Please no quoting, for the usual, fairly obvious reasons:
Kind of an oddball question.
Friend introduced me to another friend. She is awesome and we hang out together with me in cute clothes. There are platonic snuggles and TV/movies. Her fiancee is an engineer and she says he is ok with everything she has told him about: the dresses, the cuddles, the TV watching. We'd all like he and I to meet.
Those of you who know me, know that I've had bad experiences with this in the past, but I believe this guy might actually be different/nice. Simply, my female friends (I'm super gay, etc) inevitably find some guy to be their boyfriend and later husband. For years, many have not liked teh gay (me). Oddly enough, some of the more progressive people have actually been changing their views in a fairly improved way towards the whole GLBT community. That said, there's still a backlash and resistance out there and I'm still very careful. Before all this, once bitten, twice shy. Bitten several times, scarred and paranoid....
When I meet him, he'll probably just be coming home from his engineering job for dinner and his wife and I cook for him. I've actually been sorta helping her out in the kitchen a bit in the past few weeks, and most of the time, I've been in a neat dress (with an apron over it, because who wants food stains). I'm thinking when I meet him the first time, maybe I'll be dressed as a boy...? Basically I just feel vulnerable with how I really am out there, especially around anyone I don't trust or ... don't know.
I believe he might actually be a nice person. Meeting him might be nice, but I'm scared.
Constructive ideas and suggestion?