Print

Please login or register.
1 Hour 1 Day 1 Week 1 Month Forever
Login with username, password and session length

[Amperzand]

I'd agree with that. 

[MaximumZero]

A) That's why I got kicked out of AA. I was there to fight my addiction, not sit in a circle and say, "I'm a bad person and what I'm doing is bad, also religion is the cornerstone of everything!" Fuck that bullshit. It helps some people get clean, but that attitude isn't healthy. To apply that to people who were abused or attacked is fundamentally wrong, and I would like to meet the people in charge of those programs to show just how painful life can be.

B) Today, I lost a very close friend to a car crash. We'd drifted apart a bit, but his loss deeply shook me. If anyone in the group was going to be unbreakable, it was him, and he was the only one of us that never fell to the trap of cynicism and was never jaded, no matter how much shit life threw his way. I'll miss that glorious Celtic berserker.

[KingofstarrySkies]

I'm sorry to hear that, Max. :c

[Reelya]

Man, that's a bummer, Max.

One last thing on AA. In California, an atheist forced to go to AA sued the state and won a compensation claim of almost $2 million because AA is a religious organization and it's a breach of your constitutional rights to make you do that. It's worth pushing this stuff as the ruling caused California to crack the whip and prevent parolees being set to faith-based programs, so standing up to it can make a difference.

[Amperzand]

Well, that's good at least.

[MetalSlimeHunt]

I'm surprised, I've heard horror stories about how judges assign AA meetings like candy and take mortal offense to any objection, though such types tend to take mortal offense to just about every real or imagined slight possible.

[Tiruin]

[...]

I have no words.
Programs like those would at least follow a standard of holistic practice--not dogmatic reasoning!
...that is not religion there. It's a reinforcement of a perceived lifestyle of teaching--but a very poor one if taken by itself. Even if used as tenets as a foundation to move forward from, it's...

That isn't right. Lacking clarity, non-critical in nature, and vague in specifying what concept must be faced...[I mean dear goodness. Pray to God that he stops you from drinking--but that ignores half the everything else in the source you derive the idea from that makes it contextual and understandable (and I could go on about this if not due to bad internet but...just what?!]
Even the discussion of wording brings a very bad taste--the statement of noting the concept of being "powerless" is a very unclear superlative, doubly so when applied when teaching other people given the process of communication and...considering the many sciences and knowledge abound, why is this kind of thinking being promoted as a core teaching? The lack of specificity of the foundation will lead to nascent thinking and stifled understanding.
Oh my goodness.

Edit: Sorry to hear that, Max. :S

[Orange Wizard]

~~~

That's utterly vile

[Yoink]

Just finished the second season of The Wire.
I think it's mostly the 'post-fiction comedown' feeling (I wish there was an actual name for that) that's making me feel a bit sad, really. I have three more seasons to watch, so I can only imagine how I'll feel when it's all done with. It's a really good show, though. A pleasant surprise for sure.

[miauw62]

Why am I even looking at facebook it just makes me sad.

I doubt I'll be able to ask my crush out, but at the same time sending her a message on fb seems so tempting >.>

Also, my new therapist still hasn't called to make an appointment :/

Asking a person out over facebook is...not a good tactic if you aren't already dating that person. Better to do it in person.

Just saying hey and conversing or something is probably fine. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

i wasn't planning to ask her out over facebook :x

but i sort of want to message her and just say hey but on the other hand i actually really dont >.>

[Kot]

but i sort of want to message her and just say hey but on the other hand i actually really dont >.>

Spoiler: I'm having the same thing right now (click to show/hide)

[miauw62]

* miauw62 hugs

thanks man

[Graknorke]

Christ just do it, it's hardly a legally binding contract or anything. It's fucking Christmas you can ask about that or anything else either.

[Arx]

Can confirm that a "Hey, merry Christmas and happy New Year! Enjoying the holdiay?" is rarely considered a faux pas. And it is a good conversation starter - it leads naturally into a "Done anything interesting?" type of conversation, which is a good way of getting to know someone and their interests.

[Bauglir]

the worst thing you could possibly do for your chances is to hide in a corner and never approach her

sure, it means you'll never have confirmation that your chances are 0, and can therefore hope that they're not, but trust me - unless you take steps to make your hopes known, you can hardly expect them to be realized by the people they depend on

something something you'll never make any of the shots you don't try to make something something dark side

edit: there is such a thing as being too blunt, but seriously, starting up a conversation and treating her like a friend should be basically fine