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[Foamybeard]

I feel you there. I'm either sad, angry, or nothing.

[Solifuge]

I finally asked the woman I'm in love with out today, but she just started dating someone... yesterday.

I've got crippling self doubt, and it took over a month for me to work up the courage to ask her out...But as I said, it was too late.

I feel like my heart was just ripped out of my chest and then crushed.

On top of all the issues happening in my life, I'm probably at the lowest point I've ever been at in a long time.

Foamy, I'm not trying to say I got it worse than you.. but I loved this girl for maybe 3 years. Got the courage to ask her out, and she just straight out said no really quickly. Moral of the story: Don't get too attached, I suppose. *sigh*

I think the lesson I'd take from these is "Don't sit and wait for years to do the things you want to do, express the feelings you need to express, be what you want to be, etc." Patience is good, but always think and act from where you are... don't wait for some nebulous future when things might be better. That way lies valuable time spent dreaming of possibilities that might have never been. Yes or no, it's better to know sooner, so you can plot your new course, yeah?

That said, sorry to hear that... it's a rough thing to go through. Really rough. But keep your eyes and feet pointed forwards, and you'll find new prospects.

[Projeck37]

No new girl really sticks out like her though.. it's just kinda weird. I dunno why I decided to wait so long..

[Vector]

No new girl really sticks out like her though.. it's just kinda weird. I dunno why I decided to wait so long..

Yes, there is usually breather time between prospects.  I haven't been on a date in 10 months now.

[Projeck37]

Never been on a date, nor have I ever kissed a girl. By no love life, I literally meant it sadly.

[Vector]

In that case, I wouldn't start with asking a girl you really like.  I'd start with asking a female classmate to go get tea with you, and then make small talk.  Or invite one to a study group, or something.  Start off with getting used to asking other people to do things with you, and dates are a lot easier.

[Projeck37]

Well, that already happened. Wish I had a time machine..

[Solifuge]

No new girl really sticks out like her though.. it's just kinda weird. I dunno why I decided to wait so long..

If you're anything like me, it might be because you were worried about what would happen if she didn't like you back. You didn't want to have to give up on that pleasant little "What If" you've been carrying inside you... dancing through that dream each time you run into her. Maybe you've laid restlessly in bed, torn over what to tell her, and how, and when. Rehearsing conversations, trying to build up the courage to say something, reading into the things she's said in hopes of finding a coded message somewhere that confirms what you're hoping for. Comforted by the warmth of that torch you keep carrying for her. Scared you'll learn that she's never felt those same things for you.

Dreaming of all the wonderful things that Might Be can be a very pleasant delusion... but dwelling there, afraid to threaten that dream by seeking the truth, will only hold you back from the chance that it might be real. Sometimes, you just have to act. And sometimes, by acting, we find that those old dreams weren't meant to be. But once you move beyond them, you can try again, somewhere new, and see what you might find. We wake from dreams, never to be able to go back to them... but time will go on, and there will be new dreams. And maybe one of them will turn out to be something real, yeah?

It's said that love is a battlefield. And knowing is half the battle. And forewarned is forearmed. And fourarmed is half an octopus. Therefore, knowing about future love is a skirmish between two half-octopus Battle Chimeras. And that's alright.

P.S. You should stop listening to my advice now.

[Sirus]

Friggin exhausted. Been up for something like 17 hours, used up ALL of my allowed duty time for the day (and a little more than that), and I'm afraid that tomorrow's appointment time will arrive and I will still be in the middle of my mandatory break.

Just, ugh. Rough start to going solo.

[Bauglir]

It's said that love is a battlefield. And knowing is half the battle. And forewarned is forearmed. And fourarmed is half an octopus. Therefore, knowing about future love is a skirmish between two half-octopus Battle Chimeras. And that's alright.

Welp.

[Solifuge]

If you keep looking, someday you too will know the joy, tranquility, and inner peace of Quadrapus Chimera Battle.

[Steelmagic]

P.S. You should stop listening to my advice now.

But if you're advising us to not listen to your advice doesn't that mean we should keep listening to your advice?

[Graknorke]

P.S. You should stop listening to my advice now.

But if you're advising us to not listen to your advice doesn't that mean we should keep listening to your advice?

Important word bolded for emphasis. Just don't listen to any of Soli's posts after that one.

[Ogdibus]

A spam wave is starting.

Also, why do I cry when I'm watching cartoons. :<

[Xantalos]

No new girl really sticks out like her though.. it's just kinda weird. I dunno why I decided to wait so long..

If you're anything like me, it might be because you were worried about what would happen if she didn't like you back. You didn't want to have to give up on that pleasant little "What If" you've been carrying inside you... dancing through that dream each time you run into her. Maybe you've laid restlessly in bed, torn over what to tell her, and how, and when. Rehearsing conversations, trying to build up the courage to say something, reading into the things she's said in hopes of finding a coded message somewhere that confirms what you're hoping for. Comforted by the warmth of that torch you keep carrying for her. Scared you'll learn that she's never felt those same things for you.

Dreaming of all the wonderful things that Might Be can be a very pleasant delusion... but dwelling there, afraid to threaten that dream by seeking the truth, will only hold you back from the chance that it might be real. Sometimes, you just have to act. And sometimes, by acting, we find that those old dreams weren't meant to be. But once you move beyond them, you can try again, somewhere new, and see what you might find. We wake from dreams, never to be able to go back to them... but time will go on, and there will be new dreams. And maybe one of them will turn out to be something real, yeah?

It's said that love is a battlefield. And knowing is half the battle. And forewarned is forearmed. And fourarmed is half an octopus. Therefore, knowing about future love is a skirmish between two half-octopus Battle Chimeras. And that's alright.

P.S. You should stop listening to my advice now.

Huh. If the person I felt for were single this advice would be very handy.