Heh, maybe. Honestly, wife would probably do that if she ever left me, though. She is not exactly big on confrontation or introspection. and if you're already leaving somebody (which you know will hurt them), rationalizing your selfish desires in regards to someone you no longer love could, I imagine, become exceptionally easy - even if you were honest and open within the context of the relationship, there's a reason you've left, after all - and it's because, in most cases, you were putting about yourself and your own wellbeing and desires above the other persons. And this isn't always a bad thing! Sometimes that needs to happen - if a person is miserable and doesn't want the relationship, they need to do that. And if you're already prioritizing yourself, well...
Regardless. People are who they are, but even if they are otherwise a pretty awesome person, a dick move for selfish reasons is still just that.
Yeah I get what you're saying. People are people. Being bad at breaking up isn't necessarily a deal breaker.
In my case, I'm not sure I could be with someone who isn't introspective. Probably why I tend to like shy people. It annoys me when people do things out of instinct, habit, or tradition, without much thought being put into
why. And when that thing happens to involve hurting someone else... No thank you. That person has their head straight up their ass. A degree of self awareness is a good thing. Hell, I could probably deal with a total sardonic asshole, provided they can give good reason for their flippancy.
Of all those "dating tip" lists I've heard or read, one thing stuck out that I'm planning to use extensively: If they're rude to the waiter, don't call back for a second date.
* kaijyuu ends rambling.
Not sure what to think honestly. She said she can't handle our relationship right now even though all i ask is for her to listen when i need her to. She says she still loves me like that but is already eying someone else. Says I don't care even though to my knowledge I've never done anything to make her think that. I'll admit I've done and said some pretty stupid stuff but she said we worked past it.
Kinda makes me want to just give up on women
I'm pretty sure it's already ended, but if you really want to get a good reason as to
why, I'd sit her down face to face, alone, to have a good talk about it. Try to get her to open up. Maybe it's some incredibly stupid reason and it's a good thing you're breaking up. Maybe it's a real problem, but a fixable one, and you can salvage it. Maybe you messed up big time, but can learn and do better with the next girl/guy.
Though really at this point, from the info you've given us, I don't think it'd be too out of line to just never talk to her again and move on.
* kaijyuu shrugs.
Oh, yeah don't blame all of womenkind just because of a few bad experiences. Small sample sizes and whatnot. I don't know all that much about dating specifically, but I do know a few things about people, and underneath all the layers of social expectations and gender roles, men and women really aren't all that different. You'll find good people, bad people, idiots, and really smart people on both sides, and the main difference is how they express it all (generally speaking; exceptions to every gender rule, of course).
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