@BHK:That seems kind of a very asshat move from him. Can he even do that? Like, seriously, I'd ask your mom to look into the terms of the custody agreement.
...BHK, you are not a disappointment just because you're not the best at schoolwork. I'm, well, not to brag, but, most people seem to think I'm smart and there were times when I couldn't manage to meet a similar high standard. But seriously, I'd talk to your teachers and possibly counseling staff about this, because this is pretty serious life-affecting stuff. They might be willing to be a little more lenient or give something for extra credit.
And I tell you this with 100% certainty:The only way you'll never be anything is if you give up on it. If you keep trying, you can be what you want to be.
I wish I could help more. What kind of stuff are you struggling with?
I'm in a better mood after some talk with people, but I'm still just worried that my performance isn't enough. I'm just worried that I'm a big fish leaving a small pond, and nothing more :/
Knowing a bit of your background--your worries are pretty much alright, but your performance not being enough can be said to be misplaced; you're being forced to achieve high grades rather than encouraged and supported (ie Authoritarian vs Authoritative). You aren't 'a disappointment (living)' if you don't achieve the grades people expect you to get, as grades are influenced by many factors such as stress, personal affects, familial happenings, support, and reinforcement of habit--with this last part also being affected a lot by other aspects in life (eg socio-economic/cultural, physical and mental pressures, etc.)
well I had might as well stop waking up in the morning since I can't get all A's and B's on my report card and dad is planning to revoke mom's custody of me if I don't accomplish exactly that. Guess that dad's right and I'm just a disappointment, why the hell do I come to school or wake up anymore, I'll never be anything or help others or achieve any of my naive, stupid fucking ideals anyway
Do wake up in the morning because your life isn't based on grades. If that pertains to future work or jobs--it's not solely based on grades (and that's undertaken in Industrial/Organizational Psychology on job analysis), as it also includes one's experience, attitude and personality, along with academics related to the field you're going in. "Mediocre" (and I use this word very figuratively and not literally at all) grade students versus Suma Cum Laude students can be picked over the latter because of their
applied/field experience over theoretical experience :O
That said, given...some personality points about your dad, it's best not to take his judgements literally if they're solely negative. IMO, figuratively is the better way, as you can stretch the ideas (condescending as they may sound) towards any perceived mistake in the future, disconnecting the meaning from what you're doing NOW along with detaching it from 'you', into what can probably be made better.
Do wake up, because I enjoy being greeted by you daily. :3 And even if your ideas may sometimes need a lot of improvement--that's 'some' of your ideas, you've got a lot of good potential there that will manifest if you keep persevering, and not giving up just yet.
Also the metaphor of fish and ponds are out of context in yours.
The idea is supported by the fact that other fish can pretty much help you rather than 'me vs world around me (accursed puddle! I need more swim zone!)'
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