I have to go out and face everything, days and days again.

I'm sorta new here, and I feel like an outsider, a burden, like some guy who comes into a game lobby and starts speaking about a divorce or something with total strangers. I just can't speak in real life, but here I have a mask, i'm safe here, i'm okay here no matter what I say about myself. I can't think of another place to say this, really.

Just state of mind stuff, nonsense, thoughts. Just the same thoughts I always have, except the paragraph is different, like every time I think about this.

I have the same thoughts occasionally. Self doubt and wondering if everything will turn out fine or if I'm doing the right, "best" thing, etc.

I try not to think about it too hard or too long and keep trucking. Not the best solution, or really a solution at all, but that's all I can say I do about it.

[Helgoland]

-snip-

Uh, hooker goddess, the Truean thing. But other than that, I agree - that money could be spent much better than by just stuffing the pockets of some fancy lawyers.

[Sirus]

Awwww shit, I forgot about that D:
fixed, hopefully

[Arx]

@BHK

Listening to that stuff is your therapist's job. And from my experience, they want to know that stuff. I understand the urge to bottle it up. I've been there - heck, there some moderately embarrassing posts of mine in this thread about literally the exact same thing. You know what had an immediate positive effect? Getting a therapist and venting at him. It's a safe space.

If you're not comfortable venting to your current therapist, find a new one. My therapist works a half-hour drive from where I live - I don't have to worry about running into him elsewhere. It helps a ton.

[Yoink]

Urrrgghh. My room is more of a mess than usual, because I had to frantically search for my ventolin inhaler last night.
It's getting me down and I'm currently feeling too sick to neaten it up at all.

[miauw62]

do you ever have the chance to talk to people? talk to them as though they were boys, whose interests you do not know

girls are not particularly special

Basically this. They're still humans after all, they just have like 4 or 5ish different parts.

Yes, but I get basically no chances to talk to them