Social skills are not something you are born with, unless you have an actual physical disability such as autism - and even that, to my knowledge is only an obstacle, not an insurmountable barrier - they are a thing you learn. Yes, it might seem that some people are just naturals but... nope. It's just that you learn from the people around you when you are at a verrrrry young age by default, but that doesn't lock you out of anything.
There's stuff out there, preferably stuff that is actual science by actual scientists with actual figures and actual peer review, because there's also, as per Sturgeon's Law, a ton of utter junk, and a ton of the latter masquerading as the former, but it's out there, books, Internet, what-have-you.
To be totally honest, I have to disagree with the statement that there aren't people naturally skilled at them. Yes people learn as they grow and that can play a huge part, but some people simply have a knack for them that was not a result of upbringing. Seeing how I literally cannot remember anything before age 13, and how my parents were physically abusive and neglectful and how I spent most of my teenage years on the internet and not interacting with people out of choice. By your logic I should be utterly inept, however I'm quite the opposite, when I decided to go and interact with people irl, I was a natural. I instinctively knew how to fit into pretty much any situation and talk to anyone. No social anxiety whatsoever either.
There are naturals with everything. It's just how life works. Anyone claiming there aren't naturals is wrong in my opinion.
I'll poke a bit at your notice of 'knacks and inherent ideas'.
Nobody has a 'knack' for something. What 'knack' we're talking about is visible only in the results and not in how the person approaches the result--however what 'knack' exists is primarily in
how the approach happens. The thoughts and how the person works with them in a situation. The idea of naturality in this sense is presented in the intangible part we all do yet not recognize due to how
apparent it is and obvious it is, that we miss it.
Traits, talent, skills...call it whatever--all work with the approach stated. How a person 'approaches' a situation, to state as a picture.
Kevak, knowing you, you are a 'natural' in that sense because you...I'll be silly with this, 'transgress' (heh
) the norms which destroy communication--you trust people and put your trust down in the fore as you speak with them. It's a fact which precludes the thoughts of many: trusting others. That's the first basic of true communication.
So basically the internet. Since that was my primary form of socialization for most of my life and the primary source of emotional support. By that logic the internet (or at least parts of it) is an amazing parent.
I don't think anyone irl actually did anything helpful for my growth. Nor did I interact with anyone until around 17ish.
The internet is a conglomeration of minds. A hivemind from an observer, yet composed of individuals who think for themselves--its a subtle line between speaking to specific people (thank you anonymity :V) and speaking to a general audience.
The internet can be an amazing parent.
It can also be the worst stews of humanity ever.
The differences lie in the minute details ._.