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[Dutchling]

I want to buy a new kitchen but I have no idea where or by whom I could ever buy one :c

[LordSlowpoke]

are they

are they spreading to australia

or is the australian perth a direct ripoff of a british one (also likely)

[Blargityblarg]

are they

are they spreading to australia

or is the australian perth a direct ripoff of a british one (also likely)

There's a Perth in Scotland, IIRC.

[hops]

i think I have reached the point where.... I'm not even sure if I'm being delusional or not anymore. I just have this urge to whine and vent things out, even though I don't really have any real problem apart from the extremely meta problem of me not being sure if I should vent, which is stupid. Some people says I'm too whiny, and some people say that I'm too quiet. It really infuriates me not to know. And again, a lot of people around me doesn't seem to need anyone to talk about their issues to, and they function just fine.

What is also bothering me is that every time I try to vent, I just fail completely to communicate what I'm trying to say, and I just give up and just try to wait for people to ask me, which never work because they have no reason to worry about a stranger on the internet, and as someone on the internet, I just know that.... and by just mentioning that I'm being whiny again.

I want to buy a new kitchen but I have no idea where or by whom I could ever buy one :c

...Aw, you made spambot cry :P

[Thecard]

The reason people don't seem to talk about their problems is because those people don't talk about 'em to you. Hey, looking at this thread, you can see we all need to vent every once in a while. It's normal.

[LordSlowpoke]

actually i would be willing to speak of the problems without making a personal thread to speak of the problems but it would have a higher rate of spiraling into a shitstorm than an american politics thread at the height of the shutdown if the entire tea party registered here and started slapping bay12 in the face with a trout i believe

maybe not on this account but still

[hops]

Yeah, but thing is, I try to listen to problems, and being an outlet to people is like... what I do. I can't do anything if people don't talk to me.

And I don't see how venting about a problem will incite a shitstorm unless people are just trying to pick a fight to begin with.

[Thecard]

Yeah, but thing is, I try to listen to problems, and being an outlet to people is like... what I do. I can't do anything if people don't talk to me.

Are you a therapist?

[hops]

Yeah, but thing is, I try to listen to problems, and being an outlet to people is like... what I do. I can't do anything if people don't talk to me.

Are you a therapist?

I'm an informal consoler, I'm not trained. I just talk to people as a friend and refer them to therapists if they're willing.

[Thecard]

Okay, guys, you do need to keep in mind that you're:
a) Not trained for counseling.
b) Letting people walk on you.
c) Under no actual obligation to listen.


I know you're doing what you think any decent human being should do, but you're still human. You still need to take care of yourselves just as much as you take care of others.

I can say from experience what you're doing leads to self-contempt, jealousy, and pride. You'll hate yourselves for not being able to do more, you'll want something everyone else seems to have, and you'll look down on others for not helping as much as you are.

I'm not saying you shouldn't care about others. I am saying you shouldn't be afraid to help yourselves, too. As a side note, some people require professional help; refer them to a professional instead of trying your own solutions.



I'm saying this not to make you feel bad, but because I've done this in the past and I've had friends who have tried to do this. If someone wants a sympathetic ear, be their friend instead. If someone needs help, unless you have a degree in psychology, you are not that help.

[Mr Space Cat]

Contrast. Damnit! Who put these onions on my desk?

So many of the girlygirl problems are social problems holy crap. "finding someone who will love and care for you no matter what?" "trying to forget him but he's all you think about?" "wanting someone to hold you and tell you it will be ok?" Srsly? "wishing summer were over so you can wear your favorite clothes again?" Srsly?

There's more to life than finding a date and amassing tons of friends. If there isn't then I should just quit now, because obviously I'm doing it wrong. This mentality that having as many friends as possible and that "being single is a horrible terrible thing" annoys me to no end. It just seems like an incredibly shallow and insecure mentality that's overly reliant on others and amassing material goods for promoting self-worth.

Whatever, I guess. Rant over. People are weird. Girls are weird. Guys are weird too. People are just weird.

[kaijyuu]

Believe it or not, human interaction is the highlight of many people's existences It's certainly high tier in mine.


I take the existentialist approach and just say each to their own, though.

[MaximumZero]

Believe it or not, human interaction is the highlight of many people's existences It's certainly high tier in mine.


I take the existentialist approach and just say each to their own, though.

There are a couple of types of people that I like to interact with, and would happily do so on a routine basis. The other 95% of humanity, however, can piss off.

[misko27]

Contrast. Damnit! Who put these onions on my desk?

So many of the girlygirl problems are social problems holy crap. "finding someone who will love and care for you no matter what?" "trying to forget him but he's all you think about?" "wanting someone to hold you and tell you it will be ok?" Srsly? "wishing summer were over so you can wear your favorite clothes again?" Srsly?

There's more to life than finding a date and amassing tons of friends. If there isn't then I should just quit now, because obviously I'm doing it wrong. This mentality that having as many friends as possible and that "being single is a horrible terrible thing" annoys me to no end. It just seems like an incredibly shallow and insecure mentality that's overly reliant on others and amassing material goods for promoting self-worth.

Whatever, I guess. Rant over. People are weird. Girls are weird. Guys are weird too. People are just weird.

Hey wait. I don't want amassing of friends (Hell I continue to be surprised that not only do more then 15 people from high school know my name, but the number may be as high as 60 or 70, the vast majority of which I lack knowledge of their name), but this whole being single thing is not all that fun. It's a biological impulse.

Believe it or not, human interaction is the highlight of many people's existences It's certainly high tier in mine.


I take the existentialist approach and just say each to their own, though.

People are very varied. Of course, Human Interaction is something I tend to avoid, outside of special circumstances and certain people.

[hops]

Well I think I know my limits, and I'm pretty emotionally detached, I mean, I understand people feelings and care for them, but I'm still mostly selfish enough not to drag myself down with them.

I think what had triggered my current train of thoughts is how I realized that I want attention. Like, I want to do something that can actually impress people.