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[miauw62]

So the girl I've been interested was finally at work the same time I was there. Thing is, she was just starting her shift, and mine was just ending. I panicked on the inside, since it seemed my opportunity had come up a bit unexpectedly. So I finished off the last few minutes of my shift with some busywork while I thought of what to do, and I eventually decided I would be Mr. Smooth and buy something so I could ask her out at the register.

But when I got to her register and as she was checking me out, I froze up. Suddenly I was filled with all kinds of doubt: self-doubt, doubt if it would be worth pursuing a relationship, doubt about whether it was even a good idea to ask out a coworker, and the fact that there was a counter between us and some guy behind me made me feel like the situation wasn't right for it. So I paid for my stuff, went to my car, and felt like a dumbass.

Follow up to this: I saw her again today, but it was just as I was in the middle of heading out the door. And I just kept on walking because the situation came up unexpectedly and I didn't know what to do. When I thought it over in the car, she was at the far register this time, so it probably would have felt more like we had some privacy than yesterday, so maybe it would have felt more comfortable this time.

But I blew my chance, and now I have no idea when I'll see her again; most likely it will be another couple weeks, and I don't really want to go through that again. Part of me wants to just drive back there right now and ask her while I know she's still there; but another part of me feels like that'd be over-dramatic, that it wouldn't work out the way I think it would, that I'd mess it all up and end up looking stupid.

Some wise men on this very forum gave me some advice once.
"Just do it, the regret you'll feel from not doing so will last a lot longer than if she says 'no.'"

I too have taken this advice, and it is the best thing you can do. Fuck regrets. I've done so much stupid shit in the past six months, and I don't regret anything, because I know I would've regretted not doing it a thousand times more.

[Kadzar]

Okay, next time I ask people to wish me luck, can someone just wish me a little luck? Because I just rolled a critical failure: the place was pretty busy when I got there, and I didn't see her at any of the registers or anywhere out on the floor.

Once I was sure I absolutely sure she wasn't there, I dove out of there as quick as I could before anyone could recognize me and retreated to my car to think. I eventually determined that I wouldn't be able to wait things out, so there was nothing to do but withdraw for now.

But I'm not giving up, if anything I've strengthened my resolve. Since I just had a crit failure, it's now less likely that I'll have another one (yes, I know that's not actually true, but shut up; I'd like pretend it is for now).

Although I'll probably need some luck from you guys (seriously, don't be stingy with it; I know some of you are making sacrifices to the RNG god anyway).

[miauw62]

Hey, my post wished you luck in every way, I just didn't type it out literally

[Kadzar]

Yeah, but unfortunately you posted after the fact. What I'll have to do next time (assuming there is a next time where I am forewarned enough ahead of time to be able to ask Bay12 for luck) is make a post asking for luck, then wait around a bit afterwards so I can gather up all the luck into some sort of luck version of the Spirit Bomb from DBZ. Then I guess I need to figure out how to aim it or something. (Maybe I dump it on my head?)

[GiglameshDespair]

Alright, better luck next time, Kadzar.

[MaximumZero]

That doesn't count as an attempt. You haven't failed yet. Oh, and do yourself a favor and ditch the one liner. Just, "Hey, I keep running in to you here and I'd like to grab a coffee or something  with you sometime," works really well.

[Vattic]

Had planned to spend the evening with a friend, but he's not feeling great and has called it off.

[Vector]

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[Yoink]

Good luck, Kadzar! You can do eeet!

[Kadzar]

Yesterday.

I just can't.

I don't even know what to say.

[Imperial Guardsman]

(flaming removed)

[Vector]

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[i2amroy]

Let's all calm down here a minute. IG, what's going on? I'm sad that you're holding onto some kind of bad feelings and don't feel able to express them anywhere, so this thread is officially appropriate. Are you okay?

Yeah, that's definitely the vibe I'm getting as well.

[Imperial Guardsman]

No, Im not fucking okay, Im dealing with idiots left and right, and have to put up with my family's shit. only 10 percent of the day am I actually something remotely close to happy, the other 90 percent Im either talking to people only to find something to chew them out over or laying on the couch contemplating suicide.

[Vector]

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