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[Criptfeind]

I miss Cheddarius.

Please come back.

[kaijyuu]

EDIT: Moving to progressive rage thread.

[Vector]

@Solifuge: You're probably right.

(Sorry, that is the best anyone is going to get out of me right now.  I'll probably say something more tomorrow, but right now I just... don't... have... the... energy...)

But having bad body language skills isn't a huge deal, and it can be easily be compensated for.

Not for me.  This is why I'm so good at picking apart rhetoric--I honest-to-goodness can't read tone or figure out how people feel most of the time, so I've gotten very, very good at looking at particular words and sentence structures so that I'll know how to respond (basically appease, smite, or ignore).  I am... very... bad with facial expressions and emotions/motivations in general; most of my understanding of body language is very binary good/bad or attached to situational information, not emotional/internal information.  It's even worse because most of the time, I forget to even pay attention--I'll go "Oh, yay, I'm talking to someone!  And they're talking back!  This is good!" and then later I'll think "I have no idea how the other person felt or thought about that at all, because I was so busy trying to keep saying things at roughly the right time."

Books were also a big thing, when I saw lines like "she gave a wry smile", it helped me a lot in connecting the dots between expressions and intentions.

Yeah, I've done that, too, but "expressions and intentions" wasn't what I was working on, it was "expressions are attached to emotions at all."  My entire time in elementary school I'd complain about feeling sick and having a stomachache, and I only later realized that it was because I was socially stressed (it'd come up without fail if I spent more than an hour or two at someone else's house, because I just couldn't stand being around people that long).  Or I'd be at someone's house and I'd just wander off outside because I couldn't take it anymore.  Didn't understand the feeling or the trigger... just something that said "time to be outside and touch rough things now" and a rubbery feeling of being unable to move my face.

[Truean]

Apparently, my resume should be no less than 10 pages....

[Darvi]

Can that even be called a résumé? Last time I checked, those were meant to be, well, brief.

[Truean]

Can that even be called a résumé? Last time I checked, those were meant to be, well, brief.

Brief? I wish.

Apparently it should list all the things I've done over the years to showcase my various legal skills, types of motions and papers filed, familiarity with the filing of paperwork, case types litigated, etc etc etc. Sounds more like  freaking CV to me. I'm gonna have to go back years and years to figure all this stuff out.

[Nadaka]

So I just got home from shopping after work, and took my shoe off to discover a few inches of my sock drenched in blood. Taking that off I found a fairly large deep hole in the top of my foot. I don't know how or when it got there because it hasn't been hurt or even bumped. What the hell?

[Pnx]

Not for me.  This is why I'm so good at picking apart rhetoric--I honest-to-goodness can't read tone or figure out how people feel most of the time, so I've gotten very, very good at looking at particular words and sentence structures so that I'll know how to respond (basically appease, smite, or ignore).  I am... very... bad with facial expressions and emotions/motivations in general; most of my understanding of body language is very binary good/bad or attached to situational information, not emotional/internal information.  It's even worse because most of the time, I forget to even pay attention--I'll go "Oh, yay, I'm talking to someone!  And they're talking back!  This is good!" and then later I'll think "I have no idea how the other person felt or thought about that at all, because I was so busy trying to keep saying things at roughly the right time."

If you're anything like me then what they were thinking was probably something along the lines of "that's interesting", or "I never knew that".
I think you might feel you're expected to have a super-human ability to read emotions. Most ordinary people aren't actually that good at reading emotions, and if you're having trouble reading someone's facial expression, it may just be because they're stone-faced.

A good bit of advice about body language is that it's a lot like other languages, it's best learnt through use. If you focus on learning "how do I do X" rather than "what is X?". You'll generally learn faster.

Yeah, I've done that, too, but "expressions and intentions" wasn't what I was working on, it was "expressions are attached to emotions at all."  My entire time in elementary school I'd complain about feeling sick and having a stomachache, and I only later realized that it was because I was socially stressed (it'd come up without fail if I spent more than an hour or two at someone else's house, because I just couldn't stand being around people that long).  Or I'd be at someone's house and I'd just wander off outside because I couldn't take it anymore.  Didn't understand the feeling or the trigger... just something that said "time to be outside and touch rough things now" and a rubbery feeling of being unable to move my face.

Hah, you know you're talking to the borderline agoraphobe right? I'd say in my case it was partly being unable to read things, but also from the general information overload. Although to be honest, I think it was mainly just the complete lack of control. I'm pretty bad around strangers, but I'm good with people I know, because I know what to expect from them. I can walk a thousand miles if I've got a good friend by my side.

[MaximumZero]

RIP: Chistopher Hitchens.

[Pnx]

So I'm feeling depressed, I find myself reflecting that because I paint on so much of my expressions and emotions I feel incredibly artificial as a person. I often times find it hard to feel human. Sometimes I feel like a robot pretending to be a Model 1 Human.

So to take my mind off of things I decided to play an indie game that I've heard is deeply and emotionally moving. It's called "To the Moon"...

Out of all the games in all the world, why did I have to pick that one? I mean honestly, what are the odds?

[Criptfeind]

My dog is restless and can not sleep. And though a process I am merciful enough to not tell you guys I am now restless and can not sleep.

[Heron TSG]

Spoiler: Because I suck at words at midnight (click to show/hide)

[Darvi]

Apparently they don't make lenses that would fix my eyesight completely, or even close to.

Welp :V

[Lord Shonus]

Vision is returning, but I still only have one usable eye for any length of time. (Had a rather large scratch on my right cornea.)

[Darvi]

Fucking right corneas, how do they work.

(Not properly, that's how.)