The world really is rotten, isn't it? [+earlier ruminations on being what they say you are]
Nah, it isn't. These things happen.
If I'm expected to play the villain to everyone, should I?
Why should you, first of all? So what if they keep calling you trash + crappy adjectives to the superlative degree? Do they define you? They define your actions or how others saw them, for me.
This all goes under
conceptual knowledge--in the timeline we all have called
Life, our experiences follow what first comes to us, and what we experience later on. If we indulge in believing we are [some kind of negative idea that is obviously superficial], then that becomes a concept that conflicts with our identity of the self,
especially because those descriptions only happen when people try to describe attitude (but then connect it to the person instead). This is my sad, particularly in how communications works in that context. Instead of "Your attitude isn't good dude -_-", there goes the idea of "You're a horrible person."
Blunt and rough as that is, it isn't necessarily only on 'what others tell you'. This also holds for intrusive and superficial thoughts! Thoughts that come and demean you because you heard or had that concept thrown at you or at your quality of worksmanship before--not all thoughts should be listened to, especially if they're negative and all they carry is a poke to your self-esteem. These can't be turned off entirely, but they can be
challenged. Even if you can't challenge the people currently, you can
always challenge the thoughts that you mull on. And that's usually the first step to actually getting anywhere. Challenging these things is the spirit and core essence of how thoughts work--conceptual knowledge is based on what we first sense, then what we perceive (give meaning to what we sense), then how we apply it after processing that information. You don't have to believe negative thoughts just because you thought about it. There's no limitation to what one can think other than limitations to what one is exposed to.
I mean, what's the sense of striving to be a bad person because 'that's what's expected of you'? When that becomes the main idea in mind, that's time for reflection. It's demeaning to be expected to be a bad person. Maybe they're just (roughly or indirectly) describing how you acted back then. Sometimes certain people tell you you're a bad person because they don't know how to directly approach attitude. Sometimes they tell you that because they want you to be aware of your actions. Many ways how to see that: It's bound to context. :O
Because personally, if I believed that paragraph there one bit, I wouldn't be here to say any of this.
I'm barraged by thoughts of condescending ideas, being self-criticized that my work ain't good enough, touched by notions that I won't ever be seen as I am, and to all of that I say Nu. Because at least, in my thoughts--which applies for anything being told to me since it always needs to get processed in thoughts--that's where I can control and understand what I see.
You can make your own expectations too, y'know.
And they don't have to align with what others tell you if what others tell you is basically less than who you really are.
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