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[Muz]

Yeah, she wanted a platinum + diamond ring. So expensive boring. That was why I posted. Good suggestions throughout the thread though, she's taken a liking to some of the gems some of you suggested, which weren't as boring as diamond.

Rings are an ego thing, though, and an ego thing that lasts (hopefully) forever. She's a social type and has a lot of friends who get married, and they hang around together and compare whose got nicer rings, who has cuter babies, and who got pregnant first. Giving her a nice wedding ring is not necessary, but her getting one is a great ego boost, something like a geek winning a gold medal at some computer games tournament.

Where I come from, to put it rather bluntly, even poor people get gold wedding rings. Culturally, giving her anything worth less is sort of an insult. Anyway, it's a once in a lifetime thing, and not too much more expensive than a computer, so I'd say that it's good value for money.

[Rilder]

it's a once in a lifetime thing,

You hope, at least. 

[Strife26]

Which ones did she like?

[Neonivek]

Platnum!?!

Ok honestly... I am starting to think people's taste in jewelry is determined almost purely by how expencive the material is.

Platnum is expencive but it isn't the most beautiful metal in existance.

Edit addition: I will say it honestly makes me mad.

[Muz]

Which ones did she like?

Still likes titanium, because she values things by how tough they are, and I think she expected them to be more expensive than platinum. But I managed to convince her that white gold is prettier, because it is.

She has a thing for the pink, purple gems. Tourmaline, amethyst, sapphire (even blue sapphire). I think there were a few other ones, but I decided on choosing between those

Ok honestly... I am starting to think people's taste in jewelry is determined almost purely by how expencive the material is.

Isn't that pretty much the whole point of it? Jewelry's a bit of a show of wealth.. if you wanted to look pretty, there's always nice clothes, nice haircuts, or a cool tattoo

[Armok]

Have you considered tungsten?

[Deon]

Yeah, she wanted a platinum + diamond ring. So expensive boring. That was why I posted. Good suggestions throughout the thread though, she's taken a liking to some of the gems some of you suggested, which weren't as boring as diamond.

Rings are an ego thing, though, and an ego thing that lasts (hopefully) forever. She's a social type and has a lot of friends who get married, and they hang around together and compare whose got nicer rings, who has cuter babies, and who got pregnant first. Giving her a nice wedding ring is not necessary, but her getting one is a great ego boost, something like a geek winning a gold medal at some computer games tournament.

Where I come from, to put it rather bluntly, even poor people get gold wedding rings. Culturally, giving her anything worth less is sort of an insult. Anyway, it's a once in a lifetime thing, and not too much more expensive than a computer, so I'd say that it's good value for money.

Sorry, I hope I don't offend you with this post .
1) Comparing the rings... Comparing the babies... Man what the hell? It should be private, and YOUR baby is always the best, and YOUR husband is the only one... How can such things be compared? I find it to be too cynical for my thinking. Again, a wedding ring is something personal, not a usual jewelry.
2) a platinum + diamond ring? It's fine if you work in a big company and fly in planes... If not, she should understand that she will LIVE with you after you give her the ring, and those money could be spent on better food, clothes and baby toys.
3) "even poor people get gold wedding rings"? Where I live even poor people get gold wedding rings too, and rich ones too. When does the gold become a cheap metal? I mean, there're those big fancy golden rings worth thousands of bucks too. Moreover, platinum is something less good than gold for a jewerly, it may be more expensive, but I think that more beautiful is better than more expensive. Also a phrase "I love you" inside of the ring is more important than a diamond outside >.<.

Well, it's just my opinion and I am sure that there's a lot of things why you chose her (except for jewelry tastes? ) so I can't be a judge here. But I am a bit terrified how much you will spend on a wedding dress . Oh and a haircut for the bride, these things cost a lot too now.

P.S. If you can afford an expensive ring though, then don't listen to me. Buy her the ring she wants, and you will avoid the grumbling for the rest of your life about "cheap ring" . I kinda don't know your status, when I married I was a student living in my mom's apartment, so I had to work on 2 jobs to pay for the ring, dress and wedding celebration .

[Muz]

Yeah, I considered tungsten, but in terms of value and looks, I sort of prefer titanium to it.

Ah, Deon, it's a bit of a cultural thing, hard to explain, but I'll try. Not meant as a flaming post, just an interesting topic about different culture..

Where I come from, weddings and divorces are easy. Anyone could get legally married in half an hour, with a minimum of three random guests. Divorces are even easier; there has been a case where someone sent "I'm divorcing you if you don't listen to me" via SMS and it was legally recognized.

Having an expensive wedding sorta implies that she's worth the effort and the more spent on the wedding, the less likely it is for them to get divorced. Obviously, this is rarely true, but it's how people view it. Having a cheap wedding is kinda looked down upon, and I know at least one criminal case where the bail was reduced because the man wanted to pay for his wedding.

1) The comparing babies thing is a bit of an in-joke, but it sort of implies that whoever has the cutest baby has the cutest husband and thus, got the best catch. Wedding ring here is not exactly very personal.. it's sort of like showing how much the husband loves her.

2 and 3) Well, I have yet to meet a girl who didn't want anything less than a platinum + diamond.. this whole thread was about something prettier but cheaper Here, old people have a lot of gold bling bling, literally gold earrings, necklaces, bracelets, ankle bands, rings on all their fingers. Gold is a tacky material that went out of fashion a generation ago. It's the stuff that cheap coins are made of. An "I love you" phrase on the ring are empty words, an expensive-looking gem proves those words far more than any phrase.

It's difficult to even say how much an expensive wedding is worth. Some people work hard just so they can get a big house, a luxury car, an ivy league education for their kids. A luxurious wedding is on that list, but it's far cheaper than the others. In a highly simplified sense, it's the cheapest kind of happiness money can buy.


I'm pretty much working my ass off to pay for the whole wedding too, lol. But purely financially, I see it this way.. in marrying her, I get a lot of the wealth she already has, so it's not a bad deal XD

[Neonivek]

You want more expencive and pretty?

Hmmm, well not strictly impossible it will require some research on my part. For example you could use Meteoric Gold/Platnum that went through Cryogenic treatment.

As for Gems that will require more research but to my knowledge there are plenty of gemstones that are more expencive then regular diamonds (though I think those are also Diamonds)

Though I guess if you use a Saphire Band made of Pure Saphire it would raise the price a bit (what was her birthstone again?)