My mind, heart, biology all says have kids, thus have kids
Naught selfish about it unless you see life as inherently selfish, which it is, but fuck the universe - it doesn't care what you do
"Because I want to" has always seemed like really flimsy reasoning when it comes to the act of having children. Creating a person, who will be depending on you for everything, not just genetics but raising and molding who they are, and then they will live through all the anguishes of life exactly as you are, until they themselves create on offspring or die... the gravity of that choice seems so significant that I'm stunned that people make it so routinely, and at that why pregnancy is heralded at all as a good thing worth celebration.
Shit, if I could go back in time, I'd kill my mother to prevent her from giving birth to me, committing suicide by paradox. She's just always been one of those people who shouldn't have been allowed to have children.
Eugenics as an idea is deplorable, because governmental control of reproduction opens up Pandora's Box of possible long term oppression of the masses, but on the other hand, I can't help but think that a lot of people are born into pointlessly painful and difficult lives, unable to really fully enjoy life or contribute to the society which is partly responsible for their creation, just because society's ideas of childrearing is laissez-faire.
And my those ideas apply to myself and my own potential children as well. Who's to say that because my own upbringing contained no stable father figure, that I'd be an inadequate father, even if I were fully present in my child's life, that I'd simply be incompetent? Is that not unfair to the hypothetical child, who didn't ask to be born?
Who's to say that my own genetics are of any value at all? Why should it be? What makes mine so worthwhile as to be worth perpetuating? I'm not saying adoption is the better option, but it does completely hop over the unlikely but still very possible chance that any child your seed creates simply comes out deformed or sickly. And while I have nothing against handicapped people, accidentally creating one is a worst case scenario, atleast in my mind, I'm probably approaching this from a completely cynical angle though.
Obviously I'm a lot more conflicted on the matter, but I'm a lot more conflicted than most people about a lot of things.