I went briefly. If you're not willing to pay out money to get someone to see you more than once every month, or you're so scared of talking to people that you'd consider lying to the person in question (and are a good liar >_>), then I don't think it's really worth it in terms of... fixing stuff.
Well it's hard, but doable. My eyes get glassy and my voice a bit unsteady when talking about these sort of personal things.
If it's apathy, I'd strongly recommend going out and trying a bunch of new things. Learn a new language, study some history, do whatever feels unnatural. Cook, sew, do cartwheels... and yeah, I know those are all "girly" things, but if girls can go take up facepunching and porn with little flak, it seems only fair to let you do some girl-things, too. Plus, if you can think of some sort of overarching goal (like my goal to no longer live in the US), you'll be helped out a lot. It helps even if you can figure out a list of things you don't want to do.
A sort of club would be ideal. However there's little my area has to offer in this direction. I have considered a number of things, which will become an option, once I'll be going to college in Vienna.
(Obviously, you aren't completely apathetic, because you know there's a problem with your apathy. You've got a good foothold already, doodabuddy)
Could be.
But realising how powerless you are in dealing with it, just adds to the problem.
I'd say... try to find out what's up with your parents. Talk to them, find out what the situation is. Of course, that's a very American sort of thing to do, so I don't know how well that will work. But open communication is generally helpful.
There has never been much talking in my family. A lot of yelling, yes, but very little talking and even less listening or attemting to understand each other.
We don't have much in common, so even a casual conversation is quickly becoming ackward. Discussing our views on different things, often results in an argument and someone storming off furiously.
We can't even watch television together. I just can't stand the voice-overs, that the polish television insists on using and my parents refuse to watch anything in german.
I think distance and some time are needed to unclench that relationship.
And then, more social contact should help the burnout. I'd almost suggest a penpal. Hell, I'd love to write someone outside of the US once every month. Love. I was just thinking about coercing some people here to write to me.
Considered this myself a year or so ago. I think I dropped the idead, because I was afraid. What if I didn't like the person, or just didn't find much interest in her?
I feared it could become an chore and I didn't want to be impolite.
For other things, I personally keep a fairly extensive journal, just to write about how things have been going lately, where I am, where I'd like to go. That's really helped, too, because it can actually help with the lack of social contact. For reference, I'm currently living in a house with some roommates who are pretty much never home, and basically don't talk to anyone but my mom every once in a while. So, I imagine we're in similar straits, but that journal has been really helping me keep from getting lonely.
I tried keeping one, since self-reflection has always been important to me and I spend a lot of time in my head anyway. Thought it would suit me.
However as soon as I had written something down, it became silly, deprived of all meaning and just
false. I prefer my thoughts to stay in my head.
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