I don't see what's wrong with alcohol. Fact is beer was used instead of drinking water.
But you must remember, the beer back then was WAY WEAKER. Getting drunk just by drinking it like water would work.
Also it didn't taste as good.
(Personally I find the taste disgusting. Modern beer that is.)
Now wine, wine is different. It was used as a luxury drink through the ages. Again, not really the source of drunk roughhousing.
About limbs. I see no reason to remove that. After all, no graphical representation pretty much means the censor has to lay off. Besides, good way to teach about medieval combat and medicine. The best thing they could do about severed limbs is wait. Organ damage would also help them imagine combat and be imaginative. I'm sure all of us are smarter than the idiots who say "Watching murder makes you murder."
Don't forget geology. Dwarf Fortress is great for teaching geology. The only flaw I can think off the top of my head is that Gypsum is white. Not yellow.
Adamantine has to be removed honestly. We can't have those demons and a super metal made out of diamonds.
Above ground living has to be improved. We have workshops don't we? How about creating house models? You could build a "House" or "Room" that way. I'm for the room idea. You make a small house with the current walling system, then build the rooms. Dining rooms. Bedrooms, etc.
Don't forget to make mining slower. It's way too fast.
Skill gain needs a nerf too.
A school in the game would be awesome. But that's a backburner project.
Today One could probably give us a "School" version of the game by fixing the source code and removing the hardcodded love to alcohol.
Blood needs to be less graphical. One or two tiles stained is fine. Have the pool be harder to make.
No flying stuff. We don't need stuff flying 50 feet because they got hit and then slam into a tree. Remove that.
Weapons need to be restricted to swords, maces, crossbows and longbows.
Armor is fine.
We need to overhaul the clothes system as a whole.
Give humans a human like tileset. Something friendly to kids who don't want to memorize ASCII like us. (I once dreamt a big yellow C was attacking somebody ans he was yelling "HELP! A COUGAR!")
Wood dependacy and quarry mining.
Faster wall deconstruction.
Faster healing from yellow wounds.
That's all I can think off from the top of my head.
I'd love to teach MY kids with DF... That is... If DF still exists in 15 years. (Being optimistic
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