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[Uber dwarf2.0]

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Ok I'm just goona get this outta the way frist.

I am 14 years old, now before you they bay12 community start the your a kid theme take not that
I am fairly mature and I have a pretty high IQ of 122

And I'm a fairly deprissed/Unfun or Strict person

And yes I'am bad at english, it is not my frist language,and I realize this
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 So if your still reading I hope you can help me on this one. Ok well I recently started likeing this person at the start of Grade nine.I already got rejected in grade 7 by someone else.So I'm  coming out of the turtle shell once again.

 Ok well I guess I'll start off with a run-down of our 2 personalitys. Well she's kina like anyone else who's in the age range.Incase your not up to date, the common people enjoy music,ipods,"personalized" goods, Material Possesions.To be perfectly honest, I think she's kina lonely.She has friends, but I don't really think she goes with the "group" very often.I normaly see her alone in all of my classes that I have with her.
 
 I myself, I would cosider myself to be dedicated,Deprissed, and in most cases mature.I don't really feel comfortable talking anymore about my self being a pretty damn humble person(Irony).Well theres not much else to say other than I'm a different race, I would be considered fat by some, and I wouldn't consider my self sane.

 Well I really just looking for advice on introductions and how to get past the the emotional block.By emotional block I mean that being one that isn't exactly very happy or emotional.Come to think of it I didn't really feel anything different when a relative died a year ago.I'm a frontal person, and I don't really like giving small hints to my emotions but then again I think it'd be Strange if I just ancouced it publicly.

[zchris13]

Don't worry about it.  You need to be friends first.

[Broose]

Well, you do not seem very interesting, you said you are not physically appealing, and asking for advice like this on the internet is not very mature, so idk what you really have going for you, here.

[Uber dwarf2.0]

Well, you do not seem very interesting, you said you are not physically appealing, and asking for advice like this on the internet is not very mature, so idk what you really have going for you, here.

Well if your not going to help then don't post, or argue after posting something helpful

Plus I find that the bay12 Community a smarter better one, And I'm guessing you found your way here through the Facepunch Dwarf fortress thread?

[ChairmanPoo]

ladder theory.

[Uber dwarf2.0]

ladder theory.

That google search was nice? 

[Dasleah]

A magic fairy will come down and change everything for you.

Spoiler (click to show/hide)

But seriously, the only way anything is going to happen is if you - and only you - actually do something. If you're depressed, then for god's sake go to the doctor and get help about. Depression is not something you just 'get over' and sitting in the corner hoping it goes away or fixes itself will simply make things worse.

Secondly, and you may find this hard to believe, but you are not a unique snowflake. Nearly everyone has been where you are now, and often quite worse. You are not 'insane' and even if you were this is not a badge of honour to place upon yourself in some vague attempt to convince us that you're special. You are a 14 year old who wants to have a relationship. We have all been there.

The only way you will ever get to establish any kind of relationship with this girl - or any girl, ever, in the entire history of your life and existence - is to try. Do not sit and pine. Do not tell yourself 'tomorrow' or 'later'. If you want to go and talk to her, then go and talk to her. You are the one wanting to establish the relationship, not her, so you're the one who is going to have to do something about it.

And you know what? It's hard. It's embarrassing. It's awkward and uncomfortable and it's not safe or guaranteed in anyway whatsoever. You might get hurt, you might not. You're going to feel like you need to throw up and run away, and after that first sentence falls out of your mouth, you're going to regret it and hate it and despise it. You'll want to say all the right things and hate yourself for saying them.

This is all perfectly normal. Welcome to life.

And after you've said those first few words, you wait. If she responds positively, then good for you. You've jumped the first barrier. And if not, oh well. Don't sit and judge and pine and cry about it. It'll hurt, sure. Fuck, you'll feel like dying. But it's meant to. Rejection is something we all fear but have to learn to live with. You will be rejected thousands more times in your life, no matter how awesome you think you are, or you actually are. You will be rejected for any number of reasons - they don't want to, they're already with someone else, they don't like you, etcetera.  But one day, someone somewhere won't reject you.

And then you'll die a thousand deaths a week just to make them happy.

This, again, is perfectly normal. Welcome to life.

[Uber dwarf2.0]

A magic fairy will come down and change everything for you.

Spoiler (click to show/hide)

But seriously, the only way anything is going to happen is if you - and only you - actually do something. If you're depressed, then for god's sake go to the doctor and get help about. Depression is not something you just 'get over' and sitting in the corner hoping it goes away or fixes itself will simply make things worse.

Secondly, and you may find this hard to believe, but you are not a unique snowflake. Nearly everyone has been where you are now, and often quite worse. You are not 'insane' and even if you were this is not a badge of honour to place upon yourself in some vague attempt to convince us that you're special. You are a 14 year old who wants to have a relationship. We have all been there.

The only way you will ever get to establish any kind of relationship with this girl - or any girl, ever, in the entire history of your life and existence - is to try. Do not sit and pine. Do not tell yourself 'tomorrow' or 'later'. If you want to go and talk to her, then go and talk to her. You are the one wanting to establish the relationship, not her, so you're the one who is going to have to do something about it.

