See, Boomers are so used to getting their way that that's status quo to them. Getting everything they want is mediocrity, ruling everything is equality. A petty but representative example of this would be Christmas. US toy advertising is designed to manipulate kids into harassing their parents into spending large amounts of money. My impression is that a lot of older working class men in America see/saw Christmas as something stressful they do for the kids. They spend a lot of money, fall off ladders putting up Christmas lights, ect. ect. Its a sacrifice. But if you look at what Christmas actually is in America, its super focused on Boomers. Every song, every Christmas movie is from the 90s. And the narrative around Christmas, of uniting the family and decorating the house, that's what Boomers care about. It doesn't reflect millennial values at all. This isn't to say that Christmas has hurt Millennials exactly. Its more that, to paraphrase Randal Munroe, "every year since the 90s we've been recreating the Christmas of the Boomers' childhood".
Now that I've returned from the wildlands, this (and the relevant xkcd) are very interesting observations. It brings me to a lot of background thoughts I have just about every year on Christmas specifically but also the way holiday culture has changed between the boomers and the millennials due to value drift.
See, I've come to be of two minds about Christmas. When I was young and didn't know anything, I of course got the boomer treatment most exemplified by my grandparents and their demands we visit them and perform all manner of Christmas things. My parents, Gen-Xers, had a certain amount of stress related to this but mostly seemed to accept it as unspoken necessity. The first few Christmases I have memory of mostly fit this platonic ideal of what Christmas is "supposed to be". I get new videogames, I suffer through opening clothes I don't care about, I bake cookies with my grandma...but the cracks were there from the start as well. One memory that stands out is my mother just full bore screaming at my father as he tries to fix the tire on the car in pouring rain, our obscenely large sack of gifts for every extended relative under the sun crowding me out of my seat. Angry drunken murmuring in the days before and after Christmas proper. My parents pushing me for a longer gift list while also complaining about how little money we have left.
As things of this nature went on and I got older, I began to withdraw from all this. The way boomer Christmas portrays things, children want gifts above all else and think of Christmas as the highlight of the year. By the time I was a teenager Christmastime became more of an ordeal than anything else, and I could not care less about the "benefits". I began to "not know what I wanted" for Christmas, which I really did not since all I could think about was the short period between the start of winter break and the beginning of the Christmas week to New Years clusterfuck which was sure to happen. The year of my parents' divorce I genuinely lost track of the date until I saw my father's attempt at Christmas "for me", a two foot plastic tree with a couple of games - and it's not that I didn't appreciate him caring, but that there was a certain banal absurdity to him doing that just for me in a time when I was far happier with proceedings than he was, particularly in the backdrop of "standard Christmases" several years prior and my past apathy towards it. I think I might actually have come to dislike instead of just ignore the holiday in that very moment.
I say all this because I don't think my experience with "Christmas hell" is at all unique, and it comes back to the cultural weight of the boomers, mostly crushing Gen-Xers and being rejected by millennials. The culture of not just Christmas, but the lifescript in general. How people celebrate other holidays, how they have families, how they judge media, how they have vacations...if millennials are disrespectful bohemians then I think Xers might just be driven neurotic and crazy by the personal and collective demands of the boomers, their literal parents. Just think about the whole War on Christmas debacle. The religious aspect of the holiday gets smaller and smaller the further you get away from boomers, and it drives them
fucking nuts, so much so that you get mass social movement over what amounts to pedantry over things like "Happy Holidays" and "keeping Christ in Christmas".
This is why boomers are the generation of perfect marital bliss, the Xers are the generation of divorce and domestic violence, and why millennials are the generation of tinder fuckbuddies and unmarried cohabitation. They're all connected in influence to one another. The boomers place marriage as an ideal, the Xers try way too goddamn hard to live up to it and drive themselves crazy, and the millennials experience this in childhood then understand the whole thing might be fucking bogus, at which point the boomers criticize them as sinful libertines. While the Xers...uh...well from what I've seen all the post-divorce Xers are just trying to party to death or even emulate the millennial style.
My point is, whether Christmas or divorce, you see this ideal-breaking-rejection generational path for a
lot of shit in American culture, and in pretty much everything that people write millennial hit piece articles on. Except the avocado toast, I don't know what that's all about.