However, there are situations where one or two gay guys I don't really care for have hit on me continually, and in so doing step way beyond the bounds of personal space... trying to hang on me, get in touch with me, etc. and it makes me feel really skeezy. I do not enjoy when that happens at all.
For that, I've been called a Homophobe. Go figure.
Yeah, this. Folks who don't hit on me: A-OK. Folks who do hit on me, or who do so after I've expressed disinterest:
not fucking cool. I don't care if we're both women, you don't get to grab my breasts--whether I'm awake
or asleep. It's not funny, it's not cute, it's sexual harassment. I've had two women decide this was cool, one straight and one gay, so I don't think it's necessarily an orientation problem--but at least the first one wasn't getting turned on as I tried to fend her off =/
I'm also not that fond of gay guys who tell me to look out for homophobes and beat them up if they bother us while the person in question is browsing the gay porn section of the local video store. I'm a full foot shorter and probably as much as 40-50 pounds lighter. It feels like being used as some sort of butch benchmark to offset the person in question's desired (?) femininity. If he were asking "if someone heckles me, you'll back me up, right?" I'd certainly say yes. When it's "I want you to be here to do the fighting while I run and/or watch," I get pissed. Sure, it might have just been a joke, but it's not a very funny one. Again, this happened only once, but I've been in enough fights myself to be nervous about it.
So, I don't know if this counts as homophobia or not. Everyone who hits on me with any sort of sexual undertone makes me feel really nervous nowadays, so it's definitely not restricted to gay people. Most guys know better than asking me to fight in their place; whether that's out of misplaced chivalry or simple courtesy, I don't know.
I hate to admit, though, that I'm still far more comfortable around men than I am around women. The latter, especially lesbians, make me nervous. I also typically relate better to men... *sigh.* There's still a long way to go for Vector.