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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87510 on: January 27, 2015, 01:32:26 am »

Feeling down.

Probably playing too many games and not focusing too much on schoolwork. Feel guilty because of that. Admittedly I don't have too much work really, it's still the start of the semester. Feeling directionless though. Also could use more sleep and would like more alone time to recharge and relax but there's no real opportunities for that on campus. Either there's people outside or my roommates are in the dorm. I could probably go walk around and find some completely alone place somewhere on campus, yeah, but that wouldn't have a guitar to play, or a laptop for internet, or books to read or anything I have in my dorm room for relaxing.

Feeling like I'm wasting time in life. I get this feeling too much.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87511 on: January 27, 2015, 01:49:33 am »

Couldn't you just... take your guitar or books with you on your walk? ???
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87512 on: January 27, 2015, 01:51:32 am »

My greatmother died yesterday at the age of 94. The fact that this doesn't make me sad makes me sad. When I heard, I decided "I can't be brought down to tears now, I need to focus." Later, when I went to bed, I thought "Okay, now I can cry." But nothing came and I fell asleep after a while of laying there, feeling nothing.

She was badly demented and I had to introduce myself every time I met her. Beyond that, she was healthy for her age and very happy. She had lived a long, successful life and I hear she died peacefully with a smile on her face.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87513 on: January 27, 2015, 02:03:11 am »

Couldn't you just... take your guitar or books with you on your walk? ???
No power outlet for guitar amps. Could take the classical guitar. Wouldn't have my sheet music though, it's all on my laptop in pdf files...could take my laptop too, actually. Don't know where I'd walk to though. Also playing guitar in public could get attention. And I'm not nearly confident enough in my geetar skeelz to go out and possibly get random people asking me to play shit for them or something. And I say "books" but in reality I don't read books at all at the moment.

Ugh. I don't know, man. It's 1 in the morning and I'm probably just tired and being tired is causing a general melancholy that's causing me to ramble in sads posts. Definitely feeling bleh at the moment though. Like there's something wrong with my life that I'm discontent with and I should fix that. There's multiple things I can think of that would need fixing and all of those things seem impossible to fix though. Like, no motivation to fix it. I can think "I should do that" but my immediate reaction is "I can't do that."

Sad feels. Late at night. Should sleep now. GG internet. Sorry for rambling.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87514 on: January 27, 2015, 03:36:46 am »

Oh panic attacks, great to have you back. It's 1:30am and I can't sleep because panic attacks. And suicidal thoughts, but I'm used to those.
Also, I kind of want to just break my hand on the wall behind me, but that would be a bad idea, and I don't know why I want to do that. Random flashes of anger due to my self loathing I guess...

Or maybe because I need something to change, but I'm useless and powerless and all I can do is smash my fist into the wall.

And I don't know what to do, and my shell of emotionlessness got cracked and now I am angry and crying and panicked and trying to listen to the Bastion soundtrack to calm myself down but tears are running down my face and I just don't know. I don't know. Help me. Please.



Is it bad that I know the Bastion soundtrack by heart because it's what I go and listen to to try and calm myself down? I even know how long the pauses between songs are...

I just need to sleep, things will work in the morning. Right? Right?
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87515 on: January 27, 2015, 04:15:55 am »

* BlitzDungeoneer hugs Kaladin.

Erm, I'm not exactly great at emotional support, but if you need someone to talk to, my PM box is always open.
Let's hope everything will be alright, though.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87516 on: January 27, 2015, 05:09:09 am »

My greatmother died yesterday at the age of 94. The fact that this doesn't make me sad makes me sad. When I heard, I decided "I can't be brought down to tears now, I need to focus." Later, when I went to bed, I thought "Okay, now I can cry." But nothing came and I fell asleep after a while of laying there, feeling nothing.

