Print

Please login or register.
1 Hour 1 Day 1 Week 1 Month Forever
Login with username, password and session length

[kaijyuu]

This reminded me that it's been a while since I've had a proper crush on anybody. There's one girl at work who seems like she might be interesting, but I don't even know, man.

Take her out on a date or two. Then you'll know. You might want to run away screaming but hey, if that happens you won't have wasted a crush on her.

[Kadzar]

This reminded me that it's been a while since I've had a proper crush on anybody. There's one girl at work who seems like she might be interesting, but I don't even know, man.

Take her out on a date or two. Then you'll know. You might want to run away screaming but hey, if that happens you won't have wasted a crush on her.

I think I might be misunderstanding you, but what I'm saying is I'm not actually even crushing on her. I think I'm just mostly feeling lonely lately, and I think she might be nerdy in some way (I'm mostly just going by looks with this, since I've barely talked to her at all), so it might just be a case me just going, "eh, good enough."

Plus there's the fact that I've never actually asked anyone out before.

[kaijyuu]

I warn people all the time that if they have a crush on someone, that means they should've asked said person out long ago. Dating is for experimentation; finding out if you like someone. Dating isn't an end but a means. If you've determined you like someone but aren't in anything resembling a relationship with them, problems very often arise.

Maybe you're just lonely and desperate. Maybe not. Test the waters, so to speak.

Also there's a first time for everything

[hops]

Personally I think that if that person didn't ask me out, then they probably wouldn't react favorably to me asking them out.
But hey, I guess things won't work if everyone was like that.

[Xantalos]

Personally I think that if that person didn't ask me out, then they probably wouldn't react favorably to me asking them out.
But hey, I guess things won't work if everyone was like that.

If 'things' is 'the end of humanity', then yes yes it does.

[hops]

Arranged marriage and marrying people you don't love are still options.

[ChairmanPoo]

Arranged marriage and marrying people you don't love are still options.

[TD1]

Personally I think that if that person didn't ask me out, then they probably wouldn't react favorably to me asking them out.
But hey, I guess things won't work if everyone was like that.

Usually, though certainly not all the time, the girl likes the boy to ask them out, and won't ask themselves.

[hops]

Personally I think that if that person didn't ask me out, then they probably wouldn't react favorably to me asking them out.
But hey, I guess things won't work if everyone was like that.

Usually, though certainly not all the time, the girl likes the boy to ask them out, and won't ask themselves.

I suppose the situation gets worse when it's a boy asking another boy out. Not that it really matters for me since I'm in the "Nobody deserve me and they can go bugger themselves even if they ask me out" phase.

[kaijyuu]

Usually, though certainly not all the time, the girl likes the boy to ask them out, and won't ask themselves.

Their loss.

This is a gender role/attitude/etc that only hurts the people who don't take the initiative.

[TD1]

Perhaps. but if it really hurt, I'm sure initiative would be taken. It's mainly just a vague idea of "if that boy asked me out, I think I'd say yes." Though there are those who are hurt by it, and they'd be better off working up the guts to simply ask. That's what my brother's girlfriend did.

I don't see any problem in who takes initiative, I'm just saying what the trend is.

[kaijyuu]

It's what my wife did too. And now she's got me in her claws


As a personal aside, I'll say that if someone was interested in me and failed to approach me, I'd see that as a reason to not date them. Especially if they failed to approach me due to conforming to gender roles (though far less so if they were just timid/shy). If they carry gender role expectations of themselves they probably would of me.

[JoshuaFH]

I just hate myself. I think I just have fit too tightly into this miserable mold of my life, and anyone else placed into my shoes would've just killed themselves a long time ago and saved themselves the trouble.

Though really this is just one of my moods again, I'm going to sleep soon.

In recent news, I'm squaring and corning myself into an objective this time, something to aim my aimless life at, and that's to actually break out into a residence of my own. Though the idea is still scary, and I'm not sure what I'd do from there, it's the idea of adding arbitrary elements into my life to potentially give it meaning.

This is going to be an expensive endeavor, I'm looking for a possible roommate, but the idea of rooming with a stranger is terrifying. Just terrifying, but it's not like I have anyone else. Every person is just a new bundle of problems wrapped in flesh, and I know they have an inalienably greater right to personhood than I do. That's the painful part of even being in public, I know everyone else stands on a greater terrace than I do, just looking people in the eye feels dishonest on my part, like I'm simply pretending to be an equal in this terrible society.

I'm utterly disgusted with myself for telling my therapist that I wanted to kill myself, but it was just the simplest explanation for my feelings. I could have worded it better, something along the lines of just objectively feeling my life is worthless, and that such a life has no value in the world, and thus it doesn't matter whether I'm existing or not, and therefore I'd prefer to not exist. It's hard to articulate that into words though, when someone's speaking to you, and I didn't even think to properly write it down, when I WAS writing things down. Just disgusting, just insufferable, it's been biting at my conscience all week. I'll have to make reparations.

I'm off to bed now. I have work again tonight. It's a lonely and isolating job, like all other aspects of my life, but I guess someone has to do it.

[TD1]

I physically don't have enough time to revise. Tuesday, first exam. Four essays, including scholarly quotes, to be memorised, each three-four pages long and with 35 minutes each.

I am rather screwed.

[miauw62]

Times and people change, I guess. Even online, where there's sort of an illusion that they don't.