And you know what? It's hard. It's embarrassing. It's awkward and uncomfortable and it's not safe or guaranteed in anyway whatsoever. You might get hurt, you might not. You're going to feel like you need to throw up and run away, and after that first sentence falls out of your mouth, you're going to regret it and hate it and despise it. You'll want to say all the right things and hate yourself for saying them.

This is all perfectly normal. Welcome to life.

And after you've said those first few words, you wait. If she responds positively, then good for you. You've jumped the first barrier. And if not, oh well. Don't sit and judge and pine and cry about it. It'll hurt, sure. Fuck, you'll feel like dying. But it's meant to. Rejection is something we all fear but have to learn to live with. You will be rejected thousands more times in your life, no matter how awesome you think you are, or you actually are. You will be rejected for any number of reasons - they don't want to, they're already with someone else, they don't like you, etcetera.  But one day, someone somewhere won't reject you.

And then you'll die a thousand deaths a week just to make them happy.

This, again, is perfectly normal. Welcome to life.

Hmm good post, I take that your basing this off the norm of people? Other than that your post is very biased towards a Normal view from a older view point.

"Secondly, and you may find this hard to believe, but you are not a unique snowflake. Nearly everyone has been where you are now, and often quite worse. You are not 'insane' and even if you were this is not a badge of honour to place upon yourself in some vague attempt to convince us that you're special."

 Quite Frankly I can Argue that I'm any different from any Dedicated Commie, Now from your point of view I stating that I'm special because I'm having a delimma, and but insane I mean I do indeed have certain mental issues not the Normal "OMG" Fad kind.An example would be my many OCDs such as symmetry, another one would be that fact I support certain things most of you would find shocking.I won't state what I support as that is a breach into a subject which many of you a familar with.

 "Now from your point of view"

See what I did there? I thought over your side to some degree so I can form something that would relate better to you.I realize that I sound like an asshole right now but I do enjoy responding to your posts when you have something decent to say. I have to say that some of the errors that manifested were started by errors within my frist post. The biggst one would most likey be were you got the idea of I'm unique, I stated that I do indeed have out-of-the-ordinary issues but then again everybody has them.

Now would you care to write a brutaly honest opinion about how I should introduce myself?

[Makrond]

"Hey. My name's X." Smile. Look friendly and open.

Really there's no magic words you can say that will make another person glow all warm and fuzzy inside. There's no 'secret' way to introducing yourself that will get you 'in'. You just... introduce yourself. Start talking about the common situation you're in. Crack a joke at the teacher's expense if you can; in school, they love it.

Other than that, keep the weird shit to a minimum. Try not to get too far ahead of yourself. Keep things flowing naturally and smoothly - eventually, she'll either like you or reject you.

Honestly, it's the same as talking to anyone else, it's just eventually you specifically ask to see the person again, somewhere you might both enjoy and be able to talk. They might say no, but like Dasleah said, it's not the end of the world, no matter how much it feels like it.

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An example would be my many OCDs such as symmetry, another one would be that fact I support certain things most of you would find shocking.

Protip: OCD is hardly a unique and special disorder. And if people didn't support ideas that some people would find shocking, then these ideas would hardly enter the public consciousness at all. Neither of these make you any less than sane. Best advice I can give you regarding this is don't bring it up if you don't have to; being one of those vocal morons who just has to mention they have OCD and 'outrageous' viewpoints whenever it seems even vaguely appropriate isn't going to win you any friends. Not that I'm saying you are, but it always helps to try and avoid that kind of behaviour.

[ChairmanPoo]

yeah, if you think you have defects and/or polemical opinions, just dont bring them up. They´ll find enough defects by themselves, I assure you.

[Hippoman]

Holy shit. Your me cept not english, bigger, and know your iq.

Im 14, Im in 9th grade, I got regected in 7th grade... I dont consider myself sane... such and more. WTF.

Besides that heres my advice:
I just hope for the best for her. Cuz i'll never actually get her.

[Jackrabbit]

Well, you do not seem very interesting, you said you are not physically appealing, and asking for advice like this on the internet is not very mature, so idk what you really have going for you, here.

Harsh man, damn.

[zchris13]

Eh, It's not that big a deal. Just remember that everything you think from the ages of 14-16 or so is totally and irreparably tainted by the testosterone blasting through your system.

TLDR: think with your head, not you balls.

[Vester]

Speaking as someone who doesn't have

balls

Don't worry about love or getting a girlfriend. I have no idea why guys tend to fret about this so much when it technically doesn't matter. Just take things as they go.

Also: zchris13 has very sound advice.

[Jackrabbit]

You can still remember that age range, right? Thinking with your head is damn hard when this little git downstairs keeps stealing all the blood.

Still, I can't really say anything apart from the over clichéd 'be yourself'. Possibly because I have never been rejected ever except by this one girl in 5th grade I didn't even know. I'm just jammier than a jam bun made of jam. Still, I know rejection is coming, it happens to everyone. Echoing what Dasleah said, you'll either be successful, or be rejected, have to deal with it and you will move on. Just be confident. You would not believe the shit I had to go through to learn that. Well, probably you would. It's just like the shit everyone else in the world went through to gain confidence, actually.