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[SalmonGod]

I feel like that alot Aqizzar. My 23rd b-day is coming up pretty fast, and I'm just terrified at the prospect that I'm getting older, yet achieving so little in the process.

I'm 28 and alternate between depressed resignation and frantic inspiration.

I don't know if I should feel reassured or doubly worried.

Just keep it always in the back of your mind that time is passing, and your future self will judge your past self.

[Frumple]

Go with reassured. I'm usually both of those simultaneously, and I'm only a bit younger than that. Just need to find the balance, mostly ♪

The nihilism helps. If there's no genuine point to it all, you can't really fail to live up to your nonexistent standards of accomplishment. Rather freeing, really ♫

[JoshuaFH]

Go with reassured. I'm usually both of those simultaneously, and I'm only a bit younger than that. Just need to find the balance, mostly ♪

The nihilism helps. If there's no genuine point to it all, you can't really fail to live up to your nonexistent standards of accomplishment. Rather freeing, really ♫

While I appreciate the very nice music marks, I've been spending alot of my life trying to escape from the feeling of worthlessness that had dogged me. Believing that things have no point, atleast in my eyes, will only exacerbate the feeling that life is pointless.

Now I must go and study Tautology.

[Descan]

My standards for myself are both gruelling and long-term.

If I can live long enough to live forever, I'll have accomplished it. I'd prefer it if I was one of the researchers working on it, but I want it done, either by me or others.

Everything else is gravy. Which, while delicious, isn't always necessary.

[MaximumZero]

I feel like that alot Aqizzar. My 23rd b-day is coming up pretty fast, and I'm just terrified at the prospect that I'm getting older, yet achieving so little in the process.

I'm 28 and alternate between depressed resignation and frantic inspiration.

That sounds familiar. Even the number is right!

[Valid_Dark]

I recently got blender, I haven't made 3d stuff in a very long time,  and need some 3d stuff for the next game I'm going to be working on.  So I downloaded it and installed it, then I realized I forgot how to use blender.
I got tired of learning c++ so I'm taking a break and instead will be working on some graphics for my next project for the next week or two, then I'll prolly go back to learning c++.

[JoshuaFH]

Sometimes I fear that I'm destined to die without doing anything notable, if only because I don't seem to feel sense of accomplishment.

I mean, whenever I finally push myself to actually do something that actually takes more than a single day to accomplish, I'm just not sure if I feel anything when I actually get it done. Whenever I think I accomplish something noteworthy, it's just a sort of burning pit in my stomach that's ACKNOWLEDGING that I did something good, but I'm not sure if it feels good.

Living a worthless life of a person that's never had to work really hard, has never had anyone really encourage them, always had to work alone, and is easily distracted by the plethora of cheap and easy entertainment that's possible in the world, and living in a place where actual opportunity is distant and rare... I just don't know if I'm worth anything. It feels like to get anywhere, I have to spin my wheels fruitlessly for years and years until something finally catches, and even then I'm not sure if I'll enjoy it. I'm not sure if it'll give me the success and the recognition I want.

I just don't know what to do.

[Truean]

Have a friend trying to get a free dissolution out of me.... It's hard because she actually is a good friend. I understand that she doesn't have cash, and I really do get that. I also understand my student loan payments.... Moreover, it seems no one has money anymore/everyone wants something for nothing. If I do things for free, I won't make any money/ever be able to pay off my student loans/live.

This case is something we charge $500 for so it isn't minimal. Morever, there's a petition for disillusionment, a separation agreement, and a judgment entry, and you need to meet a time or two, or more in order to work those things out. Then there's a hearing. Then you've got to get a copy of the final orders (certified at $1/page by court) for work purposes plus any QDROs (Qualified Domestic Relations Order). Also there's usually changing back to a maiden name (but here she never changed her name in the first place). That doesn't even touch the very real risk that if they don't agree 100% then they can't have a dissolution, which screws over the whole thing.

She basically looks at is as "cheaper than a divorce," which is true, but it just isn't that simple. She's essentially asking for several pages prepared by a lawyer (I won't do that "just look it over" shit, because then I'm stamping my seal of approval on someone else's work and could have that come back on me).

She's also trying to be smart and calling the domestic relations court and they are telling her the filing fee for where she is is $150, which is TECHNICALLY true. However, that isn't the only filing fee. Remember that certified judgment entry at $1/page...? That doesn't account for QDROs either. Yeah, the court has a little fee for everything.... It'll easily be $200, at least, but "she heard" that it was $150.... [facepalm]. At least listen to me damn it.... I don't care what the court told you.... [shivers] It isn't the whole truth....

Imagine you're a doctor who can heal the sick; you're surrounded by the sick; the hospitals aren't hiring; and no one really seems to appreciate what you can do....

[ToonyMan]

Sometimes I fear that I'm destined to die without doing anything notable, if only because I don't seem to feel sense of accomplishment.

I mean, whenever I finally push myself to actually do something that actually takes more than a single day to accomplish, I'm just not sure if I feel anything when I actually get it done. Whenever I think I accomplish something noteworthy, it's just a sort of burning pit in my stomach that's ACKNOWLEDGING that I did something good, but I'm not sure if it feels good.

