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[Darvi]

Not quite sure how I feel about that.

Be afraid. Be very, very, afraid.

[Nadaka]

Vector: It sounds like this guy is worthless... No, sounds like he has negative worth.

My father was an abuser, I know exactly what you mean about victims being silent and rewarding the behavior and taking a long damn time to get wrap your mind around it. My childhood was a horrors show that I almost never talk about or think about because of the injustice of it all.  And yes, we were all made to feel like we deserved it, if we didn't feel that way, there is no way you could accept it and allow the abuse to continue.

Any apology he is offering is insincere. To make him look better to others, to get the opportunity to abuse you again, or just so he can pretend that it absolves him of any responsibility for the damage he did to you.

This is normally the part where I would tell you to have some pride because you know all the  bullshit he put in your head was wrong. And that feeling good about yourself is the thing that you really deserve. But I know that isn't something you are looking to hear.

[SalmonGod]

*bites own eyes out in frustration*

I hate Saturdays.  Upper management here insists on running our production formulas the same as any other day of the week, while completely ignoring

1.  We have half the staff (at most) available.
2.  Most Saturday work is of almost no urgency.  Most of the day we are only required to be here as a precaution, and do semi-optional stuff in the meantime.
3.  Almost everything that doesn't fall under #2 is also the most difficult stuff possible to process.  We get stuck with all the stuff that people have been unable/unwilling to process over the week.

It amounts to a day loaded with pressure with more than twice the workload and twice the difficulty as any other day of the week for no real reason at all.  I don't know why they think it's acceptable to single out one shift (mine is the only one that ever has to deal with this) and force us to work at more than twice the expected rate under more difficult circumstances without any justification.

Oh yeah, and this is all while being even more sleep deprived than usual, as I'm forced to come in two hours earlier than every other day.

[Vector]

Thank you.

No, I appreciate your statements.  I really, really appreciate them.  I'd like to hear things like that because I feel really ashamed of myself for not just dumping him, but I was too naive back then--and I really did think it was my fault.  I didn't understand just how everything worked... and I imagine you can understand why I'm worried, now, about people telling me things about myself.

I guess my objection is a little bit more subtle than I can express right now, but needless to say your statements definitely don't fall under it.  But what I really want to say is thank you to everyone for supporting me and taking care of me.  You guys were honestly the folks that helped me feel like I had value in the first place.  And, well, thanks for continuing to stand by me.

[Gunner-Chan]

Well now I feel like a total idiot since I must of took that huge post the wrong way. But anyway...

I guess if I was going to say something about it, the best thing to do is just ignore the guy exists. And if he gets weird or even worse about the apology get a restraining order.

[Vector]

Well now I feel like a total idiot since I must of took that huge post the wrong way. But anyway...

I guess if I was going to say something about it, the best thing to do is just ignore the guy exists. And if he gets weird or even worse about the apology get a restraining order.

Don't feel stupid.  I wasn't exactly rational at that time and don't really know how to properly express my wishes, so I can't expect anyone to follow anything I said other than "don't tell me what my brain is doing and don't tell me what to do in the name of feminism" =)  I think that's clear enough.

And, thank you for the advice.  I'll try.

[KaelGotDwarves]

Speaking from personal experience, restraining orders are extremely difficult to get. Although a female citing a troubled male might have better luck, you need proof of intentional physical harm.

Unfortunately it's the mental and spiritual harm that's often worse.

We all support you and others in seeing the worth that you always had, Vector.

[Vector]

Speaking from personal experience, restraining orders are extremely difficult to get. Although a female citing a troubled male might have better luck, you need proof of intentional physical harm.

Unfortunately it's the mental and spiritual harm that's often worse.

We all support you and others in seeing the worth that you always had, Vector.

Bah, humbug, I meant "I'll try" in terms of "I'll try to forget," not "I'll try to get a restraining order."  In case any of the powers that be happen to be reading this.  I don't want to visit any difficulties upon this person; I figure he'll get his own eventually.

But, thank you.

[JoshuaFH]

It's so good to hear that you're doing so well Vector. That you're looking at your past and evaluating the things that hurt you, and letting them go.

Happiness is a matter of perspective, and yours is getting that much better.

[ChairmanPoo]

I just updated to Ubuntu 11.04. Kind of regretting it.

[Grimshot]

 I just bent my pinky toe upwards on a roughly 90 degree angle.

Happy I am not...

[Jack_Bread]

Yay. My brother's here.
Family tension is rising.

[The Merchant Of Menace]

Ugh.. another sleepless night because of nightmares and flashbacks

[Grimshot]

I read back a few pages just now.

Vector, Dunno what to say other then I wish you well. I'm not good with this sorta stuff but you sound like you could use the support. I loathe people like your ex-friend and ex-boyfriend...

[Bohandas]

I interrupted an ant colony's mating thing (they're all concentrated in one spot on the surface, over a thousand of them) with a poison spray.

Am I a mass murderer now?

No. However I do wish to lodge a moral objection to the interruption of any sort of "mating thing"