'Mansplaining' to me pretty much encapsulates to me why Americans can't talk to each other anymore. It's a belief that's in the eye of the beholder and it can't really be refuted by the person accused of it. They can talk to you in the most neutral, non-judgmental or condescending way possible and if someone wants to keep calling it mansplaining, what are you honestly going to say to change their mind?
Extend this level of "I know what I know and I know what I mean" thinking to say, Trump. You can present him data all day but because he believes differently, and the content of that belief is utterly subjective, he can stand by his beliefs that 'the country has been going downhill' or 'there's some nasty people out there doing nasty things' or whatever vague idea he wants to tout.
I feel like we as political body had a hell of a lot more respect for basic facts in the past, and we were able to separate tone and condescension from facts. Now "feels" and "facts" are fluidly interchangeable in people's minds, and when you actually tell people to hold to facts and not feelings, you're either just told to shut the fuck up or you get a token acknowledgement that yes, there are facts, before someone goes flying right back into their feelings and belief-based arguments.
It's like, before you really only had to contend with religious people trying to debate like this seriously and in the open. Their whole belief system and arguments are based on unproveable beliefs, and they'd take that realization into any argument and generally not walk away having changed anyone's minds or given their own beliefs any new validity in the minds of others. (Creationists are the primary example of this.) Since at the end of the day, most of us rely on facts to sort out how we should feel about x, y and z, things like "I believe an invisible power made the earth and all the animals in 7 days" didn't tend to go very far with us, versus the mountains of scientific data that we're far more willing to trust because it involves rigor and not belief. Believing shit is easy. Proving it takes work.
But I feel like somewhere right around 2000 the religious right realized that not being bound to facts can be a benefit in our media-frenzied world. (I feel like Bush's know-nothing attitude, and his rejection of scientific knowledge as a basis for governance was the start of this. I.e. climate change.) Nobody is taking the time to establish what actually is anyways before they open their mouth. If you're not beholden to facts to make your point, you don't even have to argue on their level, you can argue a level or more lower and twice as loud. This attitude that belief overrules facts kept picking up steam in the Bush years and went into fucking overdrive when Obama was elected and many were willing to believe just about anything about him without a shred of evidence. See: birther claims as a mild example.
Now some elements of the left have taken up the same attitude. I guess if you feel like you can't beat em, join em? You can't prove someone is or isn't 'mansplaining" to you, because if they're a man and they're 'splaining, well, they're mansplaining. So if you convince yourself you're being condescended to, in your head you're the only arbiter of what is or isn't happening since that's the only thing you give a shit about listening to. And there will be no shortage of shortsighted people to agree with you and reinforce your echo chamber, and drown out the people telling you to clean the selfish out of your ears and fucking listen.
Sometimes I just wish everyone were willing to admit, humbly, that they can be wrong, or that they were wrong. Even about stuff that's important to them. To suck up the shame, the loss of power, the disgrace of having to climb out of the hole they dug themselves, and just fucking grow a little.
Hell, I told Neonivek straight up in the Shadow of War thread that he was wrong about Saruman being able to forge a ring of power if given enough time. Totally couldn't believe it, wouldn't. But it ate at me. Was I wrong? Did I do him a disservice by dismissing him? It bugged me until I hit google and looked it up and found out he was right. And I could have sat on that knowledge and just continued with my internal and external belief that he was wrong.....but I didn't. I went back to the thread and said "you know, you were right."
If everyone in America were eating a regular dose of humble pie and learning how to live with it, we might actually be able to get this fucking country back to some sort of political functionality again, instead of this hot mess we've put together.