Wierd, if I may point you to the spoiler I just posted? You dun gotta reply, but it was largely for you.
a beautiful person is beautiful because they are genuinely transcendent. say, mother theresa. i doubt anyone here without a fetish would say she was physically attractive, but she was a genuinely beautiful person. a person need not be famous to be beautiful like that. a beautiful soul shines through anything.
When she was an appropriate age for the majority of this forum's members, she was pretty dang Conventionally Attractive actually.
That's not to say that she didn't have problematic personality traits and prejudices, according to Shadowlord's link, though. That's unfortunate. :I
Anyway, beauty comes in a lot of forms both internal and external, and either are great.
from your spoiler--
1) i can accept that the first time i meet somebody, and they do it. however, when i tell them that i dont find anyone attractive, they do one of two things, usually. one, they will be cool with it and not ask me about such things again, or two, they will be convinced that i am sexually repressed, and need to be "liberated", or worse still, think if i try it, i will like it. {protip, i have not lived under a rock, and am not a virgin. i dont find sex appealing after trying it. i dont want you to find me a date.}
2) i agree. i also insist on reciprocity. i understand thaat other people are sexual. i want others to reciprocate that understanding, and not wax philosophical about how awesome that gay 4some was last night, and no, i dont want to see pictures. {true story. really happened.}
3) i have seen "the ugly girl" get excluded from everything more often than you can count.
there is also real research that less attractive people get passed up for jobs, get less pay, and get hassled needlessly, despite being better qualified, being more essential to productivity, and being good people. the world fixates on physical hotness way too much, and yes, this demonstrably blinds people.
4) i always try things to see if i do indeed dislike it. the kid refusing the asparagus is not making a decision on known preferences, but instead on "reasons". eg, "asparagus is a vegetable, and vegetaables are gross tasting, so i wont try it, and assert it is gross tasting." this is not the same as "i dont like asparagus", which is a true statement after tryig it, and not liking it.