Great advice for some people is terrible advice for others.
I'm currently trying really hard to curb this subconcious feeling that despite being jobless and uneducated, I'm still smarter and have more potential than all of my friends.
I don't know how it got in there but it is a bitch to weed out.
Habit formation maybe? Keep on thinking something, again and again, would technically equal reinforcing the idea, unless you check the other-side (wherein you'd maybe note that this is also what they think!)
(that is, if you're comparing solely for comparison)
inb4 theories of acknowledgement and comparison occur.>.> But yeah--probably its in the appraisal of things, or attachments. As in, jobless and uneducated = 'less smart' or 'less potential'.
Which isn't true in many cases due to the ton of other factors present.
*hugs to Tack and co*
Great advice for some people is terrible advice for others.
Context is the essence of advice, silly.
Good advice for others may be unapplicable for other people, because of the context which constructs the situation and interaction.
However I really believe Naxza has a general point for us all there. (Though I've to really argue on how that point on 'Human nature' is stated rather than 'Attitude construction' :I but I got the point. Truly a nice point.
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You aren't stupid. Stupid is generally defined by lacking intelligence or common sense. Yet how many times has 'stupid' been used as a derogative idea (a very crude idea) instead of a constructive pejorative? That is as much being presented to Caroline, than anything 'lacking intelligence or common sense'. To what standards are these even based upon? Its generally noted by her, that even the adults who are in a role of responsibility constantly use emotionally charged slurs (THIS IS SHIT) rather than logically and at times, maturely approach their problems. Which should actually be the case.
But is anyone inherently stupid? No.
And that's all to answer that question.
Yet
we can't judge thoroughly. We aren't present there, and lack the context and situational awareness, as an initial note. But that doesn't mean we can't advise to instill (additional) guidance. Problems (environmental or external)
sometimes cause an...imbalance in how one rates themselves. Descriptors and adjectives becoming labels and judicial stickers to
people, instead of descriptors of their
actions, especially if the manner of delivery is meant more for the impact of an idea than understanding of the situation. I mean,
there's information all around depending on if you know where to look, but sometimes the understanding of such information is where discrepancies come about. Understanding equalling how interaction goes, to the
present situation--something which I believe is poking at Caroline, is how they're coping with something
not being mentioned (and of course the contributors to that).
Probably burnout being the underlying cause of all that 'WORK HARDER'? (Link leads to a cached file as the link in a searchlist leads to a download)
Because in times where burnout occurs, there's a lot of...complexity given in thoughts. 'THESE LABELS EQUAL MY COMPETENCE' and all, there are many ways to see a situation and then respond to it. But everyone is involved in Caroline's situation--parents or otherwise, and all of these influence her.
Also a link to authoritarian methods (which seem very similar to what she's describing) [Last chapter requires more context :v]
I mean, they aren't bad people! Being misguided? Maybe--but very much more than 'intentionally being bad'. (because that's what 'bad people' implies...)
There's a global method of responding--its just in how we word things.
Also my wording is messy.
That's my sad >>> The will to help people is countered by inefficiency of delivery.
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