There are two sets of laws: one for straight people and one for gay people. The straight people have it better. Imagine two young people caught making out in a public parking lot in a car. The results practically are far different when it's a boy and a girl instead of two boys. Though many police and straight guys in general seem oddly enough completely cool with lesbians. Go figure.
A police report is a public record. If I filed a gross sexual battery charge against a man, he would invariably defend himself against it. Part of that defense would be consent: that we were on a date. This would make the details of everything public. We arranged to meet, have dinner, have him pay for it, etc. The groping was far, far from planned.... Though good luck proving that. This could easily be made to look like a "hook up," where this sorta thing happens consensually.... Public spectacle in a court room being transcribed by a lovely woman with a lovely little type writer called a court stenographer. Then of course there's usually a reporter or two creeping around court houses, usually some local paper or something. That'll get somewhere on page 24 of some forgotten section of the subscription they sell, but it's in print....
Then of course being an attorney, people I work with and against are other attorneys who regularly look up court records.... Forgetting all of that, the time
my sister the thing that doesn't breathe in my general direction tried to
blackmail me for money and numerous other things with this knowledge she did everything she could to get something on record saying I was gay including trying to say one of her friend's kids was mine/getting me to pay child support for it.... (Blood test wasn't really necessary but it proved that notion clearly wrong). I "persuaded" her she had numerous reasons to never speak of it again or so much as think of a thought related to the general gist of it. She hasn't; she won't. You know I used to be "such a nice boy...."