I was going to post an example but there are no words to express the feeling I get every time I find someone is fanatically religious.
Same. Also when I encounter someone fanatically anti-religious.
oppressive and demented
I hereby red flag you as hopelessly aggressive towards anything of religious affiliation, but I'll try to explain this to you in baby steps from the beginning, and for the benefit of others. Ready?
There are many kinds of people. You are one. You don't need the "training wheels" we've discussed. Many people were either born knowing or came to realize that they are the kind of person that can do without. Not everyone can do without, however. Are you really telling me that everyone you've ever met actually "grew up"? I know many of these people that instinctively stuff their heads under a pillow to get away from reality when left to their own devices. These people really do exist. I'm not kidding you. When you take away the pillow and force reality on them, they break. I've seen it before. It's not pretty. I'm kind of happy for those people that can stay happy by stuffing their heads under a rock because they can be happy. I'm kind of happy for anyone that can be happy by trying not to stuff their head under a rock because they too can achieve happiness. I am not happy for anyone who tries to ruin that for either.
The people have a natural impulse to share their revelation with all of those around them, whether aggressively or passively. That I do not find a good idea. You disrupt the people that are of the other kind. It is destructive, inconsiderate, selfish, rude, and pointless. Mostly, it's pointless because when left to their own devices the kind of people you are trying to create by sharing your revelation are more than capable of coming to it themselves. You need not take any action at all really. They find it themselves.
As both of these peoples go through their lives, yes, I do agree with you that science makes it nicer. I'm not arguing with that. Every time you say that religion makes people die at the age of 30 and makes for a shitty life and uneducated people, that is religion used incorrectly. I'm not pushing for that sort of extremeness. Religion is a cushion to be used by those that want it for life's destination. As I said before, if anyone is intentionally making their lives shorter or miserable in the name of religion, they probably should be dying off quicker anyway. Both are to make life nicer. Same goal. There only real incompatibility is in your head. It really is.
Science and religion have co-existed since cavemen made fire. They don't oppose each other unless directed by people like LeafSnail. Islam did, as posted before, fully encourage science and much classic science wouldn't have flourished without Islam. Monks have saved countless documents of scientific knowledge, studied and replicated them, during times of turmoil such as the dark ages. Has religion ever opposed science? Yes it has. That I won't argue with. However, do realize that was only when run by extremists. List any examples you like, they'll all come from the all-controlling Catholic church or small-scale nutcases/cults. I don't support religion that opposes science to actually impede it (though this does depend on the morality involved in the science.)
You see a few scratches and rust spots and discard the whole wrench. That is very primitive. Ever hear "science is a tool"? Same thing for religion. You look at things like the old Catholic church or Scientology, and please go ahead and oppose that. The tool is being used incorrectly. However, do recognize that what you find distasteful is the usage, not the tool itself.
So what do I want you to do?
1) sssssSSSSSSHHHHHHHHH! Leave people to find what fits.
2) Learn to respect. Not all that glitters is gold, but not all with imperfections is worthless. If you're not a moderate, you're not doing it right.