She was badly demented and I had to introduce myself every time I met her. Beyond that, she was healthy for her age and very happy. She had lived a long, successful life and I hear she died peacefully with a smile on her face.
It was pretty much the same with my grandma. Well, I didn't have to introduce myself, but she didn't recognize me anyway. The last one or two years she was in bed most of the time, and one could hear her cursing through the walls... She was tough as nails, she survived a rather nasty fall a couple years before (I ended up cleaning away all the blood together with a friend) - but she did die in the end, two days before Christmas.
I didn't cry either. She had been demented for years, so I only knew her as a child, and her illness slowly destroyed my grampa. The most important feeling was relief, really.

TL;DR: You're not a bad person - it was the same for me.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87517 on: January 27, 2015, 05:20:53 am »

It's not unusual - it's not that people get happy when their dying relatives finally die, but they do get closure of sorts - they want the ordeal to end, and when it ends they can move on.


I was struck by the reaction of the wife of a patient, who was dying of leukemia. The disease had been diagnosed a week prior to their wedding and despite our best efforts it was going badly (we managed to keep it away for a year and a half, but he relapsed). In the end they married the day before he died. And when he was dying (as in, the very last minutes), she was there. It's not pleasant to watch someone die, and it has to be far less pleasant if it's someone you care about. But she stood there, with a sad smile, and didn't look away.
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« Reply #87518 on: January 27, 2015, 05:42:50 am »

Oh panic attacks, great to have you back. It's 1:30am and I can't sleep because panic attacks. And suicidal thoughts, but I'm used to those.
Also, I kind of want to just break my hand on the wall behind me, but that would be a bad idea, and I don't know why I want to do that. Random flashes of anger due to my self loathing I guess...

Or maybe because I need something to change, but I'm useless and powerless and all I can do is smash my fist into the wall.

And I don't know what to do, and my shell of emotionlessness got cracked and now I am angry and crying and panicked and trying to listen to the Bastion soundtrack to calm myself down but tears are running down my face and I just don't know. I don't know. Help me. Please.



Is it bad that I know the Bastion soundtrack by heart because it's what I go and listen to to try and calm myself down? I even know how long the pauses between songs are...

I just need to sleep, things will work in the morning. Right? Right?
Man...no... :-\
These things are common after facing the general idea of trauma and bad situations. And most forms of control start first in thoughts. Conscious intervention.
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> You need support--this is commonly seen in friends; close friends who you can trust /pretty much anything on/ provide a very powerful source of support. The idea that you aren't alone in this is a very strong aid to you.
> Communication. There's a reason for everything--and most problems are either in two fields: Internal or External, in your attitude/thinking, or what others do in the environment. If its in the latter, you need to communicate with the people around you. If its a person you commonly meet, this may be with something called 'assumptions', when people reason out things (and it gets tangled in a big ball of yarn and thread that one side can't fully see what the other is talking about, or their intent, or believes something else).

Maybe you've been called useless before--that doesn't mean you are. Its often a term tacked on with expectations, and mostly all of the times this happens is when the expectations are unrealistic...or they don't think of other ways than what is provided.

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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87519 on: January 27, 2015, 10:16:29 am »

My greatmother died yesterday at the age of 94. The fact that this doesn't make me sad makes me sad. When I heard, I decided "I can't be brought down to tears now, I need to focus." Later, when I went to bed, I thought "Okay, now I can cry." But nothing came and I fell asleep after a while of laying there, feeling nothing.

She was badly demented and I had to introduce myself every time I met her. Beyond that, she was healthy for her age and very happy. She had lived a long, successful life and I hear she died peacefully with a smile on her face.

That's not really something to be sad about. She fought the good fight, etc., had her three score and ten and then some, and she was struggling with dementia at the end. Seems like she lived a long, healthy, life and has now set off on the next great adventure.

It was the same for me with my grandfather.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87520 on: January 27, 2015, 10:20:20 am »

Y'don't need to feel bad for not feeling what you're told you're supposed to. A good chunk of emotions are things that happen to you, not things you do. There's no shame here.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87521 on: January 27, 2015, 11:26:43 am »

I advise a company, and they have survived BECAUSE they have done exactly what I told them to do. No, they didn't like it. Yes, it worked.

