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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #11775 on: September 09, 2010, 12:58:47 am »

This sounds for all the world like some sort of cathartic, stream-of-consciousness lucid dream. In ways, it reminds me a bit of my good friend's mental processes whenever he was getting close to a panic attack... the breakdown, the worst-case worries, the self doubt, and more. I can see the fear and worry here, mixed into a great pool of self-doubt and confusion.... and I think fixating on the confusion and worries themselves is causing a snowball effect... building and building until that becomes the object of your focus. You're getting lost in a sea of Bad Dreams here.

I think you could probably use something grounding to focus on. I don't know what that is, but something tactile and methodical; enough to occupy your mind and hands, like yardwork or origami. You can recognize that the things floating through your head aren't helpful, so accept them for what they are and let them be... and let your focus drift from them to something more sound and tactile.

As for the rest, the feeling of abandonment is never pleasant, and tends to leave lasting marks. I've been there, having lived a transient life in a trailer park where classmates, neighbors, and best friends disappeared every few years, with a mother who was always out at work or with friends, and a father who stopped coming home one day. Believe me when I say I know how that feels. I'm still really withdrawn when I deal with people, no matter how long I've known them. Even with family.

If I can't offer a solution, maybe there's some comfort in knowing that other folks have felt the same thing, and with time can work through it.

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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #11776 on: September 09, 2010, 01:21:04 am »

I always feel REALLY REALLY bad for people that hurt themselves in sports. I mean, they're playing the game to have fun, right? It doesn't feel right that people hurt themselves so often.

I mean, in high school, there was one guy that was almost perpetually in a leg cast from playing football. Whenever it healed fully, he'd get back in the game and hurt it again. I always felt really sorry for him.
One of my bros in school injured himself on like the second skirmish of the year (football I'm pretty sure), now I carry his backpack around everywhere because he's on crutches.  I saw him hopping down stairs yesterday because he was sick of "going on the fucking elevator".

Hehe, he's cool.  He wants to take over the world.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #11777 on: September 09, 2010, 01:31:09 am »

 Heading upstate to attend my grandmothers funeral. First funeral I've ever been to. Hopefully I won't ever have to get used to this.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #11778 on: September 09, 2010, 01:41:20 am »

Heading upstate to attend my grandmothers funeral. First funeral I've ever been to. Hopefully I won't ever have to get used to this.
Oh boy, I'm used to it.

I hate them, like complete loathing.  I hate when people die.
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« Reply #11779 on: September 09, 2010, 01:43:41 am »

Heading upstate to attend my grandmothers funeral. First funeral I've ever been to. Hopefully I won't ever have to get used to this.

Ah man, I'm sorry for your loss. My Grandfather's one was pretty tough, because I'd never seen my father cry before. But it's not as bad as you might be thinking, the wake is nice and it sorta felt good to give closure to the whole thing, you know? He was an amazing man and he had a great life, so I'm not upset over his passing.

I spent the first half hour before the actual service re-designing the church in my head in DF and figuring out how to add a badass burial system, too.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #11780 on: September 09, 2010, 01:44:45 am »

Was left today by my girlfriend of three years. It's technically "just a break," but they never really are, are they?
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« Reply #11781 on: September 09, 2010, 01:48:27 am »

Was left today by my girlfriend of three years. It's technically "just a break," but they never really are, are they?

I'm sorry to hear that and hope you feel better soon.  Seriously.


@Solifuge: Thank you, and more on that later.  Currently business.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #11782 on: September 09, 2010, 03:41:46 am »

And no. No they aren't.
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« Reply #11783 on: September 09, 2010, 03:52:36 am »

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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #11784 on: September 09, 2010, 04:03:08 am »

I'm sad that my big toe (right foot) is infected and leaking pus. It hurts a lot less now that pus has leaked out though.
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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #11785 on: September 09, 2010, 04:07:13 am »

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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #11786 on: September 09, 2010, 04:41:29 am »

Goddamn forum software, making me retype this post.

I'm also dependent on fish oil to keep my brain working "normally" and my experiences mostly attached to reality.  I haven't taken it for a couple days at the moment, so my referential problem-solving network is fucking around and failing to turn mental metaphors and idea synesthesia into comprehensible text.  Now it feels like I'm floating again and my little ticcy symptoms are coming back.  Anxiety, paranoia, feeling like I want to crush myself into a little crystal sculpture and hide it somewhere safe where it can't interact with anyone and no one can stab it again.

Would that I could say more helpful, but as someone who's developed a few temporary substance dependencies, I can say - never underestimate the power of the brain to convince itself.  It is after all a chemical stew that produces all your thoughts, and if it's not getting what it thinks it needs, you can wake up one day expecting the sky to be green, and you won't know why you expect that or what's wrong with it.  It's a terrifying feeling, but as "dependencies" go, fish oil is nothing to be afraid of, if just a little concerned about.

I can't say much about abandonment, which surprises me, given my own history.  I think I'm being abandoned right now by... well, I'll figure it out.  But regarding the thing with Rosewood and dreams, don't let your memories fool yourself.  Dreams are like that, they're thoughts and feelings born out of illusory senses, and your mind can rewrite itself to make them mean something.  You know why your relationship with that guy is over, don't let your subconscious try to make you doubt yourself.

