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Yeah, I know. This shitstorm is getting pretty old, huh?
In any case, he can fuck off and take his parents and sycophants with him. I don't care how awesome the people at his job think he is, I don't care how many times he wants to say I'm a weakling who deserves what I got. I don't care if he's sitting around going "I am the most awesome dude evar and she is a crazy psychobitch." I'm not taking any more of this.
I hope you're making a clean break of it this time. Every time you come back is only going to encourage the behavior that drove you away.
Yup. This is it. I'm changing my IM and email address, ditching Facebook so that I won't see Aspen on there and think about Rosewood, and going to do whatever I can to keep away from the bastard. I'm giving his family's books back and putting the crap he gave me (other than the mechanical pencil, which I'm deeming too damned useful to shelve) in the back of my closet, until I'm ready to deal with it.
This is it. When he treats me like this, it's over.
Time for new social networks?
The nice part is that I didn't have a social network or support system. That was why it was so hard to get rid of him. The idea of having a friend is alluring. His parents are nice to me and ask me over for dinner, and they said I could talk to any of them whenever I want if I need help. He was always encouraging of my mathematical career and helped shore me up in that area, and he kept me believing I might be able to make friends someday.
No one has ever been that nice to me before. Never.
But I'm going to walk away from him and everything he represents, because this is not the right time to be friends with him. Just as my friend Thyme needed time to grow up, so does he--and when he's ready and I have some better tools to deal with the particular problem he represents, I'll check and see if I want to be friends with him again. It's a hard decision, but I've made it before.
She used to beat me up, hit me with a ladle, swear at me, and tell me I was ruining her life (on top of copying everything I did, hitting on me in a rather stalkerish way for 7-odd years, and trying to steal Rosewood when we first started dating). Now she's a close friend who is doing everything she can to help me out and has pretty much lost all of her past unbearably negative qualities.
I seem to be having similar experiences with a couple of other folks I put on the back burner for later, so I won't be completely alone. I just don't have anyone within physical distance right now--but they'll be here.
I've got an ace in my back pocket, and it's time to put all cards down. I may keep making the occasional unhappy comment about him here, but they won't be from recent experience. It is time to Get That Party Started.
edit - I wrote this post before vector's last post. no, i'm not trying to make light of her situation. I have been thinking of her situation these past couple weeks and been hopeing things turn around for her. 
Dude, I will not eat you. If you try to convince me that the situation is better than it actually is (in the "what?! Having friends doesn't matter! What's wrong with you?" style) I will eat you, but not otherwise. Do not worry. I am eternally grateful for everything people say to me here, even the dumb puns, one-liners, and occasional weird remarks. You guys are the best b '
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I hope you're making a clean break of it this time. Every time you come back is only going to encourage the behavior that drove you away.
Time for new social networks?
Quoted for emphasis. That's some shit, and you really shouldn't have to deal with it from anyone considering themselves your friend. Granted, there is always the possibility of equivalent amounts of poor emotional judgment on his end, leading him to be ignorant to his jackassery, but that's not okay.
I could post a bunch of conjecture about him and the situation, but it's really not going to do you much good. I hope that you can make that emotional break, and find other people to spend time with, because I don't think his presence is helping you right now. Perhaps later, if he pauses to consider your well-being, as a human being whom he allegedly has concern for... or generally gives a damn. Otherwise, I don't think you need that right now.
As usual, take it with a grain of salt, since it's coming from an unfamiliar perspective. Nevertheless, I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
No, thank you for the sage advice. I'm taking it this time. I've gotten good and pissed, and I'm completely prepared to call it a day. Were I younger, I'd kick his shins in and then walk away--but right about now, I'm just going to rant about him on the internet and change my contact info up :I
I cannot shake the feeling that he's going to be an extremely important person to me later in life, but I've felt this multiple times before when I needed to back off from the person in question and wait until the time was ripe. I have a strange sort of knack for guessing what sort of person somebody will become, in time, so I end up in all kinds of arguments with myself. I "know" that someone will be exactly what I need later, even though he's being horrible to me at the time--so I end up going "ditch him now?! But how could I, when he's going to be a fast friend on my Quest To Save The World?"
But yeah. This guy wants a hard, fast ditching, so I'm going to do that, clean up all the other tattered fragments of my life, and move on. We may end up falling in love again (and for some reason, I have an oddly certain feeling that it will be so--even though I do actually hate the man and all the crap he's done to me), but for now he can eat my dust. I think it's high time I took some time away from him. Like... a year and a handful of months. My projections say that he'll be good dating material after another relationship or two and 5-7 years of maturing. We'll see if I'm still interested then.
What will be, will be.
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