No! Oh, god no! Vector, since I've been here you've been nothing but sweet to me! You didn't offend me, I was just being a goof off !
Phew, I'm so glad =)
That whole Lesbian v. gay thing is sort of weird; I think it generally has to do with the world being run by men, in a literal and real-time sense and a traditional societal sense. Its okay for women, because men think its sexy- or at least unobtrusive. Most people that I've come across who are homophobic seem like their big fear is that a gay guy will turn them or take advantage of them (or mayby just be thinking about it). That's a pretty lame assessment but it makes sense so far as I can tell.
Though I'm not entirely certain what you mean by "the world being run by men," I'll have to admit that a lot of housewives would disagree with you. The general opinion from my experience is that male dominance is mostly a puppet government, and women have been holding together/manipulating civilization for thousands of years. Of course, that's not exactly scientifically provable, so I'll just throw that out there. I'm not denying inequity in the workplace, naturally--I'd have to be insane. I'm mostly speaking in terms of other, less tangible societal norms.
Similarly, I realize that anecdotal evidence is not worth much--but it's what I have, so I'll put it out there. I understand why people can end up being afraid of being hit on by gay individuals (though I really don't understand the "virus" thing. That's just weird). I was pursued for eight years by a lesbian. I've endured endless glompy hugs, having my chest grabbed/patted/whatever, and so on--to the point where I used to get in massive brawls with one of the people in question. There will always be people who don't understand boundaries, of course, but there was a persistent problem: if a man did that, it would be sexual harassment. When a lesbian does... well, I don't know. If the pursuer were male, I would have gotten some sort of higher power involved.
Knowing tat your gay from 9 and then coming out at 15 it makes you very unstable and anyone can really affect you.
And then there's people saying things like this. She was very unstable and depressed. I was worried that if I withdrew my friendship, she would kill herself--she'd certainly threatened it enough times. I couldn't convince her to go to a psychologist, and she was also my only friend until I hit 17 or so. She supported me through my own share of dark moments, because we had both spent most of our lives being ostracized to differing degrees. I might have abandoned her to her fate, had I not been afraid of the backlash against those who fail to protect a marginalized individual. As it was, we spent a few long, miserable years protecting each other. Her mother still hasn't forgiven me for what I couldn't do.
So, what can I say, other than that there's an enormous societal pressure to be kind to homosexuals and it backfires at times =/ I don't know if this story did any good or bad, but it's there, and it's true.
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