I suspect my romantic affection has disappeared permanently.
. . . He voted for Romney.
He also pretty much told me he wasn't prepared to go take responsibility in life and intentionally hung out with blatantly immature people in order to feel younger. He's waffly and lacking in conviction. When we were out at the bar yesterday and our 21-year-old cohort talked about how he'd come back from college, gotten really drunk, and tried to pick up various high school girls to come over (and--implication--have sex with him, with these young ladies underage), the young fellow commiserated.
And it's become pretty clear that he basically spent undergrad drunk.
That, and I think the chemistry wasn't that good. The thing is, I could see myself marrying someone who habitually voted Republican under the right circumstances, because there are a number of things they say that I agree with. And I could see myself ending up with someone who drank from time to time, or someone a bit more waffly than myself. Even someone less clever than myself, to be sure! What I'm saying is, I don't need to be with me-but-better.
But what I was looking for was someone more solid and less prone to flights of fancy, not someone who had just made himself seem consistent by choosing lukewarm living and blindly following the leader.
Man, I dunno. I'm not sure just what I want anymore. I put in a big effort to come into this with a truly open heart--to not let my overbearing sentimentality drive me into a bad relationship again, and to not let my fears drive me away from something that might have been positive thanks to an over-consideration of the surfaces of things, an obsession with terms rather than things as they are.
*shrug*
Really, when it comes down to it, I'm not sure of how I feel but I'm doing a hard lean towards "no."