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[i2amroy]

Not to take any wind out of your sails (because I agree with the vast majority of your points here and aren't trying to shut you down or something), but technically you can change how introverted/extraverted you are (it takes years of conscious effort though). It is a sliding scale after all, and I certainly know that I'm a fair bit more extraverted now than I was several years ago through my own efforts in that area. While you might not be able to pull a total roll reversal, you can certainly slowly shift where you are on the sliding scale enough to change your location over time.

That's definitely something that you should be deciding though, not something that other people decide for you (and in fact it's one of the few decisions that is literally impossible for other people to make, if you don't want to change you won't, simple as that). And honestly (assuming the age you have listed is right) it's going to be at least another 3-6 years before your brain is physically developed to make choices about how to consciously change yourself in that way anyways, since the parts that deal with deep self-introspection don't fully form until around your early 20's.

[ArKFallen]

since the parts that deal with deep self-introspection don't fully form until around your early 20's.

Really? This gives me a new perspective of myself. Thank you.

[i2amroy]

Yeah, it turns out that that's one of the reasons why your college years are considered so formative (though we didn't know this was the reason at first). It's only around college age that you finally gain the ability to ask yourself "what do I actually want to do" and get an answer back that is good enough to make decisions on it.

[USEC_OFFICER]

Coming home from a shitty day at work, I managed to tune into a song that I can only term 'Portuguese Polka Boyband Fusion'. It was so amazing and cheered me up after a bad day, and now I'm absolutely sad that I'll never hear it again. Because, you know, the radio station was in Portuguese and I didn't understand a word that was being said.

_{I just wanted to get that off my chest. You may now resume your usual, more important sadness.}

[Bohandas]

Not to take any wind out of your sails (because I agree with the vast majority of your points here and aren't trying to shut you down or something), but technically you can change how introverted/extraverted you are

Is there some kind of conversion therapy for that?

[Levi]

I caught a cold. 

[i2amroy]

Is there some kind of conversion therapy for that?

Not really no, it's more just spending lots of time (months to years) constantly pushing your boundaries little by little until they slowly expand. (A big first step for me was consciously making an effort to remember my classmate's names). Something else that also helped me personally was finding a more extroverted person and making an effort to befriend them, since I could count on them to help me keep the pressure on my boundaries up, but it's definitely not a "one size fits all" type of thing, so every person is a bit different.

Let me tell you though, it's still kinda crazy to be deciding to change things about myself and then actually following through with them instead of petering out after a few weeks. o_0

[Worldmaster27]

sunburns on my feet (and like everywhere else) and so no sock for me

D:

[TheDarkStar]

Is there some kind of conversion therapy for that?

Not really no, it's more just spending lots of time (months to years) constantly pushing your boundaries little by little until they slowly expand. (A big first step for me was consciously making an effort to remember my classmate's names). Something else that also helped me personally was finding a more extroverted person and making an effort to befriend them, since I could count on them to help me keep the pressure on my boundaries up, but it's definitely not a "one size fits all" type of thing, so every person is a bit different.

Let me tell you though, it's still kinda crazy to be deciding to change things about myself and then actually following through with them instead of petering out after a few weeks. o_0

I did something similar over the last several months. I went from being fairly introverted (as in, I had trouble having friends because I didn't really talk unless someone talked to me) to somewhat-less-introverted (I go and talk to people by choice now). The change is definitely an interesting process to watch. I'm not extroverted (and that's not a problem), but I'm extroverted enough that I can participate socially. The main thing for me was deliberately going and saying something to people, even if it was just saying "Hey" or "Good morning". Eventually, talking to people felt more natural.

[Tack]

Yeah I actually had a Japanese guy at my work and he's asking me all about these questions of when kids usually move out vs Culture and whatnot.
So I replied 'The brave ones move out just after highschool, the majority move out after college.'
He's currently trying to figure out if he should live like he lived back in the homeland or try and make his baby birds leave the nest already. He's not entirely sure on their romantic prospects, ifyougetwhatImean.

Nevertheless it was an interesting conversation.

[Yoink]

I watched the last episode of Danger 5 last night. There is no more.
I'm not sure what to do with myself now.

[Tiruin]

Not to take any wind out of your sails (because I agree with the vast majority of your points here and aren't trying to shut you down or something), but technically you can change how introverted/extraverted you are

Is there some kind of conversion therapy for that?

Err...just to quickpost, 'introvert//extrovert' aren't innate characteristics, but categorical descriptions of characteristics...in modern times. Nobody is truly one sided here in being an extrovert and introvert [as there's a lot of other factors influencing those behaviors], and iam2roy is right in noting that its a sliding scale of attitude.

Basically, its a branching concept of Jung's original notion of psychological energy (libido), as outlined in his theory of personality, which used analogy to thermodynamics*...as you can note that when people use the idea of introvert//extrovert, there is an implication towards 'energy'...which is somehow connected to how 'attached' people are in socializing. Which is where the confusion starts.

*Energy cannot be destroyed but flows from one form to another; energy moving from one psychological constant, dependent on the environmental stimulus, can move to another constant {an example used was 'A student focuses on their studies, thus expending their energy there. The student then falls in love, thus distributes that energy not fully on studies, as the new stimulus occupies part of that energy flow}
...Which makes sense in analogy, but do note. "Theory"
_{Yeah Theories of Personality is a !!fun!! Psych Course Subject.}

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[Do note, Libido, as a term for Jung, was not only sexual, while the contemporary understanding of libido is {from what I believe} Freudian...being revolving around sexual].

Disclaimer: Messy wording/format due to fast typing due to lacking time @net connectivity.

[Helgoland]

Tiru dear, that quickpost is about as long as an OP I write when opening a new thread.

[ArKFallen]

Tiru dear, that quickpost is about as long as an OP I write when opening a new thread.

Just means Tiru doesn't have as lax standards as you or that what she considers quickposts are based on the time it takes to type and post.

[wobbly]

Err...just to quickpost, 'introvert//extrovert' aren't innate characteristics, but categorical descriptions of characteristics...in modern times. Nobody is truly one sided here in being an extrovert and introvert [as there's a lot of other factors influencing those behaviors], and iam2roy is right in noting that its a sliding scale of attitude.

Yep. I live a little hermit-like these days but I'm actually quite sociable when I do spend time with other people. I was a shy kid, a party animal in my 20s, hermit-like in my 30s, 40s+ ? These things changes, they are habits, behaviours & attitudes as much as anything. Don't get conned in to thinking you are or aren't an introvert.

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