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[Duke 2.0]

 I have a friend who doesn't have much time to live, and I don't know what to say to them.

[smjjames]

I have a friend who doesn't have much time to live, and I don't know what to say to them.

Cancer? Well, um, advanced condolences to you.

[ToonyMan]

I have a friend who doesn't have much time to live, and I don't know what to say to them.

I don't know what you could say either.

[nenjin]

I have a friend who doesn't have much time to live, and I don't know what to say to them.

Tell them you valued the time you got to know them, and will remember them long after they're gone. Not much else to be said.

[scriver]

sigging

While I don't want to brag (I totally don't, I swear! I absolutely hate writing this!), check out my first post. Or, well, the thread it was posted in.
That's right. Sigged on my first post.

I have a friend who doesn't have much time to live, and I don't know what to say to them.

Tell them you valued the time you got to know them, and will remember them long after they're gone. Not much else to be said.

This is very good advise. Don't let (possible) gender roles stand in the way of crying together either, if you feel you have to.
(And just to be clear, as I realise I might not have made myself known very well at this site, that the above might come of as taunting or something through the emotionless media that is the written word; I am being sincere.)

[Taco Dan]

Why are people trying to break my forum adventure? People are at least semi-serious about Adventure Guy, but I don't think they're even trying with BitQuest.

[Chaoswizkid]

A friend in Florida was telling me about his cousin's family he's living with right now, about how his cousin's sister pushed him down and he caught himself from falling. He was then yelled at from his mother for it... yes... for catching his balance. This mostly makes me sad that he has to live with them and that people have to put up with it (and angry that people are like that to begin with).

Then I saw that Duke has a really sad happenstance occurring right now. Again, with the sadness in the thread recursion...

[scriver]

Why are people trying to break my forum adventure? People are at least semi-serious about Adventure Guy, but I don't think they're even trying with BitQuest.

Retro did have to tell people to stop being silly, though.
Also, people calmed down over time - the first pages are almost nothing but off topic banter.

[Cthulhu]

Playing Nethack, had -25 AC, +5 Grayswandir/+2 Silver Sabre, two or three wands of death, all the necessary intrinsics, I was pretty much ready.

While heading down to start on Gehennom, I killed a frost giant, drank his potion, polymorphed into dragon, lost +5 Shirt/+5 cloak of displacement, was waiting it out when something came around the corner, I attacked without looking, bit a cockatrice.

:c

And what's worse is I know I won't be able to rest until I do it all the way.  I have to beat this game.  It's part of my cred.

[Gunner-Chan]

I have an odd lingering feeling today is going to be really bad for me.

[Aqizzar]

I have an odd lingering feeling today is going to be really bad for me.

One can only imagine why...

So hey, the other day I was whinging about changing college courses at the last minute.  Turns out, switching to a more interesting and convenient class about Greek philosophers instead of Czechoslovakian administrations has completely fucked up the rest of my enrollment.  It counts as a credit for the requirement my Social Theory class was supposed to substitute for.  So now I probably need to replace that with another Political Science class, and that Eastern European class has already filled up in the three days since I dropped it.  I also realized I probably need to enroll in one more class, because I was adding up my credits wrong.  And today is the last day to pay before autodrops and late-enrollment fees begin.

Here's hoping the department planner is worth the money I help pay her.

[Vector]

I have a friend who doesn't have much time to live, and I don't know what to say to them.

At a "correct" moment, tell them you'll be there if they want to talk.  Then be as normal as you can.  I say this mostly because of a kid I'd heard of who was dying in high school, but kept going because he wanted so badly to enjoy the trappings of a normal life.  He didn't even tell his friends, because he didn't want them to treat him any differently.

Your friend may not be the same as this guy (... age is a factor), but the aforementioned offer should make it so that he/she feels comfortable (or at least more comfortable) talking about things when he/she needs to.

... Hope this helps.


@Aqizzar: Man, that sucks about the classes.  Good luck, dude.

[Aqizzar]

I have no real experience with death.  The only people I've had any relationship with who died were two great-grandmothers and a friend in junior high.  He died suddenly and I heard weeks later.  One great-ma was thoroughly senile for years and sequestered in a medical home.  The last time I saw her, she was wandering around my mother's house looking for a choir.  The other great-ma was coherent her whole life, but never in great health.  We chatted about careers and fashion, which was difficult because she was nearly blind and deaf.  Always good to talk to, but difficult to talk to because I assumed I had to treat her as fragile as possible.  When she died, far away from me, for a very brief moment at her funeral I felt relieved that I wouldn't have to worry about meeting her at family reunions anymore.  Beyond that, any time someone I know of dies, there's nothing I can do besides look depressed and be silent.  I don't know any other good emotion.

Now I'm sad that I'm a terrible person, and I have absolutely no advice or helpful comment for Duke, and I've hijacked his problem to talk about mine.  Good God I'm awful.

@Aqizzar: Man, that sucks about the classes.  Good luck, dude.

Problem worked itself out.  Adviser got back to me in an hour, and it turned out I did my math right the first time and don't need another credit.  All's good.

[Duke 2.0]

 Just to clarity, this buddy is just wondering if they will live to Christmas. So it's more of dealing with a buddy who is scared of dying alone, and they don't know when it'll happen. It's not like Cancer where a doctor says they have some amount of time to live but persistent health problems over the course of their life that are accumulating.

 I'm still not quite sure what to say to them. I wish to say something along the lines of what Vector suggested, but I fear it may reinforce their view of "I'm dying, I won't live long". Everything I could think of would either be too far for the relationship we have or reinforcing that idea in some way.

[Vector]

So... basically, the dude doesn't actually know if he's going to die?  I mean, if you don't have a very close relationship with this guy at all, then it'd probably just be a situation where you express your condolences and try to extend yourself to him a bit more.  Plus, if he's "just" in a life-threatening circumstance, that's not quite the same pot of beans.