Living a worthless life of a person that's never had to work really hard, has never had anyone really encourage them, always had to work alone, and is easily distracted by the plethora of cheap and easy entertainment that's possible in the world, and living in a place where actual opportunity is distant and rare... I just don't know if I'm worth anything. It feels like to get anywhere, I have to spin my wheels fruitlessly for years and years until something finally catches, and even then I'm not sure if I'll enjoy it. I'm not sure if it'll give me the success and the recognition I want.

I just don't know what to do.

Somebody needs to share with me!  And by that I mean I think when you accomplish something the next step is to advance even further from there, share it with people, and possibly do something completely radically different.

Fantasize man.

[MaximumZero]

Have a friend trying to get a free dissolution out of me.... It's hard because she actually is a good friend. I understand that she doesn't have cash, and I really do get that. I also understand my student loan payments.... Moreover, it seems no one has money anymore/everyone wants something for nothing. If I do things for free, I won't make any money/ever be able to pay off my student loans/live.

This case is something we charge $500 for so it isn't minimal. Morever, there's a petition for disillusionment, a separation agreement, and a judgment entry, and you need to meet a time or two, or more in order to work those things out. Then there's a hearing. Then you've got to get a copy of the final orders (certified at $1/page by court) for work purposes plus any QDROs (Qualified Domestic Relations Order). Also there's usually changing back to a maiden name (but here she never changed her name in the first place). That doesn't even touch the very real risk that if they don't agree 100% then they can't have a dissolution, which screws over the whole thing.

She basically looks at is as "cheaper than a divorce," which is true, but it just isn't that simple. She's essentially asking for several pages prepared by a lawyer (I won't do that "just look it over" shit, because then I'm stamping my seal of approval on someone else's work and could have that come back on me).

She's also trying to be smart and calling the domestic relations court and they are telling her the filing fee for where she is is $150, which is TECHNICALLY true. However, that isn't the only filing fee. Remember that certified judgment entry at $1/page...? That doesn't account for QDROs either. Yeah, the court has a little fee for everything.... It'll easily be $200, at least, but "she heard" that it was $150.... [facepalm]. At least listen to me damn it.... I don't care what the court told you.... [shivers] It isn't the whole truth....

Imagine you're a doctor who can heal the sick; you're surrounded by the sick; the hospitals aren't hiring; and no one really seems to appreciate what you can do....

Well, if it helps at all, Truean, I would pay for your services, were you licensed in my state. With money, even!

[Truean]

Have a friend trying to get a free dissolution out of me.... It's hard because she actually is a good friend. I understand that she doesn't have cash, and I really do get that. I also understand my student loan payments.... Moreover, it seems no one has money anymore/everyone wants something for nothing. If I do things for free, I won't make any money/ever be able to pay off my student loans/live.

This case is something we charge $500 for so it isn't minimal. Morever, there's a petition for disillusionment, a separation agreement, and a judgment entry, and you need to meet a time or two, or more in order to work those things out. Then there's a hearing. Then you've got to get a copy of the final orders (certified at $1/page by court) for work purposes plus any QDROs (Qualified Domestic Relations Order). Also there's usually changing back to a maiden name (but here she never changed her name in the first place). That doesn't even touch the very real risk that if they don't agree 100% then they can't have a dissolution, which screws over the whole thing.

She basically looks at is as "cheaper than a divorce," which is true, but it just isn't that simple. She's essentially asking for several pages prepared by a lawyer (I won't do that "just look it over" shit, because then I'm stamping my seal of approval on someone else's work and could have that come back on me).

She's also trying to be smart and calling the domestic relations court and they are telling her the filing fee for where she is is $150, which is TECHNICALLY true. However, that isn't the only filing fee. Remember that certified judgment entry at $1/page...? That doesn't account for QDROs either. Yeah, the court has a little fee for everything.... It'll easily be $200, at least, but "she heard" that it was $150.... [facepalm]. At least listen to me damn it.... I don't care what the court told you.... [shivers] It isn't the whole truth....

Imagine you're a doctor who can heal the sick; you're surrounded by the sick; the hospitals aren't hiring; and no one really seems to appreciate what you can do....

Well, if it helps at all, Truean, I would pay for your services, were you licensed in my state. With money, even!

Thank you, it really does help. I'm astonished the number of people who wouldn't say that.....


[hug]

[SalmonGod]

I would, too.  Except I really wouldn't be able to pay all that.

[MaximumZero]

[hugs] Hey, I know how it feels too. Computers and all. Anyway, let me know if you wanna vent. I'm good for that.

[Descan]

I can't pay you with money.

But I can pay you with cuddles! That's just as good, right? ... Right...?

[SalmonGod]

Actually, I probably would be able to pay.  I was going to say all those fees look like they'd easily add up to a month's rent... but if I got divorced, I'd probably be moving back in with my parents for a while.  So yeah.  I would gladly pay for your services, Truean.