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Re: Things that made you sad today thread.
« Reply #11787 on: September 09, 2010, 05:07:17 am »

FUCK cold showers.

FUUUUCK them, wonder when the boiler will get fixed.
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« Reply #11788 on: September 09, 2010, 05:07:34 am »

In ways, it reminds me a bit of my good friend's mental processes whenever he was getting close to a panic attack... the breakdown, the worst-case worries, the self doubt, and more.

Lucky for me, this is nowhere near breakdown territory.  It's the start, to be sure, but I can hold it together way past here, for a long, long time (order of years with no one noticing unless I let them).  I'm not particularly worried about that, since generally that's just the mental soup I've lived in for most of my life.  They aren't worst-case worries.  They're usual-case worries, which are now indistinguishable as worries because they're so common.

To be honest, I didn't even notice anything was wrong until I randomly started crying, and then I had to go back and figure out what was messing me up so much.


I can see the fear and worry here, mixed into a great pool of self-doubt and confusion.... and I think fixating on the confusion and worries themselves is causing a snowball effect... building and building until that becomes the object of your focus. You're getting lost in a sea of Bad Dreams here.

Possibly.  Mostly, I don't even think about these things, when I can.  It just occasionally jumps on me that I've been having nightmares for a good long time, without really seeing the pattern or the theme--or I notice that my face doesn't make sense, when I can usually cope with that and the occasional fantasies of getting a veil or something  ::).  I think I noticed too much at once, and it all collided into a mess.

Now that I'm no longer distracted with the Rosewood issue, all the stuff I'd been living with pre-Rosewood that was magnified by his presence seems to be wreaking its merry havoc.  My brain isn't sure what to do with all that muck, isolated as it is.


I think you could probably use something grounding to focus on. I don't know what that is, but something tactile and methodical; enough to occupy your mind and hands, like yardwork or origami. You can recognize that the things floating through your head aren't helpful, so accept them for what they are and let them be... and let your focus drift from them to something more sound and tactile.

Possibly.  I think you're right in that I need something to tinker with, but most things fail to keep my mind busy enough... it just chews them up, spits them out, and leaves me with very little relief.  The truth is that the "dream" you saw is just the way my mind represents things on a fundamental level: a clutter of imagery, gestures, and tactile sensation that makes little sense when untranslated.  The trouble there is that the translator was breaking down, which... as you so astutely guessed... occurs whenever I'm feeling threatened.

So, I need to go do something that will give my networks enough work to calm them down and get them running smoothly again, while convincing my translator to do its job.  Hm... guess it's time to go do that sewing project and make a start on one of the novels I have lying around.  I also have some letters to write and paperwork to fill out, so that should keep me busy for a while.


As for the rest, the feeling of abandonment is never pleasant, and tends to leave lasting marks. I've been there, having lived a transient life in a trailer park where classmates, neighbors, and best friends disappeared every few years, with a mother who was always out at work or with friends, and a father who stopped coming home one day. Believe me when I say I know how that feels. I'm still really withdrawn when I deal with people, no matter how long I've known them. Even with family.

If I can't offer a solution, maybe there's some comfort in knowing that other folks have felt the same thing, and with time can work through it.

I think that in my case, it's almost too ingrained into my personality.  It's... a long story, but I'll just say that it's been reinforced since my earliest years constantly through now that I'm going to be passed over, left behind, and thrown out over and over again by everyone I know.  I'll usually be blamed for it, too.

I don't even know why.  I thought it was because I have brown hair and eyes.  Then it was because I was too smart for my own good.  Then because I was bad at mathematics--I showed them, I have to say.

It just... happens.


It's a terrifying feeling, but as "dependencies" go, fish oil is nothing to be afraid of, if just a little concerned about.

I'm mostly annoyed, because every time I feel fine and stop taking the damned fish pills religiously, I'm okay for a few days and then I start having massive hilarious moodswings again.  No hallucinations, though, which is a plus >_>


But regarding the thing with Rosewood and dreams, don't let your memories fool yourself.  Dreams are like that, they're thoughts and feelings born out of illusory senses, and your mind can rewrite itself to make them mean something.  You know why your relationship with that guy is over, don't let your subconscious try to make you doubt yourself.

It's not trying to make me doubt myself--it knows that every single facet of me hates him for what he stands for, what he did to me, and his life choices.  I don't entirely know what it wants.  I think it's just trying to tell me it happened again, and that I need to do something to make sure this stops happening.  I just can't figure out what I'm supposed to do this time, because it doesn't know yet.

I know my subconscious will cough up instructions in time--good instructions, which will keep me safe and sound from both myself and the outside world.  It's just that right now, it doesn't know what to do, so it's shuffling through the problem.  My personal suspicion is that it's saying "get used to it, sweetheart, because this is clearly what your life is about right now and it's about time that you learned to work alone."

My subconscious is a tool :I



Thanks for the advice, you guys...
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« Reply #11789 on: September 09, 2010, 05:13:57 am »

Speaking of showers, my shower makes me sad :(
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