I remember maniac was a big proponent of "Fuck them, their views are horrific and we shouldn't even include them in the conversation because that gives them some sort of validity."
And yet "they" are still here and their president was elected. IMO it's not that you have to honor their shitty misbegotten politics or opinions. You have to however allow them their place on the stage. They can speak to their base and convince some who want to be convinced of something that their view is right. But by and large they still have to exist in the same sphere as everyone else. They need societal acceptance just like everyone else if they want their politics to triumph, or even exist. Letting them have their place and have their say, terrible as it is, is the opportunity they have to change people's mind
against them as much as for them. That can't even happen when you shut them out of the conversation entirely. They get to be the silent, unspoken, unknown minority/majority and because this is America, their lack of representation gives them a strength greater than any correctness or righteousness their views might hold. That "centrist" bit of either informed but balanced people, or uninformed people who haven't/can't pick a side, are both waiting for the first extreme side to reveal themselves to be an asshole so they can be against them, because they can't grapple with actually taking a stance and alienating either side, so they dive all over anything they can categorically say they find unacceptable because it's "safe" to do so.
TLDR: "You" (generic you) become the asshole when you try to deny them a right to participate, not them. You have to not be the asshole so you give them the opportunity to show themselves to be assholes. You have to let them spew their poison out in the open where it can correctly sicken people, instead of giving it the blessing of First Amendment martyrdom.
I feel like I'm digging myself into a hole here I don't necessarily want to deal with... But whatever, we'll see how it turns out.
I've been staring at my post for about 10 minutes trying to decide if I want to say it or not. Fuck eeeetttttttttttttttttt.