Or, again, just have the same standards for paternity leave.
That way companies are indirectly incentivized to only employ nonsexed robots; just as nature intended.
Having the same standards doesn't change anything. For example, in
Sweden a couple gets 390 paid childcare days. 60 days is reserved for the dad only. So 330 days can be used by
either parent. Dad's average 3 months total leave, of which 2 months are the mandatory dad-only ones, so effectively, dads only use 10% of the optional amount of leave, with the mother using 90%. Nobody is forcing couples to use the leave in that manner: most of those 390 paid days are available to either parent. The standards, in Sweden, are already equal. This is just the decision that most Swedish couples make.
This is why the cost of leave needs to be spread across all workplaces if you don't want the cost of the leave exacerbating the gender wage gap. in this case, it's easy to see how if women are taking 90% of the
government funded optional childcare leave in Sweden, then if Sweden left it up to the companies to pay for leave, then that would tend to increase the wage gap, which would tend to make the decision easier: since the women are working in industries with lower pay scales (caused in part by all the paid leave that the companies are providing) then it would be no-brainer that the woman takes the time off, not the man. You absolutely must spread the costs among all industry sectors if you do not want the paying of childcare leave to economically reinforce the trend of women taking all the childcare leave.
Sure, we can even this out by expanding the dad-only leave to be half - but this would
reduce the amount of time off mothers get. Made "equal" by fucking over mothers and forcing them to leave their children when
they don't want to. And we'd slap ourselves on the back for a "job well done". Or, we could expand the leave so both mother and father get 1 year's paid leave each. Assuming this is affordable, the question would then arise about how
unfair this was to single mothers, since they'd only get 1 year. So, we'd have to give 2 years paid leave to single mothers, for fairness. However, thinking another step forward: what effect would this have on couple's decision-making about whether to get married at all? Couples might find it more advantageous to declare both of them to be "single" and for the mother to get the two years full leave, while the dad works, just like they're deciding to do now. These are the decision real parents already make. If we try and force "equality" laws into people's personal relationships, they'll just find loopholes to get out of them.