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[Cryxis, Prince of Doom]

Our cat hasn't been seen for the entire day. This is really unlike him, I'm so afraid something happened to him...

.-.
A couple days ago a random cat showed up
It's super freindly and all
We think it was just dumped and found us

[Vector]

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[MaximumZero]

Hug seconded. No fun when it gets to that point.

[Itnetlolor]

Speaking of cats, unfortunately, the elder of my cats has finally gone. Died in his sunning spot, and peacefully from the looks of the corpse.

I feel content to know that I made his last years comfortable and as peaceful as I could possibly make it. Gonna miss that lazy lump. He was a peacekeeper, and a mentor to many cats and kittens in his bloodline; which I hope they're faring well out there.

I knew something was a bit off when I smelled something odd outside, and was missing some company last night, and maybe the night before. Even the other cats were acting awkward around me, as if they knew the bad news ahead of time. Come and think of it, that could explain why the most rowdy of the cats was such a lump, and staring off into space. Little guy, despite his problems with the elder, was depressed about our loss.

EDIT:
Chances are, it was also a sickness (not ebola; looks more like food poisoning (we have some venomous lizards here)). But the depression symptoms are still consistent with the other cat.

[cerapa]

So the first girl I asked out led me on for two months by saying she was "busy" and "ask me again later", before I finally gave up. She only made a half-hearted apology after I drunkenly told a friend of hers about it. Apparently it was a "confusing time" for her. I wasn't angry, just dissapointed and honestly thought I was fine.

So a bit more than a week back I ask another girl out. Same shit, busy last weekend, we'll talk next week. Seems I was pretty goddamn wrong about the "being fine" bit. Was physically incapable of sleeping last weekend, because every time I thought about it I think I had a small panic attack. I have no reason to doubt that she actually was busy, but I don't think my body agreed with that. Calmed down a bit over the week, as we were supposed to talk about the date this weekend, but she hasn't answered my message, which is making me freak out again, I doubt I will get much sleep today.

I'm freaking out right now, but what I am utterly terrified of is what it would feel like next time.

Why the fuck does this stuff have to cut so deep. I can happily go through every day not giving a single shit and have done so for years now, but suddenly I gain an interest in some girls and my mental state goes down the shitter. I'm just so tired right now.

[Dutchling]

Honest question: why keep asking after she rejected you the first time? I hope you didn't genuinely think she was busy :S

[WillowLuman]

She did say "ask again later." Speaking as a gormless person ignorant of the situation here, of course, but he did put that in quotes.

[cerapa]

She didn't "reject" me as such. If I remember correctly the excuses were 3 birthdays on weekends, job, gym and various others.

I at one point even tried to drop a hint that maybe she doesn't actually want me asking her. She quite literally told me to keep doing it.

[Eric Blank]

Honest question: why keep asking after she rejected you the first time? I hope you didn't genuinely think she was busy :S

Yes he can. I would. I can't understand social cues. Can't "take the hint." If it isn't a straight answer, I don't get it, goes right over my head. And I know I'm not the only one. So yes, he really could have thought she was being honest and not trying to drop some obscure hint someone with poor social skills won't get.

Not trying to be mean, cerapa. If you're getting girls to talk to you in the first place, you're at least not as socially retarded as I am, so that's good.

[cerapa]

Not trying to be mean, cerapa. If you're getting girls to talk to you in the first place, you're at least not as socially retarded as I am, so that's good.

I used to have your attitude before this.

Trust me, It's a lot more painful to get your hopes up and then crushed, than it is to have nothing at all.

[scrdest]

She didn't "reject" me as such. If I remember correctly the excuses were 3 birthdays on weekends, job, gym and various others.

I at one point even tried to drop a hint that maybe she doesn't actually want me asking her. She quite literally told me to keep doing it.

It may just be that LCK was your dump stat and all those were legit.

It does, however, also mean that she's not as excited for dating you as you are for her. Doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't WANT to date you, she may, for example, just be anxious. Or she agreed rashly or because she felt it would be rude to reject you but she doesn't feel like she knows you well enough to go dating, so she tries to get out of the agreement without hurting your feelings.

If she does genuinely want a date with you, she knows you're game for it - don't bring it up and if she's interested in one, she'll ask you about a possible time. If she doesn't, well, you don't force people to do what they don't want to do. If she's not interested, this doesn't mean she won't be further down the line as she gets to know you.

[Itnetlolor]

Not trying to be mean, cerapa. If you're getting girls to talk to you in the first place, you're at least not as socially retarded as I am, so that's good.

I used to have your attitude before this.

Trust me, It's a lot more painful to get your hopes up and then crushed, than it is to have nothing at all.

Reason I quit late in the (still unsuccessful) game. I'd rather live on, peacefully in solitude, than remain lonely and emotionally dead inside for the rest of my years.

Impart the "Play to Lose" strategy, and suddenly quit (or at least, act the part, and get over it). Maybe it'll have an opposite expected effect, relative to what a "Play to Win" strategy would otherwise provide? I've done a few PTLs already, and have met with unexpected successes here and there (not dating-wise yet; didn't experiment with that (Active PTL, like pulling a Costanza; not Passive PTL, like just plain quitting) yet.). Why not?

Otherwise, mark it off as another try that you can mention if people call you out otherwise on your opinions dating-wise. At least you had the balls to attempt.

[Bauglir]

Thanks for the hugs. Managed to recoup the two hours I lost by sleeping in, at least.

[Kadzar]

Not trying to be mean, cerapa. If you're getting girls to talk to you in the first place, you're at least not as socially retarded as I am, so that's good.

I used to have your attitude before this.

Trust me, It's a lot more painful to get your hopes up and then crushed, than it is to have nothing at all.

Reason I quit late in the (still unsuccessful) game. I'd rather live on, peacefully in solitude, than remain lonely and emotionally dead inside for the rest of my years.

Impart the "Play to Lose" strategy, and suddenly quit (or at least, act the part, and get over it). Maybe it'll have an opposite expected effect, relative to what a "Play to Win" strategy would otherwise provide? I've done a few PTLs already, and have met with unexpected successes here and there (not dating-wise yet; didn't experiment with that (Active PTL, like pulling a Costanza; not Passive PTL, like just plain quitting) yet.). Why not?

Otherwise, mark it off as another try that you can mention if people call you out otherwise on your opinions dating-wise. At least you had the balls to attempt.

I think it's a mistake to think of it as a game. I'm not sure what I'd compare it to, but there's no pass or fail state; you're not a winner or loser for having or not having a significant other, you're just a person who does or does not have a significant other. It's up to each individual person to decide what that means to them.

[i2amroy]

Just found out iOS 8.1 is going to be "fixing" the trick pretty much the entire emulator without jailbreaking community depends on. Add onto that the fact that currently no known jailbreak is going to exist for a while for iOS 8 and it looks like I'm going to be stuck with iOS 8.0.2 for a while. Fingers crossed that someone eventually finds a new workaround for iOS 8.1, but that is the type of thing that could potentially take years.