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[Trapezohedron]

I also am behind this whole relationships thing. Not the only the love part, but the whole friendships and etc.

It really sucks for us who haven't had friends since childhood, being nobodies that can't relate to other people and their friendships. We tend to hide our emotions in fear of getting objections to our views. As such, we can't express ourselves to others clearly, and if we did, we'd probably get laughed about for being so "naive".

I really hate my predicament, but there's no choice but to keep moving forward, taking notes and ensuring you learn other peoples' habits and try to understand what makes other people tick.

[Kagus]

Huh.  And here I thought I was all special-like in that regard.  But, then again, I suppose that's a symptom of ye olde predicamente.

[Urist McPenguinhead]

but I'm still just a failure.

No. no no no no no.
You've probably heard it a million times, but you are not. I think I know a little of how you feel, I grew up in a house full of mentally unstable addicts, with the only sane people being my mum and I. I don't know where any of them have gone now. It's painful, I know, but you can't do much about the past.

If anything, know that people appreciate you, your posts and opinions are valued on these forums. You are most definitely not a failure. I don't even know you personally and I can tell that. You are intelligent and funny, people will see your real qualities and values, and love you for it.
Also, I think I heard you mention you went to FNM once? I don't really know much about that, but go as often as you can. Meet new people with similar interests to you and engage with them. Even if you don't feel like it, even if it feels useless, just do whatever you get enjoyment from. My grandad told me that bit of advice, and I'm very glad he did.

Yeah, you've heard all that a hundred times, no doubt. But remember we're all here for ya

[Yoink]

@Josh: No, these things you've said are seriously things I myself have experienced. As cliched as it sounds, you are not alone.

@New Guy: Yeah, that's what I try to force myself to do. It's not easy, but we have to try, right?

[Kedly]

It takes a while to learn new skills, but as long as your alive you can learn them. I'm 22 and I JUST started getting out of the house on a frequent basis to socialise. For me it took making a new best friend who allready had an active social life. He started taking me along to a lot of his social events and from there I built up a community of people who would actually hang out with me in a social setting. Being a loner for a big portion of your life has likely made you a unique person and therefor "Interesting" join a group of something you like doing (I joined the volunteer fire department) and exploit the crap out of the fact your interesting. BTW for the most part most people peak at getting drunk at parties or moving to the nearest metropolis for a year for interesting life experienced. Most people aren't as exciting as you might think.

[SalmonGod]

Just be ready to stand your ground and don't be afraid to disappoint when extroverts start expecting you to want to be social all the time.

[Trapezohedron]

It takes a while to learn new skills, but as long as your alive you can learn them. I'm 22 and I JUST started getting out of the house on a frequent basis to socialise. For me it took making a new best friend who allready had an active social life. He started taking me along to a lot of his social events and from there I built up a community of people who would actually hang out with me in a social setting. Being a loner for a big portion of your life has likely made you a unique person and therefor "Interesting" join a group of something you like doing (I joined the volunteer fire department) and exploit the crap out of the fact your interesting. BTW for the most part most people peak at getting drunk at parties or moving to the nearest metropolis for a year for interesting life experienced. Most people aren't as exciting as you might think.

Noted. I will try my best to exploit my situation.

[Kedly]

I usually find a naturally social person who has very little judgement (I seem to be able to tell if someone is a judgemental person or not pretty quickly) and just hang around them and do what they do. I have now made 3 best friends this way, and now have a social life xD.

Edit: I finally migrated up to the upper threads that actually have anything to do with dwarf fortress (Imagine that, talking about dwarf fortress in the dwarf fortress forums =P) and someone gave me a much better way of making my ocean fortress that I always attempt. My sad is I don't know when the next time I'll have time to devote to Dwarf fortess is. (Aside from socialising I still have to finish dawnguard, Im now playing guild wars, I'm playing Orcs must Die 2 with the girl Im doing stupid things with, etc. etc. I don't want to think about video games now D=)

[Skyrunner]

Being around naturally social people is the easiest way to make lots of friends xD

[Korbac]

Huh.  And here I thought I was all special-like in that regard.  But, then again, I suppose that's a symptom of ye olde predicamente.

Sorry about not being on Steam any more, dude. I can't play any games, but I'll come on to chat you anyhow.

[Yoink]

Oh hey, 3600 pages. I like that number, even if it is in the Sad thread...

Sad: I am so dreading the thought of work tomorro in a few hours that I am getting flashbacks to my school days where I would attempt to make myself ill to get out of it. I remember sticking my arm out in pouring rain to try and get a cold, for example.
Maybe I can just sleep in all day and no-one will notice. Although I actually have important things to do tomorrow, which is the main reason I don't want to go to work... It's not even a proper job anyway, this whole thing is stupid.

I think I'm gonna promise myself never to get so 'locked in' to doing anything out of a sense of "obligation" and "commitment" again. In future, if a job becomes tedious and frustrating, I will say "Fuck you" and leave. Sure, that doesn't sound like a good work ethic, but the way I see it someone like me has so little chance of getting a decent-paying job, that if I did get something which payed well it would likely be a creative thing, and as such I wouldn't get sick of it.

[miauw62]

Agh, i woke up this morning tired. Was tired all day long until i got home. Damnit body. On top of that we had sport lessons and i forgot to bring the usual bar of chocolate.

[Jopax]

Feeling kinda meh today, it might be lack of sleep (that I didn't really notice until a few hours ago). Or the fact that tommorrow I go back to the Uni and start the grueling six weeks of studying to pass everything I can because otherwise my academic education probably goes down the drain (not that I would mind that really, but I really couldn't stand the reactions of family and certain friends). Luckily I have Blockhead to calm me down, but I'm not sure how long that will last since I'm supposed to go out tonight, that involves talking and not listening to music usually, and as much as I need to avoid human contact now and kinda hide away in my room for a while there's a bunch of people that immensely enjoy my company for some reason and I do hate letting them down.

So I guess it's mask wearing time again, woooo!

[Hanslanda]

I am so not cut out for kids.

[kaijyuu]

Is anyone?