Sad: I'm experiencing anxiety! ._.
...Which is not really a sad, and more like 'Oooo, experience. Oh dear .-. '
Erh...Neo? I'll send you a PM regarding your woes here...but...
Because not caring is bad, and I should care that people are starting/already to hate me?
You posting it already signifies that you care--maybe you're 'falling into the pit' of mirror'ing the maybe-all-too-common thing of people saying 'I DUN CARE' for...several reasons beyond my comprehension on why they say it despite the intent or idea behind it not matching the idea at all.
When people don't understand fully an idea in social contexts, its usually treated with confusion at first, or curiosity...and whatever follows is usually based on how you commonly see others react/interact.
[..]
Yet... I can logically surmise that if I don't find a reason to care to play the "game" of social interaction. That it will just get worse.
This is gonna be a loooong PM. But put things into perspective--when people say [TOTALLY NEGATIVE ADJECTIVE] about YOU, they're describing how
either the presentation [ie Structure/message or wording of your post is], or the attitude beneath the idea of the post.
...People don't seriously think that about others if they understood what exactly they're thinking about [albeit conflated because of the
output]--and this usually is to the fun thing that makes us people: We're like the output of many things--our experiences [past/present], our thoughts [which have a wide variety of stuff], what we're exposed to [because this influences our experiences a lot], and many more.
In your context...its mostly your presentation or how you present your idea.
I don't know how much practice I can possibly get towards trying to make someone feel like they belong to something. And yet here we are and they don't. And they want to.
Indefinite limitation
Meaning there's no limitation to how much one can try something--many, many ways of presentation and going about the 'towards' exists.
Now on the '
feel' part: Do note that its...a mixture of representations. 'You belong/You don't belong/I feel ostracized/I don't belong here[...]' are many ways to go about it...but there's a root idea causing all that which gives off the thought of belongingness. Ask them what they think--or being direct--tends to be the best way. Then help with guide questions along the path to knowing why they feel that way.
Just being there to support them is one big thing. Being yourself [ie Being your intent + continuity] is also another one.
Whoever that person is, I'd say they belong here, no matter who they are, though.
Ends up being I skim over his posts, actually :v Same with Tiruin, though with them they also have the factor of their posts being so very dense, with aisdes all over the place, and worded weirdly enough that it would be too much effort to read them through and try and parse just what the heck she's trying to say. >_>
* Tiruin has dense posts
...This got me thinking about physics more than getting me to think about 'how to make my idea concise' .-. But I tend to infer that the idea should be presented with a ton o' detail.
I'm told that its very easy for me to grasp and understand complex ideas...its just the re-presentation to others in me breaking it down is where the difficulties exist.
* Tiruin apologizes for her presentation skills.
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