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[Descan]

Usually the omnicidal is "We're enslaved! But we can DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!"

Though sometimes... there is no reason.

[pisskop]

So, I'm typing my term paper, trying to spray (ideas in paragraph forn) and pray (that enough stick and I can find supporting data).  Its going surprising well (master procradtinator: ) ). Until, that is, I type something like this:

'The media. . . simply by neglecting to discuss a point. . . limits one's pool of knowledge. . . although one may quickly reveal with science. . .

  'with science'?  nooo, that's not A grade material.  Too long here.

[Cthulhu]

What's with Mac users and sticking cutesy shit all over their computers?  God I hate that.

[kaijyuu]

I have a pony plushie atop my PC case. Does that count as cutesy shit?

[Nadaka]

I have a pony plushie atop my PC case. Does that count as cutesy shit?

Nope, doesn't count, because it isn't on a mac.

My pc is made of wood and brass and dust and cat hair and chipped finish.

[Heron TSG]

Sweet bajeezus. I hope you have some vents in that thing, it looks insulated as fuck.

[kaijyuu]

That's either absurdly awesome or awesomely absurd.

[Nadaka]

Sweet bajeezus. I hope you have some vents in that thing, it looks insulated as fuck.

The wood does insulate, on the plus side it isn't as loud as a metal case. Those vertical grey slots on either side that are filled with dust and cat hair? those would be the intake vents. They are full of dust and cat hair because they are filtered, and I should really vacuum them out more often.

That's either absurdly awesome or awesomely absurd.

Why yes, yes it is.

[ashes]

....

[kaijyuu]

Yikes dude. Get the fuck out of there as soon as possible.

[Reelya]

@ashes: that sounds like a textbook case of a psychologically abusive mother, both how she talks and how it's affecting you. And you're dad sounds like he's in denial, or just not getting involved.

It's not you (at all!), it's THEM 100%, especially your mother, in this case.

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For those who grew up living with Mommy Dearest, Mother's Day isn't always a celebration. Adult victims of maternal abuse don't have warm memories of spending time with a loving, supportive mother and they may still suffer from low self-esteem and depression.

Many studies show when mothers criticize, humiliate and withhold their affection, the toll it takes can last for a lifetime, according to ABC News.

Women comprise 56% of all abusers, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. And of the various kinds of abuse, which include physical and sexual, the most common form is psychological.

Resource page about abusive mothers:
http://eqi.org/eam1.htm
Quick quiz about your mother:
http://eqi.org/ptest.htm

Here's their checklist of abusive mother traits:

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General Characteristics of Emotionally Abusive Mothers

    Making the child/teen feel responsible for the mother's feelings.

    Threatening them in general.

    Threatening them specifically with rejection or abandonment.

    Threatening them with vague, unstated consequences.

    Using force upon them.

    Invalidating their feelings.

    Laying undeserved guilt on them.

    Placing undeserved blame on them.

    Dominating the conversations.

    Refusing to apologize.

    Always needing to have the last word.

    Judging or rejecting their friends.

    Sending them to their rooms for crying.

    Locking them out of the house.

    Using punishments and rewards to manipulate and control them.

    Invading their privacy.

    Under-estimating them.

    Failing to show trust in them.

    Labeling them.

    Criticizing them.

    Giving them the silent treatment.

    Failing to give them real explanations.

    Giving non-explanations such as "because it is wrong" or "because it is inappropriate" or "because it is a sin"

    Slapping (see below)

[pisskop]

Beware the absolute.  But I think they are certainly at major fault.

[Reelya]

Well, when someone believes they themselves are worthless human beings, and says his mother did stuff like threatened to abandoned the family "because of me" that a 100% giveaway.

Threats of abandonment and "i wish you were never born" etc are the hallmark of child psychological abuse.  Ashes seems to have internalized the criticism to the point he now believes it's true: "the world would be better without me".

If you read the literature, that's exactly what the psychologist say happens in these cases.

[Loud Whispers]

I know that feel ;(
          *LW relates...

[dei]

The imageboard I have been posting at for a couple weeks now got hacked and now three of the boards have essentially been disabled. This kind of upset me a little bit and I hope the administrators at Aurorachan can fix the problem soon.