Well you gave a canned history of the conflict and said that the winning side tried to leave the other alone when that’s absolutely not the case. There were settlements in Gaza before Israel pulled out (literally dragging out the settlers in some cases) and the first arrests made under administrative detention were Gazan youths doing the horrible crime of being unemployed young men.
No, the settlement came AFTER the Six Day War, after Israel annexed the regions, so that was in a different part of the timeline than "tried to leave the other alone". That may still be a little editorializing, as there are border disputes during that period where it's not clear who shot first, but the overall sentiment at the time seems to have been in that direction.
Intersettlement would only really work when there aren’t extremists calling for the blood and/or property of the other side. Unfortunately those are the people in charge on both sides. Until that changes (lol) nothing else will.
As I said, it takes generations.
ETA:
You know, let me add something else. The main position I have in this thread, and I think Strongpoint would agree, is that there's this really widespread vague idea out there, including from some people here, that because Israel does and has done some bad things, the people there
deserve to be attacked by Hamas. While many people certainly think that outright, even more have a tendency to allow, passively, that argument to lodge in their brains and color their thinking without acknowledgement. This is the thing I find appalling. The Israelis, even the ones who completely support their government doing bad things, don't
deserve to be attacked by Hamas any more than the Palestinians, even the ones who completely support
their quasi-government doing bad things,
deserve to be attacked by Israel. And when you honestly compare the tactics of the two, Hamas really does come off the worse, not that it even matters much. Even if Israel stops doing bad things, Hamas will still want to eradicate Israelis. Israel, on the other hand, has historically shown again and again that they do not want to eradicate Palestinians, even if they don't like them very much. Hamas has clearly indicated they have no interest in any kind of two-state solution or even a ceasefire; Israel accepted a two-state solution that was
more favorable to Palestine in the first place and has repeatedly acceded to ceasefires. As I keep pointing out, Israel wanting to be rid of neighbors who have shown them nothing but hostility over and over again bears an awful lot of resemblance to Ukraine and the Russians - yes, including the "settlements", just as Ukraine tried to encourage the Ukrainization of the Donbass. I just want to see these nuances acknowledged.