The important difference is immutable traits. Wanting to get rid of people because they have a certain amount of melanin in their skin is very different from wanting to get rid of people because they want to get rid of people with a certain amount of melanin in their skin. Just like wanting to restrain someone and lock them in a room for sexual stuff is very different from wanting to restrain someone and lock them in a room for wanting to restrain someone and lock them in a room for sexual stuff. Racism and hatred of racism are not equal beliefs.
If it's okay to kill or imprison someone for wanting things you think are bad, then everyone gets that privilege.
Let me put it like this. It's a major pillar of Christian philosophy, really kind of fundamental, that being "cut off" from God is worse than death. Infinitely worse, actually. So, following the reasoning of Rolan7 and Name Thief™, any Christian could easily argue that being an atheist, which implies wanting people to be cut off from God, is
inherently violent just by existing, so atheists should be murdered or imprisoned to stop them from spreading their vile violent rhetoric.
I realize people like Rolan7 and Max™, and quite possibly you, won't get this, because those Christians are
wrong and wrong people don't get to have parity, but I just can't manage the same kind of ultra-macho absolutism that they both do. I demand a certain amount of humility in my own belief system.
ETA: Oh yeah, since Rolan7 asked. The difference in perspective is really simple:
ideas and opinions are never violence. Violence is violence. Saying anything else can be violence, frankly, cheapens violence. Enacting violence, under the cutesy euphemism of "organizing" just like Russia "organizes against" Ukraine, against people who haven't touched you because you believe they might want to murder you in your paranoid fetish fantasy does, actually, make you the violent one. And it's hilarious that you think I like cops.