It seems society in general has become a bunch of obnoxious morons who need hit in the face with a hammer to improve brain functioning. People have intentionally mistaken the Enlightenment and Socratic questioning imperatives for the never ending "why?" questioning of a three year old that only ends when they get their way. Hammers to faces.... People ask "why not?" with either stupid indignation or straight up whining, and always blame to the answerer. The general bullshit form is "why not" or "why can't I have what I want?" Hammer; faces.

The question to ask is never "why not," the question to ask is "why?" and I don't mean use of mistaken as clever wordplay to ask why when you're really asking why not. Example Someone is asking why not instead of why when they say "Why does this keep happening to me?" "This" is the placeholder for the bad thing and the question they are really asking is "WHY are things NOT getting better and going as I demand they should." They are demanding the universe conform to their bullshit. No; not happening. In a world and universe of entropy, why would anything ever happen to you that was good? <--- This deceptively depressing sounding question is not depressing, but rather it is the one thing that can save humanity. More specifically, the ANSWERS to that question can.

People start out wondering why not, and the default answer is "entropy" or "the universe doesn't give a flying fuck." However, if people were to start out asking why, and then supporting the thing with answers, that is a defeat of entropy (even if only for a "temporary" 40 years or so). <-- Salvation.


Now back to the company I advise. We now have some asshole's relative and she is a "why not" person. O. Fuck. She's another moron who thinks they are brilliant because she has an MBA or some shit. Nope. She doesn't ask why. She asks why not, with an implied indignation or worse, a fake corporate sense of upbeat cheer like they demand you have at a pep rally.

Stupid the wonder bitch will compare our company to other "similarly situated" companies and ask why we aren't where they are. No no no no no, your logical error is assuming "similarity" and that doesn't exist in our little world. They have different sets of circumstances you're too stupid to comprehend and I don't feel like explaining, for the umpteenth time. In essence the bitch is whining, and she's just doing it using power point.

Compare and contrast to me: I do not use "comparable" to complain and bitch when things aren't perfect. Quiet the opposite. I focus not on others but on "us" which is to say the company. I focus on the internal workings and processes and what they are doing right and what they are doing wrong. Stupid is comparing to external factors that have no bearing on us. I am comparing to internal factors that ARE us. Sales are down? You've gone on fewer convention presentations in the trade shows for this sector of manufacturing purchasing customers, so we need to target them again with sales to bring them up. <---- Constructive solution.

In short, she's bitching the neighbors have a better car and I'm focusing on how we can afford to buy one... as the analogy goes.

She's related to somebody in the company and gets paid shit tons of money for this. [sigh]. Useless. "Management."

She states I am "undermining" her, and I reply that I am not "under her" and am merely pointing out her obvious flaws. I saved this company; twice. She's done nothing but fortunately sprout from the family tree. I sense I won't last much longer at this job and the place will go down after I leave and they start listening to her. 700 local jobs depend on this crap. Nice to know they're in her incapable hands.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87522 on: January 27, 2015, 11:39:11 am »

:-\

At least you held it together for a while. You've done a lot of good, Truean.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87523 on: January 27, 2015, 11:55:54 am »

Man, you're constantly getting the short end of the stick D:

I hope whomever actually leads the company (god I hope it isn't her) comes to their senses.

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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #87524 on: January 27, 2015, 12:05:55 pm »

* Tiruin nudges Truean a bit.
Please don't let the severity or the seeming commonality of bad occurrences blur the idea of 'these individual people' and 'generally society'. ._. Overgeneralization is a danger to professionals with those kinds of experiences.

Also EQ is the missing factor in 'why not IQ rules the world alone' :P
You're doing a lot of good Tru, don't cave in to those things. Basically, its the perception of things (helpful link, that one); but that doesn't mean that it always ends the same ways in dealing with such things. Its in how it is presented :P
(also calm down a bit in dealing with the aftermath...its them who have to live with those attitudes they carry everyday, not you :o and you're blessed like that.)
...Though its in the corporate hierarchy >_> and *hugs* and its real nice that you're the counselor of good direction for the company there.
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